HallowedGround5
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The following is a guide to all male lers who are looking for a female lee and losing hope. I know there are a lot us out there. If you haven't been able to find a lee partner yet, this guide may just help you find one. My sessions generally last for hours and are always extremely satisfying.
First, a bit about me. I'm a 25 y/o male ler. I joined TMF about 6 years ago; and, it took me quite a while to find a proper female lee that was really into being tickled relentlessly. I never gave up and eventually found exactly what I was looking for. Here's how I did it and continue to do it.
A COUPLE MYTHS
Before we get into how you can land a great lee, I am going to debunk some myths that a lot of men believe are holding them back from success.
1.) I'm not attractive enough. Maybe you're concerned that your looks (or lack there of) will stop you from being able to find an attractive female lee. You couldn't be more wrong. Looking for a lee is like online dating... except it's much easier. You aren't looking for a "relationship", just a partner to tickle - this means that your prospective lee is going to care much less (if at all) about how attracted they are to you. Don't get me wrong, I'm an attractive guy; but, I am no GQ model - it didn't matter.
2.) Most lees only want to be tickled by their boyfriends. Wrong! Actually, it's been my experience that most female lees are looking for tickling, and that's it - or outside of their current relationship. I know it's hard for we tickling enthusiasts to imagine... but a lot of men that aren't into tickling will simply refuse to really tickle their girlfriends the way they want.
MAKING FIRST CONTACT
Most men I know simply don't understand how to talk to women; and, they are even worse at making first-contact, in regard to tickling. I've talked to female lees that I know personally; and, they all say that 99.9% of the messages from guys that they get look something like this: "Wow! I would give anything to suck on your sexy toes!" As far as opening statements go, that kind of statement will get you nowhere, fast. Here's what she's thinking... "This guy doesn't even know me; and, he's making assumptions about my body and what I want - what a creeper". Here's a better way to make first-contact: "Hey username, how's it going? [Insert valid comment about something she posted and/or has on her profile here]". That's it - no need to mention tickling, her feet or how much you want to suck her toes. This statement does two things. Firstly, it shows that you are confident. Secondly, it shows that you are observant and interested.
FOLLOWING UP
Now that you've taken the first step, it's time to follow-up. If you don't hear back from her... don't contact her, for at least a week anyway. If she's at all interested in contact, she will reply rather quickly. At this point, you must not have a "canned" reply for her reply. Instead, your reply to her reply needs to relate directly to whatever she says to you - do not change the subject. Let me say that again - DO NOT CHANGE THE SUBJECT. Here's an example of what not to do and what to do:
Her Reply: "Hey [your username]. Yes, I just joined the forum. I haven't met anyone yet. I'm just looking to meet some cool peeps who share my passions."
Your Reply (wrong): "Oh yeah? Cool. I just noticed that you said your feet were very ticklish; and, I have HUGE foot fetish as well. If you're ever looking for someone to massage/suck on/tickle your feet... look no further."
Your Reply (right): "Oh yeah? Cool. I remember when I joined - it can be a bit awkward at first. There are some cool peeps on here, if you just know where to look. Let me know if you need some tips."
Alright, so do you see the difference? At this point, she either is going to decide to continue your conversation or not. If she does, you're 75% of the way there. Why? Because you listened to her and got inside her head a bit. She said: "I just joined" and you said "it can be a bit awkward at first". You read her mind and she probably feels way more comfortable with you than she did two seconds ago.
THE COURTSHIP
I know, I know... calling it a "courtship" sounds ridiculous; but, that is what's happening. I can't give you a step-by-step for this stage, because everyone is different. The trick is to move at her pace, but push her just a little. She'll let you know when she is ready to move to the...
THE MEET-UP
Now, you've both gotten to know each other fairly well; and, it's time to meet in-person. Where do you go? I recommend agreeing on a location that offers several places you can walk to, if things go well. If you live near a park/beach, consider those. First-off, remember to control yourself. If you're meeting-up, it's likely that you have discussed tickling her. It's easy to assume that you can just pick-up where you left off, when you go to meet her. You can't. It's best to pretend that you've never discussed tickling, when you meet in-person. She's probably going to be very nervous. Hell, so will you. Do not bring-up the topic of tickling - let her do that. Instead, treat the meeting like a casual date. Ask her about her day, week and other interests. Find a common interest to discuss and just let the conversation happen naturally. Eventually, when she feels comfortable, she will bring-up the topic of the night. Just relax and talk about it - don't stress. Be honest with your desires; but, don't freak her out. Do say: "I'm looking for someone I can tie-up and tickle for relatively long periods of time." Do not say: "I want to tie you to a bed and tickle the shit out of you, until you lose your mind." After you discuss tickling, you'll most likely have decided whether you both want to go forward with a "session". The place you decide on will be up to both of you. Now, before you part ways, make sure you tickle her for just a split second. I recommend pinching her sides, when you go-in for a goodbye hug. This is important, because you'll get her mind going - you're teasing her. Make sure you don't overdo it. You don't want to scare her.
THE SESSION
Congrats! You've made it to the final stage - the session. You're not out of the woods yet. Make sure you don't tie her up if she doesn't want it. Ease into it. Start-off light and progress at a pace she is comfortable with. Make sure you agree on a safe-word, in case she wants you to give her a break. If you do things right, you'll likely go-on for hours; and, if you really do things right, you'll have landed a loyal ticklee partner. There's nothing like getting that text or phone call: "Come tickle me tonight!"
First, a bit about me. I'm a 25 y/o male ler. I joined TMF about 6 years ago; and, it took me quite a while to find a proper female lee that was really into being tickled relentlessly. I never gave up and eventually found exactly what I was looking for. Here's how I did it and continue to do it.
A COUPLE MYTHS
Before we get into how you can land a great lee, I am going to debunk some myths that a lot of men believe are holding them back from success.
1.) I'm not attractive enough. Maybe you're concerned that your looks (or lack there of) will stop you from being able to find an attractive female lee. You couldn't be more wrong. Looking for a lee is like online dating... except it's much easier. You aren't looking for a "relationship", just a partner to tickle - this means that your prospective lee is going to care much less (if at all) about how attracted they are to you. Don't get me wrong, I'm an attractive guy; but, I am no GQ model - it didn't matter.
2.) Most lees only want to be tickled by their boyfriends. Wrong! Actually, it's been my experience that most female lees are looking for tickling, and that's it - or outside of their current relationship. I know it's hard for we tickling enthusiasts to imagine... but a lot of men that aren't into tickling will simply refuse to really tickle their girlfriends the way they want.
MAKING FIRST CONTACT
Most men I know simply don't understand how to talk to women; and, they are even worse at making first-contact, in regard to tickling. I've talked to female lees that I know personally; and, they all say that 99.9% of the messages from guys that they get look something like this: "Wow! I would give anything to suck on your sexy toes!" As far as opening statements go, that kind of statement will get you nowhere, fast. Here's what she's thinking... "This guy doesn't even know me; and, he's making assumptions about my body and what I want - what a creeper". Here's a better way to make first-contact: "Hey username, how's it going? [Insert valid comment about something she posted and/or has on her profile here]". That's it - no need to mention tickling, her feet or how much you want to suck her toes. This statement does two things. Firstly, it shows that you are confident. Secondly, it shows that you are observant and interested.
FOLLOWING UP
Now that you've taken the first step, it's time to follow-up. If you don't hear back from her... don't contact her, for at least a week anyway. If she's at all interested in contact, she will reply rather quickly. At this point, you must not have a "canned" reply for her reply. Instead, your reply to her reply needs to relate directly to whatever she says to you - do not change the subject. Let me say that again - DO NOT CHANGE THE SUBJECT. Here's an example of what not to do and what to do:
Her Reply: "Hey [your username]. Yes, I just joined the forum. I haven't met anyone yet. I'm just looking to meet some cool peeps who share my passions."
Your Reply (wrong): "Oh yeah? Cool. I just noticed that you said your feet were very ticklish; and, I have HUGE foot fetish as well. If you're ever looking for someone to massage/suck on/tickle your feet... look no further."
Your Reply (right): "Oh yeah? Cool. I remember when I joined - it can be a bit awkward at first. There are some cool peeps on here, if you just know where to look. Let me know if you need some tips."
Alright, so do you see the difference? At this point, she either is going to decide to continue your conversation or not. If she does, you're 75% of the way there. Why? Because you listened to her and got inside her head a bit. She said: "I just joined" and you said "it can be a bit awkward at first". You read her mind and she probably feels way more comfortable with you than she did two seconds ago.
THE COURTSHIP
I know, I know... calling it a "courtship" sounds ridiculous; but, that is what's happening. I can't give you a step-by-step for this stage, because everyone is different. The trick is to move at her pace, but push her just a little. She'll let you know when she is ready to move to the...
THE MEET-UP
Now, you've both gotten to know each other fairly well; and, it's time to meet in-person. Where do you go? I recommend agreeing on a location that offers several places you can walk to, if things go well. If you live near a park/beach, consider those. First-off, remember to control yourself. If you're meeting-up, it's likely that you have discussed tickling her. It's easy to assume that you can just pick-up where you left off, when you go to meet her. You can't. It's best to pretend that you've never discussed tickling, when you meet in-person. She's probably going to be very nervous. Hell, so will you. Do not bring-up the topic of tickling - let her do that. Instead, treat the meeting like a casual date. Ask her about her day, week and other interests. Find a common interest to discuss and just let the conversation happen naturally. Eventually, when she feels comfortable, she will bring-up the topic of the night. Just relax and talk about it - don't stress. Be honest with your desires; but, don't freak her out. Do say: "I'm looking for someone I can tie-up and tickle for relatively long periods of time." Do not say: "I want to tie you to a bed and tickle the shit out of you, until you lose your mind." After you discuss tickling, you'll most likely have decided whether you both want to go forward with a "session". The place you decide on will be up to both of you. Now, before you part ways, make sure you tickle her for just a split second. I recommend pinching her sides, when you go-in for a goodbye hug. This is important, because you'll get her mind going - you're teasing her. Make sure you don't overdo it. You don't want to scare her.
THE SESSION
Congrats! You've made it to the final stage - the session. You're not out of the woods yet. Make sure you don't tie her up if she doesn't want it. Ease into it. Start-off light and progress at a pace she is comfortable with. Make sure you agree on a safe-word, in case she wants you to give her a break. If you do things right, you'll likely go-on for hours; and, if you really do things right, you'll have landed a loyal ticklee partner. There's nothing like getting that text or phone call: "Come tickle me tonight!"