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What is Role Play, or RP in the chatroom?

A long time statement about sex is that the most important body part involved is the brain.

A healthy sexual life is not only physical interactions, but also mental and emotional ones.

RP, and other online activities involving chat, can play a significant part in speaking to the latter two needs. Even more so if the first is absent or not possible for a period of time.

It's not a substitute or replacement for direct one-on-one sexual interaction in person, but it is an important ADDITION to a persons overall sexual experience and satisfaction as they move through life. Our sexualities are not only active when we are in the same room as a partner, they are active all the time. When we masturbate we are often RPing both sides in our head, when we look at porn and consider how it arouses us we are engaging with our sexuality.

So just because a person may lack a real partner is no strike against their use of RP and chats to find some sexual enjoyment.

When I went to college in the 1980's I went to a pretty high end engineering school, and the campus had a mainframe computer system that served around a 100 remote terminals all around the campus. On that system was a program called "Connect" and in that dim year of 1983 it was pretty much the same thing that AOL messenger would be a decade and change later, only 100% text on old green cathode screens. No flashy graphics. But with it you could chat much as we do in the TMF chatroom, in PM's with others on campus.

One night I got into a long conversation with a young woman who PMed me randomly and we ended up talking about how she was depressed and feeling lonely at the college away from her family. I understood that feeling as I'd experienced it myself the first semester I was there until I met a person who'd become a very close friend. Over the night as I worked on a program she and I traded a lot of information and so forth. four or five hours in she said "I need to tell you something" "Ok shoot" I said. "You have been really kind to me, and I lied to you, I'm not a girl I'm a guy, it's just no one would talk to me if I told them I was a guy, so I lied so I could just talk to someone." I thought about it for a few seconds and realized that it didn't matter one bit to me, and I said as much. I'd not been looking to meet or fuck this woman I'd met, just enjoy the chat at the moment. So their gender reality meant little to me beyond that the ideas and feelings they conveyed were legit. I'd never considered Connect as a way to meet a partner, just a thing that could let me have some interesting chats with people elsewhere. An addition to my social options, not a replacement for face to face talks.

Expectations of what you think you are going to get from an interaction matter, and frankly thinking you'll meet a person you RP in a chatroom with is pretty much a low probability sorta thing. I don't go into any online interaction in any form with the expectation that I'll ever get to interact in a more personal closer format.

If two lonely guys end up RPing in the TMF chatroom and come away from it both satisfied on some sexual mental level, then so the fuck what? Just some humans trying to meet their needs and no one is the worse for it. More so that now in 2023 almost anyone who uses a chat room is damned knowledgable in that those they speak to are not needfully what they present. Or as a gay friend once said to me, "Stick your dick in a glory hole and don't be pissed that the mouth on the other side is not the gender you expected. You still got off right?"

The traditional concept of "This is what sex is, and this is what it is not" does not fit will with just how complex our sexualities and expressions of them are in the real world. That every person has a different concept of what sex is just complicates it further. (Blow jobs are not sex honest! goes down poorly if ones partner thinks the opposite) This whole RP debate is another of these sort.

In the end if you got off then it all worked out pretty well, no?

Myriads
 
Thanks for the recent replies, both of which were very elaborate and articulate. Since I'm the one who started this thread, I should say that, going by what others here have said, there is no "right or wrong" about it. It may not be for everyone, but you know, what ever floats your boat. I still find the whole idea of Role Play in the chatroom very interesting. Not nearly as much as the real thing, but there are reasons why that may be hard to find, and from what I gathered, some who have "the real thing" like to do it here in the chatroom anyway. Like I said before, I think it's just a matter of finding someone I click with. Other than that, I still like going in the chatroom, if for anything, just to talk to others here who share the same interest. There doesn't have to be any direct messaging or role play. But I'm still open to it.
 
Wolf said:
Roleplay (IRL and online) is a valuable component to a real-life, in person sexual relationship.
I'd try to explain it to you, but I don't think there's a common frame of reference.
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Ohh aren't you so clever taking a shot at me..go roll around in barbed wire with an AIDS patient.
 
I feel that RP can be a very safe outlet for people. I myself go in the chat room looking to chat about (and RP if that is what the other party wants) a tickle cuckold scene involving my wife, and I can tell you some of the responses I get are just insane. Calling me "weird" and "creepy" and saying things like "You come in here all thirsty". Accusing me of not having a wife and not being married. One thing I always assumed was that this site (and chat community) would be inclusive and accepting of different forms of the fetish, but oh was I wrong. So many judgmental self-important jackasses (like AlBundyismy hero above) making judgement on others.
 
Yeah, it’s a bit odd. Don’t know why people are the way they are. I see no harm in that sort of thing personally but that’s just me.
 
dahoochman said:
I feel that RP can be a very safe outlet for people. I myself go in the chat room looking to chat about (and RP if that is what the other party wants) a tickle cuckold scene involving my wife, and I can tell you some of the responses I get are just insane. Calling me "weird" and "creepy" and saying things like "You come in here all thirsty". Accusing me of not having a wife and not being married. One thing I always assumed was that this site (and chat community) would be inclusive and accepting of different forms of the fetish, but oh was I wrong. So many judgmental self-important jackasses (like AlBundyismy hero above) making judgement on others.
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There are a lot of decent people on this forum; there are also a number of bitter, stereotypical loners who can't deal with someone else having what they don't.
They're mad because you have a willing partner, and they're mad because talking about them is "rubbing their noses in it". They will never have what you have, so there's got to be something wrong with it.
 
dahoochman said:
I feel that RP can be a very safe outlet for people. I myself go in the chat room looking to chat about (and RP if that is what the other party wants) a tickle cuckold scene involving my wife, and I can tell you some of the responses I get are just insane. Calling me "weird" and "creepy" and saying things like "You come in here all thirsty". Accusing me of not having a wife and not being married. One thing I always assumed was that this site (and chat community) would be inclusive and accepting of different forms of the fetish, but oh was I wrong. So many judgmental self-important jackasses (like AlBundyismy hero above) making judgement on others.
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Hey pal .
When they start that behaviour report them to a mod.
It's the only way of getting rid of them .
Don't be put off by these clowns.
 
I love RPing with folks when I get the chance! To answer the original question, when I RP in chat, I like to pick a fantasy scenario with my RP partner, then we write it out like a story, with them writing what their character is doing and then I write what my character is doing, in real time. I am a hobby writer and I like to RP with descriptive language, the same way I would write in a story, sometimes a paragraph or two at a time. However, I have also done more short-form RP, with snappier/shorter descriptions and that can be very fun too! I like the quick pace of it when it's fewer words at once.

For me, a big part of the appeal of fiction, storytelling, and RP is that if you can imagine it, you can do it. There are things that simply do not work in real life. There are things that are impossible in real life. And, honestly, some people have fantasies and desires that are not achievable in real life. Some examples: being abducted by tickling aliens, breaking into someone's house to tickle them, tickling someone against their will, being tickled by a tickling machine, magic that enhances someone's ticklishness, being tickled literally to death, a literal Tickle Hell, tickling a specific celebrity or fictional character, etc. It doesn't take long to think up a fantasy idea that can't really be played out in real life. In fiction, anything is possible!

People don't really get to pick what pushes their buttons and I don't think there is anything wrong with any of these fantasy ideas. RP can be a wonderful, exciting way to play those games, if you can get lucky enough to match up with someone who shares your same interests and energy.
 
BuckWild said:
I love RPing with folks when I get the chance! To answer the original question, when I RP in chat, I like to pick a fantasy scenario with my RP partner, then we write it out like a story, with them writing what their character is doing and then I write what my character is doing, in real time. I am a hobby writer and I like to RP with descriptive language, the same way I would write in a story, sometimes a paragraph or two at a time. However, I have also done more short-form RP, with snappier/shorter descriptions and that can be very fun too! I like the quick pace of it when it's fewer words at once.

For me, a big part of the appeal of fiction, storytelling, and RP is that if you can imagine it, you can do it. There are things that simply do not work in real life. There are things that are impossible in real life. And, honestly, some people have fantasies and desires that are not achievable in real life. Some examples: being abducted by tickling aliens, breaking into someone's house to tickle them, tickling someone against their will, being tickled by a tickling machine, magic that enhances someone's ticklishness, being tickled literally to death, a literal Tickle Hell, tickling a specific celebrity or fictional character, etc. It doesn't take long to think up a fantasy idea that can't really be played out in real life. In fiction, anything is possible!

People don't really get to pick what pushes their buttons and I don't think there is anything wrong with any of these fantasy ideas. RP can be a wonderful, exciting way to play those games, if you can get lucky enough to match up with someone who shares your same interests and energy.
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Yes I get it, thanks for explaining it to me. So far, I haven't really gotten a chance to do it, I have DM'd a few people in chat, but they usually don't even answer, I guess either because they're already DM'ing with someone, or maybe they're just not interested. I did talk to a few privately in chat, but we just talked about what we liked in general, no role play. But I'd still be up to it. I do get DM'd in there a lot but these are always guys, and I'm just not into that. But to each his own.
 
Lee Ishler said:
Yes I get it, thanks for explaining it to me. So far, I haven't really gotten a chance to do it, I have DM'd a few people in chat, but they usually don't even answer, I guess either because they're already DM'ing with someone, or maybe they're just not interested. I did talk to a few privately in chat, but we just talked about what we liked in general, no role play. But I'd still be up to it. I do get DM'd in there a lot but these are always guys, and I'm just not into that. But to each his own.
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It can be hard to find the right RP partner, especially as a male lee looking for a female ler. I myself don't mind writing with folks no matter their gender, but I know that won't work for everyone. You might have to be patient to find the kind of person you're looking for. It can be a long trial and error process, but not impossible. I wish you good luck!
 
BuckWild said:
It can be hard to find the right RP partner, especially as a male lee looking for a female ler. I myself don't mind writing with folks no matter their gender, but I know that won't work for everyone. You might have to be patient to find the kind of person you're looking for. It can be a long trial and error process, but not impossible. I wish you good luck!
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Thanks. I'm not exactly looking for an RP partner, but it would be an interesting experience. And I'm a switch, not just a male lee, though I can be one if that's what someone wants. But yes, I know female lers, unless they are f/f, are hard to find, which is why I changed my name from fmguy22. Like you say, I think it's a long trial and error process to find someone to RP with here, or even to DM with at all, from my experience. I think if I really wanted to find a partner I'd have to look somewhere outside the TMF, I think many have already suggested Fetlife for that. I'm not sure I want to go that far right now. To meet a tickle partner in person is quite a big step. Oh and of course there is NEST, which I hear is coming up soon. That would be ideal, I think, to meet and talk to someone face to face.
 
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BuckWild said:
I love RPing with folks when I get the chance! To answer the original question, when I RP in chat, I like to pick a fantasy scenario with my RP partner, then we write it out like a story, with them writing what their character is doing and then I write what my character is doing, in real time. I am a hobby writer and I like to RP with descriptive language, the same way I would write in a story, sometimes a paragraph or two at a time. However, I have also done more short-form RP, with snappier/shorter descriptions and that can be very fun too! I like the quick pace of it when it's fewer words at once.

For me, a big part of the appeal of fiction, storytelling, and RP is that if you can imagine it, you can do it. There are things that simply do not work in real life. There are things that are impossible in real life. And, honestly, some people have fantasies and desires that are not achievable in real life. Some examples: being abducted by tickling aliens, breaking into someone's house to tickle them, tickling someone against their will, being tickled by a tickling machine, magic that enhances someone's ticklishness, being tickled literally to death, a literal Tickle Hell, tickling a specific celebrity or fictional character, etc. It doesn't take long to think up a fantasy idea that can't really be played out in real life. In fiction, anything is possible!

People don't really get to pick what pushes their buttons and I don't think there is anything wrong with any of these fantasy ideas. RP can be a wonderful, exciting way to play those games, if you can get lucky enough to match up with someone who shares your same interests and energy.
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I agree completely, Buckwild, especially that people don’t really get to pick what pushes their buttons. That’s why I enjoy chatting with others from this site via PM or chat or RP or whatever. Sharing experiences or fantasies is just that; sharing with other people who have a similar interest. No harm, no foul.
 
Myriads said:
A long time statement about sex is that the most important body part involved is the brain.

A healthy sexual life is not only physical interactions, but also mental and emotional ones.

RP, and other online activities involving chat, can play a significant part in speaking to the latter two needs. Even more so if the first is absent or not possible for a period of time.

It's not a substitute or replacement for direct one-on-one sexual interaction in person, but it is an important ADDITION to a persons overall sexual experience and satisfaction as they move through life. Our sexualities are not only active when we are in the same room as a partner, they are active all the time. When we masturbate we are often RPing both sides in our head, when we look at porn and consider how it arouses us we are engaging with our sexuality.

So just because a person may lack a real partner is no strike against their use of RP and chats to find some sexual enjoyment.

When I went to college in the 1980's I went to a pretty high end engineering school, and the campus had a mainframe computer system that served around a 100 remote terminals all around the campus. On that system was a program called "Connect" and in that dim year of 1983 it was pretty much the same thing that AOL messenger would be a decade and change later, only 100% text on old green cathode screens. No flashy graphics. But with it you could chat much as we do in the TMF chatroom, in PM's with others on campus.

One night I got into a long conversation with a young woman who PMed me randomly and we ended up talking about how she was depressed and feeling lonely at the college away from her family. I understood that feeling as I'd experienced it myself the first semester I was there until I met a person who'd become a very close friend. Over the night as I worked on a program she and I traded a lot of information and so forth. four or five hours in she said "I need to tell you something" "Ok shoot" I said. "You have been really kind to me, and I lied to you, I'm not a girl I'm a guy, it's just no one would talk to me if I told them I was a guy, so I lied so I could just talk to someone." I thought about it for a few seconds and realized that it didn't matter one bit to me, and I said as much. I'd not been looking to meet or fuck this woman I'd met, just enjoy the chat at the moment. So their gender reality meant little to me beyond that the ideas and feelings they conveyed were legit. I'd never considered Connect as a way to meet a partner, just a thing that could let me have some interesting chats with people elsewhere. An addition to my social options, not a replacement for face to face talks.

Expectations of what you think you are going to get from an interaction matter, and frankly thinking you'll meet a person you RP in a chatroom with is pretty much a low probability sorta thing. I don't go into any online interaction in any form with the expectation that I'll ever get to interact in a more personal closer format.

If two lonely guys end up RPing in the TMF chatroom and come away from it both satisfied on some sexual mental level, then so the fuck what? Just some humans trying to meet their needs and no one is the worse for it. More so that now in 2023 almost anyone who uses a chat room is damned knowledgable in that those they speak to are not needfully what they present. Or as a gay friend once said to me, "Stick your dick in a glory hole and don't be pissed that the mouth on the other side is not the gender you expected. You still got off right?"

The traditional concept of "This is what sex is, and this is what it is not" does not fit will with just how complex our sexualities and expressions of them are in the real world. That every person has a different concept of what sex is just complicates it further. (Blow jobs are not sex honest! goes down poorly if ones partner thinks the opposite) This whole RP debate is another of these sort.

In the end if you got off then it all worked out pretty well, no?

Myriads
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Bravo, Myriads! Thanks for fostering an environment where people can “Connect” with others about what they enjoy, regardless of who they are, what they are, how old they are, what they look like, etc., etc., and not be judged. That is a rare thing indeed.
 
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