A "for lees" question

[terorizer]

An offshoot of the question I asked about subs in the general discussion forum, mainly because there are quite a few of us who relate to tickling outside of the BDSM context. And too, even those who do, have different preferences/ideas when it comes to tickle play.

That said, how important is it to you as a lee that the ler has or is willing to lee at some point? Do you prefer they be a switch, pure ler, or does it matter at all?

 

[isabeau]

for me, if its a male, strictly a ler, if a female is tickling me she can be a switch with someone else. but i myself am strictly a lee.

isabeau

 

[lk70]

For a one time or occasional play session I'm fine with a man who only wants to ler. For a relationship he's gonna have to be willing to switch and like it!

 

[NeitherSparky]

I've always had to settle for being a strictly a lee so far in my life because I've never played with a guy willing to switch, even for a moment. That's frustrating for me, I would really like to play with a guy willing to switch just ONCE. Well. More than once, but. 🙂

 

[susannah355]

I'm both Ler and Lee. As a Lee I don't require a tickler to have experience being tickled. I'm more interested in his/her ability to tickle.

 

[brokenblue]

am both..

so if it's play, then am your lee....but would love to tickle the sides of my ler too...

 

[sarahgetswet]

Lee / ler

I think experience in being tickled makes me a better (or more evil anyway) tickler and i like switch tickling, at least for play tickling.

 

[fingertarget]

ler matters

I'm a pure 'lee and don't expect or even want a woman to switch nor do I enjoy being in the dominant role when it comes to the kinky side of sexuality.

A woman who switches and expects her counterpart to do so would be disappointed by me.
Even more so, I doubt I could 'dive' into the situation if I knew she would really miss the switching and only kind of compromises by restricting herself to the 'ler aspect to do me a favour (and try to avoid it by talking about it beforehand).

So I always hope she is a pure ler/top and her sadistic side fulfils her dark desires

 

[TicklishLurker]

Mmm - with a guy, he'd always be a 'Ler with me. I don't like submissive men. I don't mind a little mutual toe-sucking, but I don't want to tickle a man. With a woman though I think it would be great to be able to switch back and forth. Though I prefer to be the 'Lee, at the very least I'd like a gal to get into a tickle-fight with.

Again, though, as with any aspect of BDSM, I want my Dom(me) to be well practiced and know a lot so they won't do anything that do real harm to me.

 

[Tamia78]

For a one time or occasional play session I'm fine with a man who only wants to ler. For a relationship he's gonna have to be willing to switch and like it!

I absoloutely agree with LK! More Lers with a sometime switch.

 

[natural tickler]

I absoloutely agree with LK! More Lers with a sometime switch.

*taking down notes*

 

[psycho gurl]

I am both a ler and lee. I don't have a problem being tickled by either one just as long as I have the opportunity to tickle them back. My motto is in order to get some, you gotta give some.

 

[TicklishSinner]

doesnt matter to me honestly jester is a pure ler but sometimes on a blue moon he lets me try my hand at being a ler but that is very rare I am submissive by nature and i love it

 

[TickledToDeath]

Always a switch. There are times when I am in the mood to be one or the other moreso but.........I am and always have been a switch.
I can dish it out and take it ten fold back what I bestow upon my ticklish victims and vise versa too if need be.

 

[TickledToDeath]

I think experience in being tickled makes me a better (or more evil anyway) tickler and i like switch tickling, at least for play tickling.

So the more/longer you are tickled the more evil a ler you become when revenge is at hand for you to take upon the one or ones' who just tickled you?

 

[TickledToDeath]

I've always had to settle for being a strictly a lee so far in my life because I've never played with a guy willing to switch, even for a moment. That's frustrating for me, I would really like to play with a guy willing to switch just ONCE. Well. More than once, but. 🙂

Well perhaps you have not looked in the right place or asked the right person or people?!
Frustration is not needed for you can do what you so desire to do. Ask and thou shalt receive(and give too)!

 

[TickledToDeath]

For a one time or occasional play session I'm fine with a man who only wants to ler. For a relationship he's gonna have to be willing to switch and like it!

Ahhhhhhhhh lk70, you can have both in the occasional play to the intensity your heart desires and with help!

 

[ericr]

I am mostly a lee but I think switching is a good thing, a sort of give and take situation, a matter relating to fairness and equality, etc. So I am always willing to be a ler as well. I am also inclined to think that being an extremely ticklish lee gives one some insights and techniques that make one a good ler.

 

[lk70]

Ahhhhhhhhh lk70, you can have both in the occasional play to the intensity your heart desires and with help!

Oh and I look forward to it someday, TTD. You bet I do.

 

[Jerry67911]

Good question. I'm a switch, and the best case scenerio is finding someone to take turns with. Having someone to share tickling with, knowing that when you are tickling someone, they are enjoying themselves as much as you are, as opposed to worrying if you're making them mad. Then, when they tickle me, they enjoy finding and exploiting my most ticklish spots, and wanting to give me the same experience I gave them.

That said, I might have a problem with a woman that wanted me to tickle her but was not willing to give me the same pleasure I gave her. I'd be more willing to be with a woman that really got off on tickling me but didn't want to be tickled or wasn't ticklish.

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

I absoloutely agree with LK! More Lers with a sometime switch.

*LMAO* and the ler sneaks out of her

 

[Mastertank1]

Sometime switch;

Where should I look for a person's 'sometime switch; 😉 and what will happen if I flip that switch?
I don't have such a switch myself. Stone hetero dominant 'ler.
(That means it's carved in stone. Cannot be changed.)

Mastertank1

We who play and dance are thought mad by they who hear no music.

 

[Lionhart]

Shall I switch?

50/50 here.. I'll switch, switch the switch, then flip a coin to see which switch to switch next.. Too much fun to be had at either end of the ropes.

 

[Mz Chaos]

Ya know... despite what my friends may tell you, I'm pretty easy to get along with.
If I find myself with a 'ler that doesn't wanna be tickled... that'd be cool with me. If he's a switch that's cool with me too. Just as long as I still get my time in as a 'lee.