1. Self obessessed people, who think or care about no one else but themselves. Several people in my family are like this, and it sucks.
2. Judgemental people, who aren't standing in someone else's shoes, and who love to act holier than now toward others. My ex best friend's mother was like this, and I hated the bitch for it, for twenty years.
3. Hypocritical people. People who act as "Do as I say, not as I do". My friend Adam and I (We found each other on Facebook last summer after being apart for 20 years) used to fight about this constantly when we were teenagers. He told me that I used to be the world's biggest hypocrite. (Actually, I appreciated his honesty, because I knew he cared). However, when I asked him recently if he thinks I'm still hypocritical, he says : "No, you've changed, a lot". I'm glad he thinks so. I try not to be hypocritical anymore. I told him, though: "If you think I'm acting hypocritical, tell me, and I'll try to modify it".
4. People who are prejudiced. For any reason, against sexuality, race, religion, etc. As everyone knows from my previous posts, my assistant fits this bill. He hates African Americans, and Hispanics, etc. To me, there is only one race, the human race. It would be hypocritical for me to hate any specific religion or race, because, most of the people I hate in my own family, are the same race/ religion I am.
5. People who wish or interject negativity toward others. (I want to be clear here, because I know I can be negative, about myself, so I dont want to sound hypocritical). What I mean is, say, if a friend or family member has a goal, I believe in trying to support them, or wish them well, and not to belittle them, or try to drag them down. Again, my assistant, and members of my family, have both done this to me, and it's an awful feeling when it happens.
6. People who use substances (Tobacco, alcohol, drugs) as a crutch for trying to deal with their problems. My father and maternal grandfather are/were heavy drinkers, and it used to drive me mad to see them drunk. To me, getting drunk is harming one's own body, their family structure, and running away from their lives with substances. One can have an escape, it doesnt have to be that. Also, I think my mom used to use smoking as a crutch to deal with her unhappy marriage to my father, even though she smoked for several years before meeting him. Tragically, as the doctors told us, her heavy smoking more than likely was a cause in her current cancer battle.
I think that's about it.
Mitch
