A question I was interested in hearing opinions about.

[Shelper4]

I was just wondering....in general, do people think that having a tickling fetish it is more difficult to have a healthy relationship with someone who is not ticklish or truly despises tickling or something of that sort? The question came to me when I tried to compare tickling (to people with the fetish) with sex (to people without any kind of fetish). People without a fetish are left with only sex (and sex related scenarios) to turn them on, while people with a tickling fetish, I would assume, are mostly turned on by tickling.

Now, realizing that, my first question is: could non-fetish people have a healthy relationship if somehow they were denied sex? For instance, if one partner hated sex from the very beginning of the relationship, and continued to avoid and detest it for the complete duration of the relationship? I guess I don't have any specific examples, but I just kind of assume it would make things much more difficult (although, not impossible), as sex is a big part of relationships. Some would even say it's the only reason special relationships with the opposite sex exist....without sex, what could a relationship with a person from the opposite sex be other than a strong friendship? As I type this, I find it interesting that a best friend and a wife are so fundamentally comparable - I have never really thought of that before.

Anyways, as usual, I'm straying from the point on a tangent, so let me try and focus on the question here. Because non-fetish people would almost surely have trouble experiencing a relationship greater than friendship without sex, does that then mean that someone with a tickling fetish, who essentially derives sexual pleasure from tickling, would have trouble experiencing a relationship with someone greater than friendship if that someone is not ticklish, or refuses to participate in tickling? It sounds kind of ridiculous at first, but the more I think about it, the more I approach believing that it could be true.

Excuse this post for being so long, I'm sure I could have phrased this question in a sufficiently explanatory manner in only two or three sentences, but decided on 4 paragraphs instead. Oh well 😛. Anyways, anyone who thinks they can help me answer this question, please post opinions, cite examples, whatever 🙂. Thanks!

P.S. I just noticed that I can place a poll in this post, so I guess I'll try that to condense all of your answers into a statistical format, so it's easier to see overall what people think.

 

[-Kunoke-]

I think it's definately possible...but sort of challenging.

One thing I find is, there are a lot of girls who claim not to be ticklish but have a spot SOMEWHERE.

If we're talking a situation where they really just arn't ticklish anywhere, it all depends on other aspects of the relationship, but it's still possible.

 

[babinsky1]

....Of course this will sound terrible...
I've come to believe that a relationship and tickling don't quite mix.
If she likes to be tickled, unless shes's one of us, she'll get tired of it.
If she doesn't like to be tickled, its all downhill..
And not ticklish at all, the attraction dies out.
Like I said, if she's one of us,like finding a needle in a haystack,you've found the holy grail..
So relationships in tickling are hit and miss unless you have alot of disposable income
to spend on women "who do this sort of thing for a living."
This is from my experience anyway.

 

[rhinoguy]

I have found nonticklish people to be snooty

:snob: I have dated two girls in my life who I could not find a ticklish spot on their entire bodies (Believe me, it wasn't for lack of trying either). It was not a fun romance, and they always felt they were the ones who hade the advantage over me. That is
why I made sure that the woman who is now my lovely wife, I made sure within the first month after we met that the woman who is now my lovely wife is just as ticklish as I am (Trust me, it made a tremendous difference in our dating relatiionship then, as well as in our sex life now!).

The problem with those who are not ticklish is they tend to look down on those who are. They see us as those who are somewhat immature and childish, because we haven't overcome our little "childhood weakness". They are somewhat condescending to those who still struggle in such areas (Most non-ticklish adults I have met say they were extremely ticklish in their childhood, and then they "Grew up out of it").

I have also found nonticklish people to be somewhat uppity and smug, when they find out that you are. That is why I married the woman I did. Though she is not the tickle fanatic that I am, she does enjoy it when I tickle her, and, when I once asked her if she could, would she choose not to be ticklish, she gave me a very adamant, "NO!". I knew then she was the girl for me, and people comment about how much we seem to still be in love newleweds, after seven years of marriage. We don't tell them that part of the secret to our happy union is that we get turned on by tickling, both as the ler and the lee. Nonticklish people, and those who are not into tickling just wouldn't understand such things.

 

[Ross]

My main ex girlfriend (Of course this was before I got into tickling) was not ticklish. I remember even at that time being a bit envious that all my friends could tickle their girlfriends into hysterics, and if I tried to tickle my girlfriend, she would have no reaction.
As to the question of not being ticklish. I would say I would find it moderately challenging to be with a girl who wasnt ticklish at all. I wouldnt turn my back on her and not be with her, if she had all the other qualities, but it certainly would not be first choice.
So, my bottom line answer to this question is that I would and could be with someone who wasnt ticklish, if she had all the other qualities.

R

 

[4stringslinga]

I would always bring up the tickling issue after a few dates with a potential girlfriend because personally it would be hell to be stuck with someone who couldn't or wouldn't except my fetish. Of course you can always convert some girls but im my experience that's really awkward and hard to do.

 

[-Kunoke-]

I would always bring up the tickling issue after a few dates with a potential girlfriend because personally it would be hell to be stuck with someone who couldn't or wouldn't except my fetish. Of course you can always convert some girls but im my experience that's really awkward and hard to do.

Yes. I feel the same. But I usually find out where and how much they are ticklish way before hand.

 

[Shelper4]

:snob: I have dated two girls in my life who I could not find a ticklish spot on their entire bodies (Believe me, it wasn't for lack of trying either). It was not a fun romance, and they always felt they were the ones who hade the advantage over me. That is
why I made sure that the woman who is now my lovely wife, I made sure within the first month after we met that the woman who is now my lovely wife is just as ticklish as I am (Trust me, it made a tremendous difference in our dating relatiionship then, as well as in our sex life now!).

The problem with those who are not ticklish is they tend to look down on those who are. They see us as those who are somewhat immature and childish, because we haven't overcome our little "childhood weakness". They are somewhat condescending to those who still struggle in such areas (Most non-ticklish adults I have met say they were extremely ticklish in their childhood, and then they "Grew up out of it").

I have also found nonticklish people to be somewhat uppity and smug, when they find out that you are. That is why I married the woman I did. Though she is not the tickle fanatic that I am, she does enjoy it when I tickle her, and, when I once asked her if she could, would she choose not to be ticklish, she gave me a very adamant, "NO!". I knew then she was the girl for me, and people comment about how much we seem to still be in love newleweds, after seven years of marriage. We don't tell them that part of the secret to our happy union is that we get turned on by tickling, both as the ler and the lee. Nonticklish people, and those who are not into tickling just wouldn't understand such things.

I understand what you are saying about not having as much fun in the romance without the significant other being ticklish - it makes sense. However, I'm interested that they felt empowered over you due to something like tickling. I guess you're right though, that people might, lost in their egotistical haze, belittle others for being ticklish (only if they are completely not ticklish, I'd assume, to avoid hypocrisy). It's a sad story, really.

But, it intrigues me, because, I guess I just never considered tickling a weakness on that level. The fact that it's.....more of a general weakness....can definitely be a turn on, but....it seems almost voluntary, in a certain way. I mean, it can be involuntary and uncontrollable if you're with trusted friends and in a good mood, but at least personally, as my anger or sadness level goes up, ticklishness generally goes down. This could just be how I personally experience it, though.

I'm glad you found someone that works so well for you, though. It sounds like you lucked out 🙂, and now you're a shining example that maybe all the people involved in terribly unhappy marriages out there should try and follow.

 

[maniactickler38]

My preference is, if the girl isnt extremely ticklish and enjoys tickling, i have zero interest in her.