A QUESTION for those lucky enough to be in a relationship where tickling is a BIG ...

[FlockOfSeagulls]

Part of the dynamic of the couple. I was curious to see if there were any rules about tickling when there are two adults that enjoy tickling/ being tickled.

Is tickling a possibility pretty much 24/7 ? Or does the lee` or ler` have to ask there spouse before ?


I am asking those who are married or in long term relationships where tickling is just part of the equation that makes it a happy healthy union.

Does the ''Not tonight honey, I have a headache'' apply to tickling as well? 😛

 

[FeatheryOctopi]

Well... if she does have a head ache then I would let her be. But in my previous relationship. I tickled her at every chance I could. I think she kind of got annoyed after a while, but she tolerated me pretty well, and soon became occustomed to the fact that she was going to get tickled one way or another, and began to enjoy it. At first I mentioned nothing of my fetish or the way I felt about tickling. She felt that it was something that only me and her had, an innocent loving relationship. Some times when her friends/company was around because I knew it embarassed her. But she knew it embarassed me as well, so sometimes we got into big tickle fights when people were around seeing who would get the upper hand and who would be humiliated. Usually, we both were, lol. If she ever saw what I'm writing I'd be in a world of hurt. Eventually I told her of my fetish, and a few things about the online world of tickling. She was very jealous of it for yearsand our trusts began to dwindle. The whole thing was very complicated, as far as individual personality went. We were great together in the bedroom and had known each other for manny years. But as individuals we weren't very compatable. Sorry to end that story on such a low note, but hope I helped you maybe just a little.

 

[LindyHopper]

I don't think you generally need to "ask permission," any more than you usually ask your spouse permission for sex. Especially if the tickling is something playful, it can pretty much just happen anytime. Of course, if someone isn't in the mood, you have to respect that, too.

 

[Mimi]

Lazzy and I are an engaged "tickling couple"...soon to be married "tickling couple". We met through the tickling community and both are life long tickle fetishists.

Permission is not needed, ever. Tickling is spontaneous, and honestly if we asked permission first it would almost ruin the fun altogether. Serious tickling sessions kind of come about the way a good long steamy sex session would. They just go hand in hand for us.

The "I have a headache" (or similar 'I'm not in the mood' excuses) do still hold up though....even for tickling. You can't tickle 24/7, and there are honestly times one or both of us simply are not in the mood to be tickled and will get highly annoyed by attempts...such as when one of us is sick or in moderate pain. So yeah, it works pretty much just like sex when it's a common factor in the relationship...lol

Mimi

 

[BellaRisa]

Ditto to everything Lindy and Mimi said. As the 'ler in both my relationships tickling is pretty much 24/7 in some shape or form. My hubby is very, very casual with it and uses tickling as part of nearly every physical interaction (I just realized that I can't remember the last kiss or hug that was 100% tk-free ). My boyfriend is a spanker and just mixes tickling into our play, which adds a while 'nother dimension to things . Both absolutely respect me asking them not to tickle, which is so rare they immediately take my temperature... 😛

Bella

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

yep......

Drew and I are constantly sneaking in little pokes and stuff as we go throughout our days. But, if you're talking about more intense sessions, it's like anything else. If one or the other of us isn't in the mood, too tired, not feeling well, whatever, the other will honor that.

 

[TickledToDeath]

Lazzy and I are an engaged "tickling couple"...soon to be married "tickling couple". We met through the tickling community and both are life long tickle fetishists.

Permission is not needed, ever. Tickling is spontaneous, and honestly if we asked permission first it would almost ruin the fun altogether. Serious tickling sessions kind of come about the way a good long steamy sex session would. They just go hand in hand for us.

The "I have a headache" (or similar 'I'm not in the mood' excuses) do still hold up though....even for tickling. You can't tickle 24/7, and there are honestly times one or both of us simply are not in the mood to be tickled and will get highly annoyed by attempts...such as when one of us is sick or in moderate pain. So yeah, it works pretty much just like sex when it's a common factor in the relationship...lol

Mimi

Couldn't have said it better myself.

It was more than tickling that kept us together but tickling is what brought us together.
Otherwise...what Mimi said is right on the money.