Soles_Scream
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It is crucial to regularly check in with the lee, particularly if you both have never shared a tickle experience with one another. In BDSM parlance, if a "safe word" is used the scene should immediately shift from play to aftercare. In the tickle world, "safe word" is tantamount to "yellow" in BDSM speak. Regardless of the verbiage, its important to get those words, phrases, or gestures down before commencing in session/scene or content shoot.
I can't tell you how many models have retired from the tickle world - some of which are household names - because a producer(s)/customer(s) or play partner(s) let their respective arousal overtake their humanity.
Many of you will share about how your significant other hates being tickled. In many cases, I'd wager, someone along the line (perhaps the person lamenting) pushed them beyond their limit. There’s a thin line between tickling (and most activities) and abuse.
If you follow this suggestion - which is a regurgitation of what I've heard from models, producers in good standing, and my experience - you will increase your opportunities for play/content shoots.
Related point, a boundary expressed should be a boundary respected. "No" means "no". If you can demonstrate that you can listen to the lee's concerns, and HONOR their wishes, it will greatly increase your chances for more play. I've reached out to talent and been declined due to the tickling. Only to have them reach out months later because they've seen my previews and or heard positive things about the experience from other talent that have worked with me.
My secret is no secret at all, I can override my ler urges in a heartbeat because of concern for the talent's peace of mind. Producers that succeed to an order of magnitude (I hope to be among that group one day) understand this distinction.
I wish you all well.
I can't tell you how many models have retired from the tickle world - some of which are household names - because a producer(s)/customer(s) or play partner(s) let their respective arousal overtake their humanity.
Many of you will share about how your significant other hates being tickled. In many cases, I'd wager, someone along the line (perhaps the person lamenting) pushed them beyond their limit. There’s a thin line between tickling (and most activities) and abuse.
If you follow this suggestion - which is a regurgitation of what I've heard from models, producers in good standing, and my experience - you will increase your opportunities for play/content shoots.
Related point, a boundary expressed should be a boundary respected. "No" means "no". If you can demonstrate that you can listen to the lee's concerns, and HONOR their wishes, it will greatly increase your chances for more play. I've reached out to talent and been declined due to the tickling. Only to have them reach out months later because they've seen my previews and or heard positive things about the experience from other talent that have worked with me.
My secret is no secret at all, I can override my ler urges in a heartbeat because of concern for the talent's peace of mind. Producers that succeed to an order of magnitude (I hope to be among that group one day) understand this distinction.
I wish you all well.
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