Acting childish at older age

[Bashiku]

true.I think doing the right thing should be perfectly painless.

Doing and earning are two different things. When you do you do it without pain, for you are giving your help to another who is in need. Earning is the way that hurts and we all have to go through it every once in a while, until we learn something from it.

I still have one childish characteristic that I'm trying to get rid of. I'm trying real hard to stop being a sore loser. Especially when it comes to something that has no reward for winning. Like video games.

Depends... have some of your to be lee's there and bet with them that you will obliterate them ten times with one arm behind the back, and that loser gets tickled for... lets say 15 mins. Then there is a reward... so go back and practice your video games 😛

 

[QueenBeeBeeMari]

Doing and earning are two different things. When you do you do it without pain, for you are giving your help to another who is in need. Earning is the way that hurts and we all have to go through it every once in a while, until we learn something from it.



Depends... have some of your to be lee's there and bet with them that you will obliterate them ten times with one arm behind the back, and that loser gets tickled for... lets say 15 mins. Then there is a reward... so go back and practice your video games 😛

That sounds like fun!

 

[Bashiku]

And Kamikaze has a challenger right now 😛

Go play few games kiddies 🙂

 

[QueenBeeBeeMari]

sounds like fun.I will definitely lose cause I suck at video games lol

 

[Bashiku]

And cause you are always a victim 😛

 

[QueenBeeBeeMari]

yes,but I tickle back

 

[Bashiku]

He ain't no munch kin... he probably has enough rope for that kind of situation. 🙂

 

[QueenBeeBeeMari]

lol,maybe

 

[NMKamikaze1]

sounds like fun.I will definitely lose cause I suck at video games lol

Don't worry, QueenBeeBeeMari. I'll go easy on you. In the video game, that is... 😉

 

[QueenBeeBeeMari]

LOL,I'm sure

 

[Duke Diablo]

true.I wish I had the luck to meet the sweet ones.Not the troubled,abusive ones that I seem to always have to help.

*hugs Queen*

I hope your luck changes in the future. You seem like a super-sweet girl.

No worries... I'm sure you'll meet great friends soon, who will know how to value you.

Remember: Nobody is worthy of your tears. Those that are will never make you cry.

 

[melanie2]

o Duke..this is why i love you..you are such a gentleman and so intelligent..that is such a beautiful sentiment...hugs..

 

[QueenBeeBeeMari]

You are right Izzy.Thank you very much Duke that is very kind words.

 

[N/A]

Eternal youth through immaturity -- works for me.

 

[QueenBeeBeeMari]

people tell adults who act like children to grow up and give them rude looks.Also sometimes even say mean things to them.They also say act your age not your shoes.The general public frowns upon childish adults.

 

[N/A]

I just smile back at the frown.

 

[meteor]

true.I think doing the right thing should be perfectly painless.

Mari doing the right thing can somtimes be the most difficult thing to do, and can require a lot of courage,and very often can lead to pain, life is like a learing curve, you come across as a sensitive and caring person, you can't help em all, and when you need help you are often alone, but when people do respond and show real care and support, you know it's real and it give you faith in human nature.great satisfaction and pride can also come from doing the right thing, and if it's painless it's very rewarding, sorry for being a bore.(but old farts are like that)

 

[QueenBeeBeeMari]

Mari doing the right thing can somtimes be the most difficult thing to do, and can require a lot of courage,and very often can lead to pain, life is like a learing curve, you come across as a sensitive and caring person, you can't help em all, and when you need help you are often alone, but when people do respond and show real care and support, you know it's real and it give you faith in human nature.great satisfaction and pride can also come from doing the right thing, and if it's painless it's very rewarding, sorry for being a bore.(but old farts are like that)

no,you are right.I just have this friend and she always hurts me and she is going down a path of self destruction and is almost insane!I love her and want to help her but she has slapped me in the face about three times,hit me on the head with a bottle,she does tickle me but only when she gets bored or wants to make me do something(which generally doesn't work).She uses her tongue sometimes and it tickles a lot but when she does that I can't move for some reason.Or she tickles me to wake me up,and she bites me sometimes.I just keep trying to help her stay out of trouble and she just doesn't listen and hurts me and doesn't respect me at all.I asked her not to bring somebody over and she did anyway.I would feel bad if I left her but she has told me I should kill myself before when we brought her on vacation when the only reason I was being so negative and depressed was because she wasn't paying me any attention and was hanging around some other girl that I didn't know and didn't really trust.Every time I get upset she says she is sorry and seems sincere but I don't know if she is just lying or not.That is really what has been my biggest issue lately is what to do with her.

 

[kopfhorer1]

QueenBeeBeeMari: It's tough to drop relationships which you know aren't right for you but which also carry some tangible benefits (been there, done that).

Your friend may be lavishing tickles on you only to keep you on the hook so that she can inflict further abuse on you. I've certainly seen that happen before. Self-destructive streaks often accompany passive-aggressive (or not very passive but still aggressive) behavior.

After reading what you wrote above, I'm hearing alarm bells all over the place. IMO, I don't believe you can save this friendship or that your friend can change. Speaking only for myself, if it were me, I'd stay away from this person, period. Easier said than done, I know, especially when she fills a tangible need. A social support system is indispensable at a time like this.

Hope this helps.

 

[Duke Diablo]

o Duke..this is why i love you..you are such a gentleman and so intelligent..that is such a beautiful sentiment...hugs..

You are right Izzy.Thank you very much Duke that is very kind words.

Thanks, you two... but don't let anyone know... gonna ruin that image of heartless bastard I'm so trying to breed.

Now... The two of you must know that I don't give compliments unless I mean them.

no,you are right.I just have this friend and she always hurts me and she is going down a path of self destruction and is almost insane!I love her and want to help her but she has slapped me in the face about three times,hit me on the head with a bottle,she does tickle me but only when she gets bored or wants to make me do something(which generally doesn't work).She uses her tongue sometimes and it tickles a lot but when she does that I can't move for some reason.Or she tickles me to wake me up,and she bites me sometimes.I just keep trying to help her stay out of trouble and she just doesn't listen and hurts me and doesn't respect me at all.I asked her not to bring somebody over and she did anyway.I would feel bad if I left her but she has told me I should kill myself before when we brought her on vacation when the only reason I was being so negative and depressed was because she wasn't paying me any attention and was hanging around some other girl that I didn't know and didn't really trust.Every time I get upset she says she is sorry and seems sincere but I don't know if she is just lying or not.That is really what has been my biggest issue lately is what to do with her.

Well, it depends on exactly what sort of relationship you have with her. However, it seems like you're not getting appreciated enough. Try having a serious conversation with her, tell her how you feel, and if she still doesn't take you seriously... well, unfortunately, it might be time to say goodbye.

 

[QueenBeeBeeMari]

It would be hard to say good-bye and leave her to get into more trouble then she has already though.

 

[meteor]

It would be hard to say good-bye and leave her to get into more trouble then she has already though.

It seems a very complex situation, possibly a cooling off, sort of trial seperation away from the person to see what happens, or get proper advice from a proffesional, but remember if the situation involves anything addictive. gambling, drugs, booze, it's always a long uphill battle and advice is sure to be needed. the person may be the kind that gets everyone running round playing one against the other.I feel you deserve a lot better treatment and respect, you don't deserve all this, you have all your life ahead, look after yourself more. sorry i'am on the soap box again and can't help more. good luck we are all here for you.

 

[QueenBeeBeeMari]

Thanks Meteor and your not,you are being honest.