I had one just the other night. And I do believe stress can cause it. Almost like your brain is saying "you need this soon or you'll die" kinda thing. With work, the holidays, dealing with my first year on my wedding anniversary alone, and not having tickled anyone in such a long time, I dreamed that I was tickling this goth girl I've been seeing here and there lately (never spoken to her but I live in a small town). Anyway, the dream was also incredibly vivid and her as my lee, she said she loved it! But that's that's dream and I doubt it'll ever happen
It won't if you don't take a chance. And my experience is that one usually fails. However, if you can risk feeling like a jackass, and without trying to turn yourself into an identikit Goth if that's not your scene, start an innocuous conversation. Ask her where she got her skull ring, or whatever. Be politely interested because that sometimes makes you interesting.
And don't expect everything at once. Wild encounters only happen in films because people are paid to say the lines and interact accordingly.
A story, not about me. KT and I were asked by a London lawyer's girlfriend to take him out on his birthday because she herself was away. He was a nice enough fellow, a bit quiet. After buying him sushi in a Camden Town restaurant he asked if he could reciprocate with a few drinks at a nearby pub called the Devonshire Arms, which happened to be a Goth hangout. KT and I were dressed a bit 'alternatively', and John was in a well-cut business suit.
The Goth barmaid (pink dreads, white foundation, blood-red lipstick, heavy eyeliner, piercings and black lace) served us, and engaged him in a long conversation. She simply liked him, even if he was someone completely alien to her type. He remained faithful to his girlfriend, but knew an unspoken offer had been made.
Chemistry is a strange thing, and there is nothing like sexuality for making a mockery of our self-knowledge. In our erotic lives our preferences do not always accord with our standards. We are excited by the oddest things, and sometimes, people.
Perhaps this will work in your favour with your object of desire. I'll have to say probably not, because this is the average man's lot and I say this as an average man.
But you have to try. It won't kill you, and it's possible that 'the miracle' will occur.
And most importantly Goth girls in general have a far less judgmental attitude toward sexuality.
If you're living in a small town, which obviously limits her 'potential pool of paramours', your kink may interest her rather than revolt her.
Just don't use the subject to start that first conversation. Try Edgar Allen Poe's 'The Raven', (
https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/48860/the-raven) and read a few of his short stories for background.
Good luck.
