My two best friends know about my tickle fetish. They are cool with it. I've known one 12 years and another 23, and Iam really close to them. They've known I've had a foot fetish for years, because to this day I ask them if they see their sisters feet when they visit with them, and they are cool about it and understand. They also knew about Don, my pen pal who got me into talking about tickling who died, as well as the fact that I have female letter pals and ask them "The Question"
When I found TMF I was honest with them. Knowing me as they do, they were cool with it. I dont come into the chat when they are around, except to say a quick hello, because I feel it is rude to do that to guests.
Family is a different story. I didnt tell my mom until the incident of a troll in the old old TMF room, who posed as a fake cop telling me I was in trouble for talking to a fake underage girl. I thought it was real, so I panicked, and told her. Now she knows and is cool with it. We dont discuss it really. All I say is Iam going into the "Chatroom" and she knows. Had that incident never happened, I may not have told her, but she is very understanding. She was like "you are 34 and an adult, and what you do is your business." The rest of my family doesnt really know, but I hardly see them. Right now I dont have a girlfriend, but I know that will be a hurdle. Some people outside the community dont react well when you tell them you have a fetish. I will have a hard enough time explaining about my foot fetish. As most who have talked to me know, when I was in my last relationship, I only had the foot fetish, and my ex girlfriend understood and used to let me play with her feet. She wasnt ticklish, but I didnt have a tickle fetish then. As for now, the way I see it is that I couldnt be in a relationship with someone who would never let me kiss her feet. In some ways, that fetish is even stronger than tickle, and I think I'd resent someone who said that to me, even if she didnt want to be tickled all the time.
Tickling is a different story. With that, unless Iam lucky enough to find a girl in the community who shares my tickle fetish, I realize this will take some work. If I meet a girl who hates to be tickled, or doesnt really like it, Iam willing to try and work with her, to compromise, with being allowed to tickle her once in a while, even if not regularly. Iam hoping this can be worked out, or perhaps I can somehow introduce my significant other to tickle to at least get her to tolerate tickling, even if she wanted to turn the tables, and tickle me some to get warmed up to it, Iam willing to do that. I need to be with someone who I can be honest with and trust about this. If I dont trust her, I cant be with her or marry her. Hopefully I will meet someone who is understanding and willing to work with me, because Iam a very giving and compromising person. Of course I have my desires and needs, but Iam dont want to make someone uncomfortable or put them on the spot to get them. Iam hoping whoever Iam with will be an understanding person, so we can work on this together.
Mitch
