Advice for dealing w/my roommate...

[Concerned-IA]

First of all, I'd just like to say I'm not here to offend anyone or be rude. With that said, I'd like to just get right to the point.

My roommate (I'll call him Bob) is obsessed with tickling girls. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with that, but there is something wrong about how he goes about it. Any female friend of mine that he meets he immediately begins texting. He starts off acting genuinely interested in getting to know the girl, however this quickly turns to questions about the girl's financial situation and ability to pay her bills. Bob then offers to help her by giving her hundreds of dollars in exchange for "helping me out with something" - now, most of the time the girls will be freaked out thinking he's wanting sex, and just ignore him and that's fine, no one is hurt. However, some girls agree to let him tickle them for money but after he gets what he wants, Bob doesn't hold up his promise and denies everything, thoroughly upsetting the girl. (which by the way, are mostly friends of mine which is how I know all of this, i have personally heard similar stories from multiple different girls)

In addition, he has a girlfriend who I also introduced him too. She works almost all the free time she has when she's not going to college classes. About once or twice a week, Bob will have a girl in his room while his girlfriend is working her butt off at work to pay his bills (Bob has NO job). This upsets me as I don't agree with it but I don't think it's my place to say anything.. though at times I think I should for Bob's girlfriend's sake. *sigh*

Finally, just in the last few weeks since Bob has started taking some classes at a local community college, he is now telling girls that he is doing a "research project of feet, and their stimulation" and that he needs female subjects. I've heard this story from two different female friends of mine and I know he talks to a lot of other girls that I do not know, so who knows how many people he is lying to like this.

In summary, I would just like to know what I can do to protect my friends but at the same time not embarrass or upset my roommate, Bob. I don't think promising money (and not following through) and lying about academically relatedness to these girls is right. This has been going on for almost 2 years now and I'm getting pissed about it.


Thank you,

Concerned in IA

 

[Borg Perfection]

I would tell him straight up, in a firm yet calm and respectful manner, that what he's doing is wrong. I would then (and if you don't want to get involved jump straight to this step) find a new place to live, or a new room mate. If you're concerned about hurting a friend (if you consider him a friend) then it's time to get new friends. That isn't the type of person you want to keep company with. If he's stabbing his own girlfriend in the back, leeching off of her, cheating on her, and lying to people, then you're better off without him.

Get to it.

 

[rhiannon]

Your roommate, Bob, deserves to be upset! Be a snitch! Warn everybody. Especially tell his girlfriend what's going on. Who would care if a jackass like that gets upset?

 

[scottg]

Confront him

U should confront him & tell him what he's doing is wrong. He's not only disrespecting ur friends,by scamming them,but he's also disrespecting u as a result!! I'd be less worried about hurting his feelings than losing all my friends as a result of his actions!!! Just my thoughts...........................

 

[Cy/MiG]

Yeah, this guy 'Bob' sounds like a jackass.

Tell him to own up or you'll rat him out, ditch him and move on.

If he can't understand why what he's doing is wrong, give him a much needed reality check.

 

[Carsomyr]

Bob doesn't seem to give a damn about other people's feelings, so why should you give a damn about his? It's commendable that you still hesitate because you want to be sure to go about this the right way, but it's pretty clear that this has to stop one way or the other. The real question is what you can do to limit how messy it gets once the shit hits the fan, but I'm not really aware enough of the situation to give you any good advice there.

Best of luck, though! 🙂

 

[Angel77]

Kind of scary when someone is so obsessed that they let their fetish rule their lives. The fact that he has other women over while his girlfriend is working to support the both of them just makes him sound like an asshole.

Maybe suggest that he move in with his girlfriend if she's paying for his bills anyway? Unfortunately she doesn't see the harm in this in paying for someone who does nothing to help her or himself, or you - as his roommate.

On a side note - I've always found it kind of creepy when someone "tricks" someone into being part of their fetish.

Best of luck to you!

 

[TropicThunder]

Hmmm. I think you're going to find the same response from most people here. Confront him and tell him how you feel. From the way you talk about him, it doesn't sound like you're too keen on having a person like that in your life, so don't stress too much on worrying about embarassing him. Look at how he is embarrassing these other girls.

Who knows? Maybe you'll get lucky enough that "Bob" is a member of the TMF and he's just figured out you're referring to him. Then the works cut out for you. =D

 

[fygar]

Sounds to me like "Bob" needs a bloody nose. Sorry but, he just sounds to me like a self serving slob with no regard for the feelings of others.

I suppose a non-violent lessen could be to totally humiliate him in front of all these women like say tying him up outside, stripping him naked, dowsing him with cold water and then letting his former victims tickle him into a blubbering baby. Oh! And get it all on camera and threaten to put it on YT if he doesn't change his ways.

Sorry but, he DESERVES to be upset in some way. He sounds like a spoiled, punk-ass brat who's used to getting his way.

 

[NonConTickler]

I wish I was a con artist and could get away with stuff like that, but I'm too lazy.

 

[Master Baiter]

What the hell is wrong with the morality police here?

This guy is your roommate, and you are *definitely* not his mother.

The way he treats his girlfriend or other women is none of your damn business.

If you don't like it move your sorry ass out and quit being a nosy, whiny bitch.

 

[NonConTickler]

What the hell is wrong with the morality police here?

This guy is your roommate, and you are *definitely* not his mother.

The way he treats his girlfriend or other women is none of your damn business.

If you don't like it move your sorry ass out and quit being a nosy, whiny bitch.

Awesome post! LMAO

 

[marcusb]

It matters because he's pulling this crap on her friends.

He's a slime and needs to be called out as such. What he's doing is total BS.

What the hell is wrong with the morality police here?

This guy is your roommate, and you are *definitely* not his mother.

The way he treats his girlfriend or other women is none of your damn business.

If you don't like it move your sorry ass out and quit being a nosy, whiny bitch.

 

[fygar]

What the hell is wrong with the morality police here?

This guy is your roommate, and you are *definitely* not his mother.

The way he treats his girlfriend or other women is none of your damn business.

If you don't like it move your sorry ass out and quit being a nosy, whiny bitch.

Now, now, now... Calm down, Bob. Don't get your little panties all in a wad.

 

[LD_Tickler]

Yeah, I don't believe this story at all, but on the off-chance that it's true, I'll weigh in.

Warn your friends. Tell your friends who meet him what you just told us. Then they won't fall for it.

 

[Adam]

Yeah, I don't believe this story at all, but on the off-chance that it's true, I'll weigh in.

Warn your friends. Tell your friends who meet him what you just told us. Then they won't fall for it.

I don't buy it either. Agreed on the advice though, on the chance that this story may be true.

 

[Phineas]

Bob's problem isn't that he has a tickling fetish. Bob's problem is that he's a liar and a cheat. I'm torn on the notion of whether or not it's any of your business, but I definitely support telling his girlfriend about it.

And why is this story so hard to believe? You don't have to look very far to find people on this very forum who'd do something like that... or wish they had the balls to.

 

[fygar]

Being a poor excuse for a decent human being has nothing to do with having balls.

 

[Rectangle]

WTF is all I can say.

 

[starfires]

I am going to agree with Phineas here, big surprise.

Bob's problem is that he's a liar and a cheat.

So, before you think about fixing his problems, consider your own situation. Your problem, at the moment, is that you are living with a liar and a cheat. I recommend moving out. Then you can consider educating your now ex-roommate on the virtues of civilized behavior.

 

[mart]

Send him a link to this thread. That should obviate the need for further conversation.