I have to preface and say that for us, in our marriage, tickling is not a sexual activity. Not that it cant lead to that, or hasnt obviously, but its not something I, or my wife to my knowledge, are getting off to. For the most part, its just a playful/flirty activity that feels therapeutic after all of the laughing. From her, the sense of losing control has been compared to being on a roller coaster. Lots of adrenaline and endorphins.
I understand, and of course respect, that this is different for everyone and Im not here to cast judgement for that in any way, shape, or form. Part of working on opening up more has been stepping out of the comfort zone and allowing stories to be interpreted/enjoyed by those in this amazing community however they please. Opening up more has given her a little bit of new found confidence and I LOVE it.
My wife has her feet in my hands or touching me in some capacity in almost any free time we have. Rubbing, keeping them warm, and obviously tickles are all very routine. I always keep a ratio if more rubs than tickles during this time because I know its also relaxing for her.
However
Over our marriage, she has increasingly done things intentionally to get tickled. Usually being sassy or playfully bratty, but not until I have her feet. She swears she doesnt, but its been years, and I know my wife well enough to know this is exactly her game hahahaha.
It usually starts with her putting them in my lap, and about half the time asking for a massage. The other half I just get to work. I know how to take a cue lol. Eventually she'll either ignore a question and I start tickling her for attention OR she'll start to get a playful sassy tone and then its game on for having the nerve to talk to me with such disrespect!
Through the course of our marriage, she has broke out of her shell more. Where before she was definitely more reserved with her feet being out when company is around, now she has no issue plopping them in my lap freely when we have friends over.
As you can imagine, this has led to plenty of candid/organic tickling encounters. Her friends think its hilarious and it garners a fun and positive reaction from them. The room usually erupts into cackling and giggles soon after.
For the most part, the tickling has been just me on her. But there have been a few times where I've had help as well. I've noticed that she seems to make these situations happen more frequently as time has passed. Doing things like leaving her feet more exposed, or in vulnerable positions around others. Creating opportunities to get tickled no doubt! She's absolutely and unapologetically a (bit of a bratty) lee to the core.
It's been so fun to see how things have evolved over our relationship from being completely new to everything, to where we are now. I feel so blessed to have her.
