Tickling as a conversation topic

I often bring up tickling when talking with an attractive woman. Some ladies let the topic pass. But others will share their tickle thoughts and stories. It's even led to tickling more than a few of these females.

For instance, when I go for a massage(not massage parlors; rather, real massage therapy) I mention that I'm very ticklish. A couple female massage therapists (I don't go to men for a rubdown!) wound up telling me all about how ticklish they are.

One hot little number named Trish told me all about getting tickled when she was a girl. Trish's mother and older sister often used to wake her up by tickling her! As she told me the story, I thought I was going to pitch a tent with the massage table sheet! I even tickled Trish a couple of times.

Then there was Elaine, a gorgeous stewardess-turned-massage therapist. I did not get the chance to start the tickle talk - before I even made it to her massage table, Elaine told me, "I'm extremely ticklish." I of course tickled her midsection during the massage.

I have a hundred other such anecdotes, but I would like to read what other TMF'ers have to say about the topic.😉

It's always tough to strike that balance between prolonging the conversation yet not wanting to show any kind of reaction or appear to be obsessing. Of course in retrospect, I've dragged out some conversations that involved tickling well past the point at which I was sure I'd start to draw funny looks, and no one flinched.

It can make a conversation topic, I would just watch the person you are conversing with. If they start to show signs of being uncomfy, I would start talking about something else. It's not something I really talk about. But eh, if you really wanna know, just ask them if it bugs em 😀

Pawz

I often bring it up, although mostly with female pen pals in letters, not so much in person. As I've mentioned on here before, I've had female letter pen pals since 1996, and have asked almost all of them "The Question". I've gotten dozens of answers since 1996, perhaps about 70. The way I usually do it is to get a new pen pal, write her a couple of regular letters to get to know her, and then in about the second, third or fourth letter, depending on the pal, mention how I have been tickled by family members and friends, and how very ticklish Iam, and if it has ever happened to them. Most of the time, it works, although I have had the occasional pal who hasnt written back, or ones who refuse to answer if they do write back. In these cases, I leave it alone, and dont ask the person again, as I dont want to push.
Last year I brought up the subject of tickling to a massage therapist I met at a yoga class I went to with my friend. She was a very pretty brunette, and her name was Candy. I casually brought up the subject of having been massaged professionally in my life, and how it felt ticklish, then I was like: "Candy, does anyone ever tell you that massage tickles, and do you think it can feel ticklish?" She replied:" Yes, I have had people tell me that massage can tickle" I so wanted to ask her the other part of how ticklish she was, but stopped myself because I didnt know her that well. I've thought about going to get a massage from her, and may at some point, but I also know my friend has been to see her and that before she massages you she makes you sign a form that she reserves right to eject you from her massage parlor if you make inappropriate advances, so I doubt I could get away with asking her The Question or discussing tickling with her. I think Pawz has the right idea, to discuss tickling, it depends on the circumstances, and who its with. You dont want to make a mistake and bring it up to the wrong person. With all the sex harrassment laws nowadays it can be taken very seriously. Each individual situation has to be taken into consideration, before deciding whether to discuss tickling is appropriate. This is just my view.

Mitch

No one's complained yet, though I understand your caution

Mitch said, "You don't want to make a mistake and bring it up to the wrong person. With all the sex harrassment laws nowadays it can be taken very seriously."

I understand Mitch's caution. In my thirty years as an active tickler, no girl's ever complained about me to the police, a boss, or other authority figure because I tickled them or asked them about tickling. And we're talking about HUNDREDS of girls.🙄

Tickling, like anything else I take interest in, comes up very naturally in conversation. So, I don't really think that much about it. I just pick and choose when it comes to details about the extent of my liking of it. No biggie.

Ann

Hmm...

"For instance, when I go for a massage(not massage parlors; rather, real massage therapy) I mention that I'm very ticklish. A couple female massage therapists (I don't go to men for a rubdown!) wound up telling me all about how ticklish they are."

I've done this while going to a chiropractor. The girl was laying me down on a table and putting leads on me, and she noticed it tickled, and told me how ticklish she was. I was dying to go further with this, but my future wife was standing there...
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I have a hard time having a conversation about tickling and ticklishness. It makes me smile and squirm a little bit as well as feel more ticklish than I would otherwise. This is cool in situaltions where I want to be tickled but is awkard in situations where I don't.

I know just how you feel, ericr. it’s funny... if the subject of tickling comes up in my very (very!) vanilla everyday life... I am the first one to change the subject. makes me too self conscious. I instantly start to worry about reacting ‘normally’ while my mind floods with... other stuff...

on the other hand... talking about it here, at gatherings, and with that special someone... is a completely different story! and that’s pretty cool.

I just thought of something as I was about hit ‘Submit Reply’.

one time, when I was out dancing with a group of friends... I was very drunk (no, I wasn’t driving) and my feet were killing me (new heels). we were going to be leaving soon and I was kind of leaning on a stool and trying to get my sandals back on when this guy decided to hit on me. I don’t remember how it started but he asked for my number. I was feeling pretty tipsy and brave... and said, “oh, you don’t want to get mixed up with me...” and went back to wrestling with my shoe. he looked at me, grinned and said, “what makes you think that?” I looked him up and down, grinned back and said, “well, I dunno... are you ticklish?” he laughed and said, “yes... why?” I got my shoe on, looked him in the eye and said, “yeah... well, would you let me tickle you?” “if you wanted to...” was his answer. my friends came around the corner and dragged me out the door. but not before he gave me his number. I never called.

I worked for Neiman Marcus a few years back; there, I'd loaned a woman there the book "The Straight Dope" by the columnist Cecil Adams. In it, he answers all sorts of readers questions about every possible topic. Out of the book - that has several hundred pages and several hundred topics - there's one question on the history of tickling.

One day the woman and I were sitting down to lunch, and she was thanking me for loaning her the book. She started to mention that there was a "really interesting article on tickling"... out of all the interesting topics in the book this one got her attention! And I was thinking "This is gonna be good". And just then another guy we worked with sat down with us and started talking about... whatever it was that was important to him, probably some animated thing he saw on MTV. Damn damn damn.

Ayla and Oddjob . . .

Ayla NY, that was quite a story. Little does that guy know how lucky he almost was! Too bad (for him) that you did not pick up the phone. I would imagine it's difficult for a woman to call a man; I am sure many guys, including me, have had to fight nervousness when calling a woman.

Oddjob, how I can relate to your anecdote on the woman who lent you the book! I have had more than one busybody butt in on my private conversations with girls. Drives you crazy! Especially when you are just about to make your move. But you know, if the woman they are interrupting cared as much as you do, she would have blown off that clown. So forget her.

I'm usualy pretty shy about dicussing tickling too, especially when the wife or someone who is aware of my interest is in the room! However I still try to instigate the conversation when the situation is right. Usually when the oppertunity to ask "Are you ticklish?" is presented I will ask!

~ toyou

Em Es, that night’s bold statements were 90% alcohol and 10% being only months out of a marriage in which a statement like would have gotten me the ‘huh? you can’t be serious’ look. I wasn’t up for trying to explain it (yet again) to someone who just did not get it tho. I knew that there were people out there who did get it. (not to mention, the next day I was like, “oh my God... did I REALLY say that?!”

it WAS pretty fun to say tho!

he was a cop. maybe I could have talked him into letting me tickle him in uniform... hmmm... 😀

Ayla ny said:

He was a cop. maybe I could have talked him into letting me tickle him in uniform... hmmm... 😀

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Maybe he was into it - that's where his handcuffs would come in.....

i usually try to sneak in tickle talk. just recently at work, myself and a good friend of mine were talking and i gave her a quick tickle in her ribs. i remember when she told she was deathly ticklish, especially her feet. when i tickled her this time, she denied being ticklish, even though her reaction was that of a ticklish person. the conversation went on about me telling her that i know she's ticklish and she kept denying it. i asked her for her foot and of course she refused. i asked, "if you're not ticklish, what are you worried about?" she just said she didnt want to take her shoe off. 🙄 anyway, i didnt keep the conversation rolling that way, but i did tell her that i was going to prove her wrong!

Re: No one's complained yet, though I understand your caution

Em Es said:

Mitch said, "You don't want to make a mistake and bring it up to the wrong person. With all the sex harrassment laws nowadays it can be taken very seriously."

I understand Mitch's caution. In my thirty years as an active tickler, no girl's ever complained about me to the police, a boss, or other authority figure because I tickled them or asked them about tickling. And we're talking about HUNDREDS of girls.🙄

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on the other hand, I *have* had complaints lodged about me at various workplaces for tickling. So, ya never can be too careful.

Phineas . . .

As Barney Fife would say, "Well, I'll be." Phineas, would you mind sharing the details of these complaints?

I would, if I knew them.

Management had a policy that stated that you weren't allowed to find out any details of complaints made against you other than that one in fact had... presumably to keep you from further harassing the person who reported you. Unfortunately, all it boiled down to, was that you were told "you've had a complaint lodged against you, but I can't tell you against who or why... but I need you to stop offending people."

naturally, if you don't know what you're doing wrong, you can't bloody well stop, now can you.

anyway, I did also have the occasion to have "helpful" types bark out things like "keep your hands to yourself" when other folks happened upon said tickling.

there were other times where the ladies in question would not report me to management, but instead to their fellow co-workers in the hopes that *they* would tell me to knock it off.

I don't fault any of them, after all, no one should be forced to have their limits exceeded... but I did tend to get a little irked when people would yank one another's pants down as a practical joke and not even receive a reprimand, but the moment I even *thought* about tickling someone, I'd have a harassment complaint stapled to my forehead.

Get to know her first

Phineas, truth is indeed stranger than fiction. I've known of and seen sexual, verbal and physical intimidation in the workplace where the perpetrators got away with it. Dozens of times. But someone was so mad you tickled her that she ratted on you? Damn, of the HUNDREDS of girls I tickled in school and at work, not one ran and told. Maybe I was lucky!

Or maybe I was better at choosing the girls to tickle. After all, I see many more attractive women that I ever speak to, much less touch. Phineas, maybe you need to "read" a girl more carefully before you aim your index fingers for her sides.

Or, maybe I was lucky!

As for these anonymous complainers: Someone will probably have to sue to change the situation you described, where management won't reveal the name of the person who complained about you. This is the United States, where you have the right to face those who accuse you. Unfortunately, you have to fight or no one cares about your rights.

Regarding the "keep your hands to yourself," remark, at least the woman was willing to stand up to your face. While no one ever cried to the boss or a college official about my ticklings, a few girls have told me to knock it off.😛 At school I was sitting with a group of classmates in a tavern. A few drinks in me, I starting poking the ribs of this gal Stephanie who was seated next to me. We were acquaintences, not friends, and after the third or fourth tickle, Stephanie turned and said, "Will you stop tickling me?!"😡 So even little old me can pick the wrong girl sometimes.

Besides "reading" a woman to see if she will take getting tickled, it also helps if you're on friendly terms with her. Tickling's a form of affection. To tickle a cutie who does not know you that well could upset her as much as putting your arm around her.

So first make sure she's not a wet blanket. Then make sure she likes or at least thinks well of you. And maybe even bring up tickling as a conversation topic. I would think that will weed out the troublemakers , leaving only the ticklish and willing for your pleasure.😀