This discussion is just simply a discussion. It isn't meant to judge anyone or make anyone feel uncomfortable. It's just a collection of musings and thoughts.
So, I was talking to my bestie the other day (He's into tickling, and we've been friends for nearly 20 years), and I was semi- whining about wishing I had someone/ ones on call, just to play with and hang out with whenever. We talked about people paying for play and charging for play, and I realized that THAT aspect of it does seem a bit different if you are a woman. Or maybe it isn't different. Thoughts?
The question was then kinda put out there.
How serious are we really about meeting fellow tickle lovers in public off line?
Would we find it more simple to put ourselves in a position to pay for play if it was easier to indulge/ enjoy with no strings attached?
Or are we willing to take the time to cultivate friendships and relationships to ease the awkwardness of meeting up with someone we do not truly know in real life?
If situations, statuses, relationships change, (as in my case) are we only willing to meet with the same people we have met with in the past? Or not?
Are we comfortable with solely chatting and role playing online? Do we mention meeting one day even while knowing that we probably will not put ourselves out there?
Have we come to the conclusion that we will probably only enjoy this aspect of our lives in a virtual space, or with any real (vanilla) relationship that we encounter?
What are your thoughts and experiences with these questions? Are you serious about meeting members of the tickling community in RL? Yes, No, Maybe?
I know that this post puts everything out there. I know that there are periods of our lives where the answers change over time or mix into a hodgepodge of A, B, C... All of the above....
For me, right at this second- I WOULD be opened to meeting people in my area who are into tickling. It would be great to have friendships with these individuals, but I just don't have the time to invest in these things. Not right now. (Work and real life just takes over.) At the same time, I find the thought of hiring someone for a session intriguing. What would that entail? Where would I even go to look for such a person or book such a session? Would I look for a male? A female? How much is too much? Should I ask for referrals? Would I make it a regularly scheduled session like once a month?
And then there is this thought- Do I actually have to pay to play with someone when I probably could find a friend or a friendly lee/ ler who would enjoy playing with me anyway? Why would I? Would you? Have you?
All these thoughts are fairly interesting to me. So am I really serious about meeting new tickle friends? Or am I content to just chatting every once in awhile online with others? Where do y'all even go outside of TMF and FL? It's been so long that I'm out of practice. ;-)
Do you actively seek people out, or are you waiting for someone to approach and ask you? Honestly, it would be great for THE ANSWER to fall out of the sky. But I was already lucky once. I don't think I'll have that luck again. If I was really honest with what I wanted, I would say that I would love to have someone nearby to call like a booty call, but for tickling.
LOL LOL
Me: Man, work was rough today. I need to laugh. What are you doing?
You: Getting in the car! I'll be there in 15 minutes.
Me: Do you want me to cook something?
You: We can eat afterwards. Just got my nails done. Are you scared?
Me: No, but you should be. I'll be in the shower. Let yourself in.
LMAO- Listen, but at least I'm clear on what I want. Will I get it? Probably not. :-D But... I guess I'm ok with that too. For now.
Thoughts?
