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Married with a Tickle Fetish

Kalesie had no clue there was a tickling fetish before I met her. One of our 1st convos was about my website and our community and she was very interested and accepting.
Now shes a convert and one of us. To say I'm lucky is an understatement but if she wasnt into it I wouldn't have married her.

Funny part is that she started as a Lee and found out she enjoyed Ler'ing more as time went on

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I have been married to my wife for almost 15 years now. When we first got together, she was a bit more adventurous. I was up front with my foot and tickling fetish and she was accepting of it, even letting me tie her up once. As the years have passed, she continues to be accepting of my interest in her feet and indulges me in most areas, save for one. She's never really enjoyed being tickled, but would indulge me by letting me tickle her feet briefly from time to time. The past few years, however, she shuts it down immediately. There are times during a massage, or when I'm licking her soles or sucking her toes that I tickle her by accident. Her feet flinch, but there's no laughter. Of course I don't force the issue and respect her boundaries, but it still makes me sad at times that I can't be intimate with her in that way. I'm mostly a Ler, but also enjoy being a Lee. However, unless it's reciprocal, I don't enjoy being tickled. In the past, I have put up with her tickling me when she seems in the mood to do so, thinking that I might build up some "tickling credits," but have found it doesn't work like that. I have almost come to the decision that I need to shut down any instances of her tickling me as it makes me uncomfortable being in a Lee position, if I can't be a Ler as well. Sucks, but that's where I'm at. I don't really like having to resort to tickle porn to scratch that itch, but it is what it is. She would never be okay with me indulging my tickling fetish with another female, so that's off the table. I'm working up to having a convo with her about it. I think I could deal with leaving tickling in the fantasy realm if she truely dislikes it to that degree now, but she will have to be careful of never having her feet in a position to be tickled by someone else (no matter how innocently they see it) because I'm not sure how I would handle that. Even thinking about that happening drives me to the point of rage that scares me. At least I still get to enjoy her feet in other ways, I suppose.
 
A sad situation. I was married to my (extremely attractive physically- give the devil her due) second wife for around seven years, and that was one of the things that shut her down completely. Like your wife she was a bit more adventurous in our early years but that ended very soon. In our divorce she was nice enough to settle for a bit less than she could have claimed legally, agreeing tacitly that she could have made more of an effort. Fortunately there were no children to worry about.

I can't cite myself as an example because KT, my present wife of 14 years just sort of happened when we both were sitting near to one another while searching flatmate sites in a London internet café and got to chatting. She was 22. I was 50 and indigent when we married, she'd just turned 24, and we're still happy together, touch wood.

But if you find yourself 'free' because the two of you decide the marriage can't be saved, I can tell you that sometimes miracles do occur.

Best of luck working things out.
 
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I have been married to my wife for almost 15 years now. When we first got together, she was a bit more adventurous. I was up front with my foot and tickling fetish and she was accepting of it, even letting me tie her up once. As the years have passed, she continues to be accepting of my interest in her feet and indulges me in most areas, save for one. She's never really enjoyed being tickled, but would indulge me by letting me tickle her feet briefly from time to time. The past few years, however, she shuts it down immediately. There are times during a massage, or when I'm licking her soles or sucking her toes that I tickle her by accident. Her feet flinch, but there's no laughter. Of course I don't force the issue and respect her boundaries, but it still makes me sad at times that I can't be intimate with her in that way. I'm mostly a Ler, but also enjoy being a Lee. However, unless it's reciprocal, I don't enjoy being tickled. In the past, I have put up with her tickling me when she seems in the mood to do so, thinking that I might build up some "tickling credits," but have found it doesn't work like that. I have almost come to the decision that I need to shut down any instances of her tickling me as it makes me uncomfortable being in a Lee position, if I can't be a Ler as well. Sucks, but that's where I'm at. I don't really like having to resort to tickle porn to scratch that itch, but it is what it is. She would never be okay with me indulging my tickling fetish with another female, so that's off the table. I'm working up to having a convo with her about it. I think I could deal with leaving tickling in the fantasy realm if she truely dislikes it to that degree now, but she will have to be careful of never having her feet in a position to be tickled by someone else (no matter how innocently they see it) because I'm not sure how I would handle that. Even thinking about that happening drives me to the point of rage that scares me. At least I still get to enjoy her feet in other ways, I suppose.


You both deserve to be happy. You need to have a frank, open discussion about what makes you both happy, where those lines intersect, and what lines can't be crossed. You don't have to agree on everything; you don't have to have the exact same likes and dislikes, but you can't be working against each other in that department, either.

Over the 20+ years I've been married, we have had more than a few open, honest (and scary) conversations about our wants and needs, and because of that, it's only gotten better for us. Our tastes are similar, but not identical (how boring would that be?); frankly, if I felt like it, I could easily call her into my office and have her look at my monitor, to see if she thinks I've left any important points out. I literaly have nothing to hide or be ashamed of. That level of comfort and openness is rare, and it takes a lot of effort, but it's worth it, and I am not the only person on this forum that has it.

You two need to talk. There's no one else in a better position to make you both happy.
 
My second wife uncovered my love of tickling when she figured out the clues I posted on OkCupid. My profile I posted made suggestions without actually using the word, and her first sentence in response mentioned the bad experiences she had in her youth with her sibs restraining her and tickling until she became ill.
I showed her how it could enliven our relationship, and as a switch she has symbolically gotten her revenge against her bro/sisters by immobilizing and tickling me.
And after much training, I’ve taught her how to cum and laugh alternately while enjoying sex.
 
My wife hates being tickled, she tolerated it at first but now just gets annoyed if I attempt it.
 
My wife and I are best friends and we have a very honest relationship. We did not start our relationship by talking about kinks and whether we were kink-compatible. Rather, a few years into the marriage, my wife first brought it up, suggesting we share kinks and fantasies with each other as a way to add some extra fun to the bedroom.

So, we talked! She had never heard of tickling as a fetish, but when I explained it to her, she was intrigued. She said it sounded "adorable," which is pretty much a perfect response!

Now, it has been worked into the spectrum of fun things we do in the bedroom. (It turns out we ARE pretty kink-compatible!!)

She is also aware that I hang out on forums like this and chat with people on the internet. It's not a secret. She has her own forums that she hangs out on for her kinks. She looks up porn or erotica for her interests too. For us, that's not a big deal. Sometimes, we show each other videos or stories or "hey, look what this guy said on this forum!" It's just a part of our relationship.
 
Planning on having that much needed talk with the wife tonight regarding my previous thread post. It's just been awhile since we have had "real talk." I don't magically expect her to turn back into the lass I married; that's not fair to her, we've both changed in a lot of areas. But she at least needs to know what's going on in my head. Praying it only brings us closer.
 
Planning on having that much needed talk with the wife tonight regarding my previous thread post. It's just been awhile since we have had "real talk." I don't magically expect her to turn back into the lass I married; that's not fair to her, we've both changed in a lot of areas. But she at least needs to know what's going on in my head. Praying it only brings us closer.

Well, good for you, man! At the very least, you can say you tried, and you made it clear what you needed.
Rootin' for ya.
 
Two stories here. First marriage no tickling, like so many here. It took me years even to bring it up. But she wasn't into it at all so tickling stayed just a fantasy. We grew apart and ultimately split for unrelated reasons. Back dating again I figured I HAD to try for a real tickle partner, if they exist. Attempted a little tickle with each girl by the second date if not the first. For me only about 20% had fun reactions. Of course, finding someone you're really compatible with is hard. But I got lucky and ultimately succeeded. So there really is hope for anyone!

The girl who became my second wife had no idea there was tickle fetish but turned out to LOVE it. My dream fantasy come true. In the 10 years since, of course, life happened. Stress, illness, and especially kids take a huge toll on any sex life. I still try to tickle her every day. Usually she lets me briefly but is tired. Occasionally something clicks and we still go wild. The point is there really are others out there who like it too - but may not know that yet - and it is possible to find one another. Now if it were only possible to free up more time and get her in the mood more often...
 
Just to quick update so I don't leave anyone who might care hanging:
Had the talk with my wife and it went great! Ultimately we just needed to have an intimate talk period (it's been awhile with the hustle and bustle of everyday life). She's just been going through some stuff that I won't get into here. She said she doesn't mind me tickling her feet at all in general and asked for patience. No problem. I loved hearing her say those words. Until then, she said she loves all the other things I like to do to her feet and is happy that I am so attracted to a part of her that she finds rather unattractive. In retrospect, I think I let my brain get carried away with thinking the worst (as we all sometimes do.) And if there was any doubt before our talk of how important her feet and tickling them is to me, there is zero now.
 
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Just to quick update so I don't leave anyone who might care hanging:
Had the talk with my wife and it went great! Ultimately we just needed to have an intimate talk period (it's been awhile with the hudtle and bustle of everyday life). She's just been going through some stuff that I won't get into here. She said she doesn't mind me tickling her feet at all in general and asked for patience. No problem. I loved hearing her say those words. Until then, she said she loves all the other things I like to do to her feet and is happy that I am so attracted to a part of her that she finds rather unattractive. In retrospect, I think I let my brain get carried away with thinking the worst (as we all sometimes do.) And if there was any doubt before our talk of how important her feet and tickling them is to me, there is zero now.

Good for you, having that tough conversation.
Fortune favors the bold.
 
Just to quick update so I don't leave anyone who might care hanging:
Had the talk with my wife and it went great! Ultimately we just needed to have an intimate talk period (it's been awhile with the hudtle and bustle of everyday life). She's just been going through some stuff that I won't get into here. She said she doesn't mind me tickling her feet at all in general and asked for patience. No problem. I loved hearing her say those words. Until then, she said she loves all the other things I like to do to her feet and is happy that I am so attracted to a part of her that she finds rather unattractive. In retrospect, I think I let my brain get carried away with thinking the worst (as we all sometimes do.) And if there was any doubt before our talk of how important her feet and tickling them is to me, there is zero now.

Congrats Man!!! That's great news!!
 
I came to check to see if there was an update here. I'm so glad to see it worked out well!
 
I think a lot of the problem with "vanilla" spouses is that they're not really "vanilla"; it's just that their mates are so obsessed with what they want, when they want, exactly how they want it, that there's never any room for them to say, "Hey, you know what I really like?..."
It's not that their spouses are boring, it's that they never get a chance to say what they like.

Yes I agree with this almost whole heartedly
 
I'm going to actually make a proposal tonight to her. She LOVES her back massages every night. She's not able to function without them. I'm going to tell her that for every minute I rub her back she has to tickle me.
 
I'm going to actually make a proposal tonight to her. She LOVES her back massages every night. She's not able to function without them. I'm going to tell her that for every minute I rub her back she has to tickle me.

I'm gonna advise against that. You don't want to put a price on doing something a partner likes. Obligation is not sexy.
Make someone feel loved, accepted, and valued, and they will want to do things you like, too.
That goes both ways.
 
Put it this way-

Married a really hot blonde, VERY ticklish, and I mean SUPER ticklish feet....! But she HATED it after she turned like 32-33. She seemed to laugh in her 20's, but I guess she grew out of it or something, I don't know. And after like 14 years, I'm now separated. (Many reasons but that was one of them.)

But I did find an awesome girlfriend who embraces it on both ends...! It's a rare thing to find someone into it I think. My current girlfriend LOVES tickling me, and also likes me tickling her quite a bit. We've tied each other here and there and she had never done anything like that before. So it's possible to sort of introduce it to someone and have it be embraced, but I think it's rare. I went through several women before finding her. I would just put it out there in the early stages and say that "I'm sick of running away from myself now." etc etc.

Don't know if that helps.....
 
Threads like these seem to be very common around here. I type this as a positive since it helps us (the one with the kink) recognize we are not alone. The best advice is summed up in one word: communication.

The manner in which you communicate the message will always depend on your partner’s personality and the details related to the situation. For instance, I’ve been with my wife going on 15 years now. We began dating in the middle of college, a time which i didn’t take the relationship very serious. (I WAS IN MY PRIME!) While i was too embarrassed to completely divulge my love for tickling, i was still able to “effectively promote” other things into our bedroom like, such as light bondage and blindfolds. She was into it, partly because she was young and open to new things and partly because she wanted to make me happy. I was able to incorporate some tickling while exploring those other fun activities.

Once i saw the relationship progress, i just decided to gather up the courage and tell her about my love for tickling. I kind of built it up, starting the conversation with explaining I had a kink but i was too embarrassed to talk about. After some back and forth, I told her (the only person in my direct life that i have ever told). She was relieved to know tickling was the most “kinky” bedroom activity i was into.

So began our venture into my kink. I was obviously ecstatic that i found the perfect combination for me: 1) a partner who i found to be extremely attractive, 2) a partner who was extremely ticklish, 3) a partner who had incredibly attractive feet (big thing for me), and 4) a partner who was cool with me exploring. I had it made.

The only problem was, i was dealing with 20 years of pent up sexual frustration as is pertained to tickling. That led me to become obsessed with it, asking for it anytime we became intimate. This continued through our engagement and transition into adult life. As you can imagine, my wife eventually became tired of the routine. I tried to ask what she was into so i could cater to her but she is as vanilla as ice cream. She kind of grew to resent it. I soon realized the effect it had on her and i back off.

In my head, it was to a point where I felt she was annoyed every time i asked just to be intimate with her. The reality was that other factors, including work, bills, and kids, also played major factors into her mood. It eventually came to the point where i started to resent her. I would get personally offended when she would say no to sex on a Saturday after we talked about having “alone time” through out the week.

Things started happening that made me realize i needed to address it before things spiraled in a bad way. We had an open conversation, where we both voiced what we were feeling. She said that she felt i always tried to do the whole “tickling/foot thing” whenever we tried to have sex. I told her i felt she was no longer attracted to me since she would try to find every excuse not have sex. The conversation was extremely helpful and brought us closer together.

That said, things still needed to be worked on. We began falling into the same pattern as before, minus the arguments. My big thing was her saying no to middle-of-the-week, quick foreplay which would probably last less than five minutes. She said was almost never in the mood because of the toll a weekday would take on her. We had a second conversation and came up with a solution. She would allow me one pure tickle session every month or so and allow me to record it for my personal stash. She keeps the encrypted USB that stores the media to put her mind at ease. Now, if i ever have an urge during the week, i will simply move on to the home movies if she is too tired to have a go.

So far, it’s worked out. Crossing my fingers that luck continues. So, like i mentioned at the start of this long-winded post, COMMUNICATION is the ultimate key. Good luck my friend.
 
I have a tickling fetish and my wife is now prepared to tickle me. We are going to have our first session next weekend at a hotel room where i can be has noisey has I like!!!. She is prepared to indulge in my fetish has it is only recently we discussed it.
 
I have tickled a LOT of men who say their wives/gf do not indulge in the fetish.

Have that sit-down talk about enjoying tickling before you get married if you have had that fetish all your life and know that desire won't change. This is especially true if you are into m/m tickling.
 
I learned the hard way if you have a spouse that will not give you what makes you happy and previously did so in the beginning and just stops with no compromise it’s time to move on. Going through that now. I can tell you the next relationship has to be give and take. And if your kink is really that important either party should try to indulge each others needs
 
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