Advice for a young man with little dating experience and a tickling fetish

[TheFlyingV]

I figured I'd get all of the important points out in the title. XD

To give you a little background, I'm only just getting started in this world. Ever since becoming an adult, I've been thinking about how I'm going to live my life once I'm out on my own. Though there are very many factors that scare me, most of them are ones I can reason my way through where I know I'll meet success (provided that nothing goes absolutely awry. XD)

I've had very little experience with dating. In total, I have maybe a month's worth of experience from all (well, both) of my relationships. Those relationships were a couple of years ago, so it wasn't even in the state of mind I live in today.

Anyway...

I just wanted to know if anybody here on TMF had any advice that they could give a young man who is going to be venturing off into this world with this fetish. My love of tickling is not new to me; rather, it's something I discovered moreso and had confirmed within the last few years particularly.

I know this is kind of a vague thread, but I'm really up for any advice that you can give to somebody like me (relating to tickling fetish or not).

I await responses. ^_^

 

[rhiannon]

I would say: Relax and go with the flow! Don't think too much about stuff, let it happen!

 

[Artoo]

Two words that solve everything. Ooze confidence.

Don't let your relative inexperience put you off; you're still young.
Oh, and good luck. 🙂

 

[Morpheus72]

Don't make too much of your tickling *fetish* with your prospective partners. You enjoy tickling and want to share it with someone. Leave it at that, and, like Rhiannon said, go with the flow.

 

[thetmfobserver]

Your fetish is a part of you, but most likely, it does not consume every waking moment, not does it totally encapsulate your existence. Therefore, treat it just as you would any other part of you.

In terms of the dating scene, I'd recommend not trying to find people at places you wouldn't normally go. If you're not a big partier, don't strictly go to bars looking to score chicks. Contrary to popular belief, there are women everywhere.

Take it slow, be yourself, and relax. You'll likely feel like an idiot at some point along the road, so be prepared to shake it off and try again. As time passes, you'll become a bit more confident.

Best of luck.

 

[LD_Tickler]

Don't psych yourself out. Neither your current inexperience or fetish are going to ruin your sex life. Chillax is my best advice.

 

[WorkInProgress]

This is my bias, and it doesn't solve everything, but my suggestion about dating is to put emphasis on the forming and maintaining of quality friendships with both men and women. Intimacy, after all, is ideally the outgrowth of friendship. But also, you should be in touch with how intense your fetish is, so that you can gauge how important it is to have a romantic partner who shares it.

 

[BMoreTklr]

Hmmm, young or old, new advice in this department is always a good thing

 

[texastickler]

Let me say this to you my friend! Your question is neither strange nor unique! As a person that was in your possition once, I know what you are feeling! Be yourself when dating! Leave tickling out of the equation for the time being! Get to know the person you are with and have fun! If tickling one another happens then let it! Do not let it control your fun and sharing with your date! As you get to know one another, and you share more about yourselves, then if the time is right you can bring it up if you feel comfortable! The idea is to get to know one another super well! If you have any questions please feel free to ask!

 

[Master Baiter]

Just be yourself!

If that doesn't work, try chloroform and a straitjacket.

Works every time!

 

[TickVix]

Well as cornballish as this may sound 🙂, Just be yourself nothing more nothing less I think women respect men more who are true to themselves and who are not trying to be someone they aren't, So in other words if you have a love of tickling and you want to share this love with whomever you wind up dating than do so. It can't be that bad, and I mean if she's open minded that's even better. Nevertheless I wish you all the best and I hope it all works out for you.

 

[DeBris]

maybe it will help if you try stabilizing your career first. then the ladies will come in after you build your confidence and socialize in casual manner.

 

[Marquis De Sade]

maybe it will help if you try stabilizing your career first. then the ladies will come in after you build your confidence and socialize in casual manner.

This. And work on the dating part first, kink second. 😉

 

[Rustenexcel87]

Sounds like your getting some solid advice here. I would also tell you to make your business to enjoy pleasing your girlfriend. I'm not talking sexually here. I'm saying find out the things she likes and do them and do them often. I'm of the thinking if you treat a woman like gold good things will happen for you, and if she don't start treating you the same then move on. I've seen girls who are so appreciative of their men because of how they are treated by then that they aslo go out of their way for their men. If you can get to this point, I would bring up the tickle fetish then. Best of luck man.

 

[Phineas]

Ima share a link with you. It's a blog, and I agree with most of the stuff the guy writes. He's got both a tickling and a foot fetish, and often writes about how to come to grips with it and integrate it constructively into your dating life. He also answers reader mail, so you can write to him with any questions you've got.

Footnotes

In addition to that, I agree with the good Marquis. Your kink is a part of you, but you need to be able to meet people 'properly' first - and that's all about confidence and comfort. If women find you icky to be around, piling a fetish on top of that isn't going to make you any sexier. If, on the other hand, they think you're all that and a bag of chickens, they'll be more willing to receive anything that's a part of you favorably. I generally suss out whether they're fetish-friendly within the first couple of dates, but that's only because I've been doing this forever and know how. You may want to wait until you've got the standard first-date protocols under your belt before you throw tickling into the mix.

Good luck!

Oh, and if your name is in reference to the guitar... hello from a fellow Gibson man. 🙂

 

[Em Es]

Women do the choosing

TheFlyingV, I can't speak for other men but from what I've observed as well as had happen in my own bachelor life, I can tell you women do the choosing. Practically every girl I dated either approached me or made it easy for me to make the first move; virtually all the girls I tried to meet cold turned me down, even colder.

Were I young and single again, instead of spending the time I did trying to connect with girls I'd use it to make myself more attractive to them. I encourage you to read; exercise; volunteer; and work harder in school or at your job, depending on what you're doing right now. Instead of going out Friday and Saturday nights, get part-time work and save the money you earn. You will have a lot more going on, and the female fence-sitters who would have not paid attention to you before will take a second look.

And by not being one of those young men always on the make, you are a challenge to the girls - and girls like a challenge. I'm not saying you'll become the big man in town. But you will have more dignity, not being so anxious to please women, and they will notice. Some of those young ladies will meet you halfway, if not make it very easy to get their phone numbers and date them.

As for tickling these girls, TheFlyingV, all I can tell you is when a woman wants to please a man, her limits are not far from his wildest dreams. Just make sure she's eager to make you happy, as that matters more than anything else you could want from a woman. The single greatest force I've ever known is a woman who wants to satisfy a man. Give me the plain Jane who is dying to be with me over the knockout who busts my balls every step of the way, any day. A girl who wouldn't let some other guy tickle her will put up with it and even learn to like it if you're the man she wants.