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How to live a more satisfying life?

simon55

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Hi everyone,

Long-time reader, first-time contributor. I won't bore you all with my full life story, but essentially:

I'm in my late 20s and I would say I've lived a somewhat frustrating and unsatisfying life... Tickling has been a big part of who I am since I can remember, yet my only real-world experience of it has been playful tickles with plutonic female friends or girls I've been interested in. Other than that, my only gratification has been through watching porn.

My romantic life has been a disaster - no partners. Plenty of attempts, but nothing ever stuck. I'm still trying in the hope that I'll get better at dating.

And sexually... well, I've just come around to the realisation that I'm probably asexual, in the sense that I have no interest in conventional sex, and never have. I've wanted to be in a relationship, but sex has never been a desire. My few sexual encounters ended with nothing happening, due to a complete lack of arousal.

So that's where I find myself today. And I'm hoping that some kind soul on this forum could offer their advice on: How best to go about living a life that is fun, meaningful, satisfying and (very importantly) allows me to indulge in tickling beyond what I described above?

Any suggestions and shared experiences would be kindly appreciated. It took me a while to build up the confidence to post this thread, but I am planning on being a more active contributor in this community going forwards.

Much love in advance.
 
How to live a more satisfying life....


1. Stay away from drugs and alcohol (nothing good comes out of a night being wasted, only a great deal of regret and embarassment)
2. Stay out of bars (this goes along with avoiding alcohol, but in general, the bar scene is not a good place to waste your time and money)
3. constantly educate yourself by taking classes, reading, reading...and more reading (time wasted on here is time you could be learning something useful)
4. Avoid wasting time on social media sites/apps (this one is pretty self-explanatory as it is known to be addictive)
5. Don't get caught up in your fetish (I wasted 20 years of my adult life on fetish forums and fetish sites when I could've been out in the world doing things)
 
What do you do for fun? Find something out with people and meet someone who likes what you're doing. Then basically say what you're actually comfortable with (I'm somewhat similar) and see if you can be happy together.

One thing on conventions.... don't knock it until you've tried it.
 
My first question for you, especially if you're looking for help is: have you considered therapy at all? I've found this to be a tremendous help in my life, in trying to find ways to create a more satisfying life.

It sounds like dating wise, you're doing everything right--continuing to try and explore; as well as asking questions. I wonder how much of the sexual aspect is related to this fetish? Has tickling been a part of those romantic relationships? I feel like for many people on here, sex isn't so much a desire as tickling is. Maybe bringing that front and center in relationships or dating could be fun and give a little thrill to your sex life.

I realize it's been a bit of time since you've posted this, so maybe by now, things are going much better.
 
Stay off of your phone, stay off of social media, consume way less porn. Your brain will thank you, and life will atart to become more fullfiling when you arent focused on what you think you want.
 
My first question for you, especially if you're looking for help is: have you considered therapy at all? I've found this to be a tremendous help in my life, in trying to find ways to create a more satisfying life.

It sounds like dating wise, you're doing everything right--continuing to try and explore; as well as asking questions. I wonder how much of the sexual aspect is related to this fetish? Has tickling been a part of those romantic relationships? I feel like for many people on here, sex isn't so much a desire as tickling is. Maybe bringing that front and center in relationships or dating could be fun and give a little thrill to your sex life.

I realize it's been a bit of time since you've posted this, so maybe by now, things are going much better.

Hello! Thanks so much for your reply... I haven't been checking the forum for a while but just returned and saw your message.

To answer your question, yes, I have done a fair bit of CBT, counselling, and psychosexual therapy in recent years. I've kind of hit a brick wall with it though... it feels like I've now understood things that I didn't before and the next step is trying to have more fun in the real world.

As for dating, you hit the nail on the head. Sex has never been the desire but tickling has. I recently moved to a new city and have been making an effort again to meet new people. My mindset now is working on meeting women who might be up for the kink side of things, and if serious dating/romance happens to bloom then great. First and foremost I want to have some fun and explore my fetish in the real world.

So that's where I currently am right now. No real success story as of yet but becoming more adventurous and trying to make things happen!
 
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