Is tickling cheating

BlueLine7045 said:

Your wife sounds very patient, accepting, and understanding. I am generally the same way as you in that I love to make a woman, or anyone honestly, feel good about themselves. I've given men compliments before and women as well. But really what it is for me is the playfulness of flirting. The back and forth banter. I don't need to be attracted to a woman or like her to flirt. It's more like a fun, teasing game for me. Again, I agree. Not all tickling is sexual for me. Sometimes I am just genuinely curious about whether or not someone is ticklish and want to try it for fun. I tried doing the sit and talk with my fiancee, prior to any incidents, and she basically lost her marbles.

I love her to death and I would never do anything to hurt her again, but I won't lie I am slightly envious of some of you on here who's wives are so understanding and don't just jump off the deep end at first chance.

Also for those of you whose wives help you tickle others or do it intentionally I'm front of you. Sexy.

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We have a simple rule; Don't do anything with another person (not your partner, of course) that you wouldn't do with them in front of your partner. Saves a lot of heartache.

Sensualswitch10 said:

How did maniactickler end up with someone who isn't ticklish?!!!
SMH

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I didnt. shes very ticklish. but hates it with a passion. best i get is occasional short playful tickles. thats why i need a hard core fix when i get the opportunity.

maniactickler said:

I didnt. shes very ticklish. but hates it with a passion. best i get is occasional short playful tickles. thats why i need a hard core fix when i get the opportunity.

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Honestly hating tickling is arguably just as bad, if not worse than not being ticklish. I have tickled girls before who were extremely ticklish who hated to the point of extreme rage or tears and all the complaining and whining really just kills the vibe for me. In stories and artwork I find the begging sexy. IRL, super turnoff.

Makes sense wolf!

The thing that is hurtful about cheating isn't the "cheat" act... it's the dishonesty. Lying, even if by omission, breaks trust. Basically, anything and everything could or could not be considered cheating, but it depends on your relationship, and what boundaries others are comfortable with.

I am in multiple relationships, as I am polyamorous, but it isn't "cheating" because everybody knows about each other. There are no secrets, nothing to hide, no broken rules... and so it's all good. Some people consider anything up to actual intercourse okay, some people consider porn to be cheating... it runs a spectrum. What is the boundary between you and your partner? If you don't discuss it, you can't know, and you could end up hurting somebody you care deeply for simply because you were unaware... or trying to play naïve.

Communication is the only way to avoid cheating. TALK to your partner and find out what is okay with them and what is not. If those boundaries feel too strict you can negotiate, or you can walk away. But to try and come here for an answer without talking to your actual partner is NOT any kind of safe bet.

Like others have said, there is no black and white answer. And that's coming from an excruciatingly literal and black-and-white person when I say it.

I'm single and unattached. I would not think tickling my female friend, regardless of relationship status, would be anything more than tickling. She might not, either. Her husband might think differently. But I, personally, don't think that way because I, personally, are not truly on the fetish side of tickling. If tickling is something that is required for your sexual gratification, and your partner would not be on board with you tickling someone else, any more than they would be on board with you having sex with someone else, then it is probably in the realm of cheating.

The only right and wrong answers here are defined by you and your partner.

It's perhaps a cheap answer, but one guide you can use: if you wouldn't tell your partner openly about tickling someone else, should you do it in the first place?