I had an idea for this a while back after I first heard of aftercare, but then forgot about it. The sudden resurgence in aftercare technique reminded me.
Playing with new lers is always tricky: there's issues of trust, body part boundaries, technique restrictions, and learning a new 'lees uh...areas, all of which are indelicate in their own ways, but probably none of those with as powerful consequences as that of aftercare. Bad aftercare can negate everything else positive about a great session. I endeavor to fix that, assuming my idea will even work.
So with this thread I hope for all lees to list their aftercare preferences to serve as an archive for reference before gatherings, one-on-ones, etc. That way, in the event that someone new comes along to a get together, they'll be able to brush up on what each lee likes so they don't fail to finish a scene as well as they start one.
I know that aftercare is a fluid mistress, and it varies with the mood and flow of each scene--as well as the state of mind for each 'lee--but there's bound to be some constants that are always good to know.
So 'lees, what are YOUR aftercare preferences? How do you like to be treated/have done to you after a scene is over?
**also, if there's any little clues or hints you give to let a 'ler know you're done without safewording, add that too.
Playing with new lers is always tricky: there's issues of trust, body part boundaries, technique restrictions, and learning a new 'lees uh...areas, all of which are indelicate in their own ways, but probably none of those with as powerful consequences as that of aftercare. Bad aftercare can negate everything else positive about a great session. I endeavor to fix that, assuming my idea will even work.
So with this thread I hope for all lees to list their aftercare preferences to serve as an archive for reference before gatherings, one-on-ones, etc. That way, in the event that someone new comes along to a get together, they'll be able to brush up on what each lee likes so they don't fail to finish a scene as well as they start one.
I know that aftercare is a fluid mistress, and it varies with the mood and flow of each scene--as well as the state of mind for each 'lee--but there's bound to be some constants that are always good to know.
So 'lees, what are YOUR aftercare preferences? How do you like to be treated/have done to you after a scene is over?
**also, if there's any little clues or hints you give to let a 'ler know you're done without safewording, add that too.
