1950s household kink/lifestyle

[tickledorange]

Has anyone here ever heard of this kink? A friend of mine was telling me about this the other day, how her and her husband are going to give a 50s style relationship a try (except she also works). I read a couple of things about it and it totally sounds like something that would be fun to try with them. I was wondering if anyone had ever heard or done anything like this before.

 

[socktickler86]

Nope, what are the details of it?

 

[♡AimLEE♡]

man goes to work while the woman stays home to cook and clean.
when he comes home she serves him and makes sure he is comfortable.

it's not for everyone, but it very interesting. i think it's kind of hard to do in the economy because in order to afford things both people in a relationship have to be working which kind of defeats the whole 1950's lifestyle.

 

[TropicThunder]

This is just what it sounds like: a social and sexual dynamic that attempts to recreate the stereotypical male-dominated marital relationship of the 50s. In truth, this activity is more social and relational than sexual, although sex can play a part.

In a 1950s household, traditional gender roles are maintained. This is a type of "power exchange" based completely on gender roles. The man probably works at something "manly" like business, skilled labor, or management. He takes pride in his career and providing for the family.

The woman in this situation probably stays at home as a wife or mother. If she does leave the home, it is probably for her college studies or for pre-baby work in fields such as teaching, nursing, or other "feminine" jobs. Her main responsibility, of course, is her home and her family. This woman takes pride in cooking, cleaning, ironing, and raising her children. She may do outside activities such as volunteer work or being active in a church society.

Children are brought up with traditional values and a sense of the father being the head of the home. The man provides for, protects, and cherishes his wife; in turn, she makes his home a place of comfort and relaxation after a hard day's work.

This type of kink is geared towards a 24/7 lifestyle.

 

[tickledorange]

We were thinking more of an "only at home" kind of thing, just to try something new and different. Everyone in the house would still work (like if someone really wanted to, they could pretend I was some kind of teacher).

 

[LD_Tickler]

Hold up now. This is basically just a lived roleplay, yes? A lifestyle people adopt because they find the fantasy thrilling, not because they agree with the values? If that's the case, wouldn't it be wrong to bring your children up amidst those values?

Unless of course they do agree with the values and want their children to be brought up in that environment. In which case it's not a kink at all... it's just... how you live...

 

[socktickler86]

Yah I'm totally confused about how this works.

 

[Strider]

I'm currently in a 24/7 relationship which incorporates some aspects of what's typically referred to as 1950s household. It's not something that's we explicitly aim for or think of ourselves as participating in, but there are undercurrents. Some of it stems from the fact that decent part of the acts of service she performs are domestic, but most of it comes from the emotional states the acts themselves engender in both of us.

 

[milagros317]

Is this a kink? My parents lived it 1946-1958 (at which point my mother got a job and ceased being a 1950's style full time homemaker).

 

[Snail Shell]

"Welcome home from work hun! Shall I get you your pipe and slippers?"
"Golly, hun! That'd be swell!"

😀

SS

 

[chicago]

I'll take the 50's style outfits and leave the cooking, cleaning, child rearing, and having no opinions.

 

[Bugman]

Is this a kink? My parents lived it 1946-1958 (at which point my mother got a job and ceased being a 1950's style full time homemaker).

With a slight variation in years, it sounds just like my parents too. Maybe some see it as kinky because so many people under age 50 or so didn't grow up that way? I don't know.

 

[milagros317]

With a slight variation in years, it sounds just like my parents too. Maybe some see it as kinky because so many people under age 50 or so didn't grow up that way? I don't know.

The beginning year, 1946, is when he got home from World War II.

 

[Bugman]

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[WorkInProgress]

I think LD_Tickler makes an important point. I had those questions myself, point for point. Are we talking roleplay or genuine adoption of the values? If it's roleplay, it's a kink--and not something children should be caught up in.

 

[WorkInProgress]

Let me also add: I have a fundamental aversion, to the point of severe nausea, to any philosophy which says that some past period of history is the good-old-days, and that society has gone downhill by drifting away from the values of those good-old-days.

 

[Tickleslave83]

There were no good old days. A lot of people just idealize the era they grew up in. I doubt few will idealize this current era though. If we are the future's good old days I fear for the future!

I suppose the 50s were the good old days for affluent middle class heterosexual white Christian males, not so much for blacks, women, gays, the poor and anyone else really.

 

[Strider]

I think LD_Tickler makes an important point. I had those questions myself, point for point. Are we talking roleplay or genuine adoption of the values? If it's roleplay, it's a kink--and not something children should be caught up in.

There's no reason that a role play scenario (or scenarios) couldn't be constructed around the concept. But generally speaking, when the term 1950s household is used in a lifestyle related sense, it refers to something couples adopt on a full time basis because they at least partially agree with the values inherent in the idea. Needless to say, there's a wide degree of variation in this. Some explicitly model their relationships after the idea, others just take certain aspects that resonate with them and work them into the overall relationship.

 

[tickledorange]

There's no reason that a role play scenario (or scenarios) couldn't be constructed around the concept. But generally speaking, when the term 1950s household is used in a lifestyle related sense, it refers to something couples adopt on a full time basis because they at least partially agree with the values inherent in the idea. Needless to say, there's a wide degree of variation in this. Some explicitly model their relationships after the idea, others just take certain aspects that resonate with them and work them into the overall relationship.

This is what I was mostly looking at, was how could we add some of these pieces from this kink (which has a large following on FetLife by the way) into what we're already doing.

Some do take it 24/7, however, and it's their choice. After listening to another person tell me about how they incorporated their own twist on this into their relationship, I found it interesting, so I thought I'd ask if anyone else on here had heard about it.

 

[mabus]

1950's "good clean" values?!!!

Blarghhh!!!!

I agree 100% with those who were appalled at those "good" values.

What kid would want to come home to a peaceful house with mom having supper ready and dad reading the paper and watching the news?

Much better to come home to, as I heard from a co-worker last week, -cousin bringing kid home because mom was strung out on drugs on the recliner, dad was male who knocked her up years ago, so was non-existent in kid's life, cousin cooked supper for kid and mom...who never even bothered to get her big ass off the recliner after she finally gained conscienceness. But at least didn't beat kid, or was actually at home, where so many teachers friends have told me of uncountable households that are so hellish the concept of "studying" is non-existent, or the others children whose parents are .....well, no one really knows.....

Enough fun sarcasm....THAT'S the values people would like to go back to. Mom and dad, responsible adults, who teach children by their good actions, how to be decent, responsible and law abiding human beings. And man coming home to wife in kitchen in heels, pantyhose/stockings, skirt and nice shirt.....WOWWW!!!!!!!! I see the appeal in that!!

Liberal malcontent objecting in smug, whiny nasally voice: "No! They want to bring the good ole's days back of slavery and no rights for gays and women can't vote and no medicine and no internet and no.....
Me, in Mr. Plinkett voice: SHUUUT UP!!

 

[WorkInProgress]

Take that last post, add a hard return everywhere there's either a period or a comma, and a few other spots as well, and you've got poetry slam material par excellence.