advice for first tickling session

[jkb]

I'm planning on having my first dungeon tickling session (or tickling session period) at the Dungeon of Mistress Jasmine in NYC either this weekend or the next, depending on prior plans and weather (damn snow!). I was hoping that many of our tickling experts here can give this tickle virgin some advice.

I don't know whether I should schedule a 1/2 hour session or a 1 hour session. I'm not too worried about price, but they are $150 and $220 respectively. I'm more worried about how the session will go. It's not that I think that I may be unable to handle the tickling (there's always the safeword if I can't); on the contrary, I'm nervous that I may not be ticklish enough. Through my life, I've gotten different results from different people, and I'm worried that I may go and find myself not even flinching at anything. I don't know if it's a good idea to do the full hour, but it feels like a 1/2 hour wouldn't even be worth the effort. And on the flip side, I'd hate to schedule a full hour session and then not even last 10 minutes before bugging out and having to use the safeword. Like I said, some people have said that an hour may be too long, but I can't even imagine a half hour session being worth it, especially with what I want to do (an intense interrogation scene). But like I said before, I'm more worried about not ticklish enough than too ticklish. Any advice for how long I should schedule my very first session?

In preparation, is there any way I can make myself more ticklish somehow? I've never really looked around on this forum to see if it was possible. Or is there some sort of trick to tell if you are ticklish?

 

[Cercatore]

Oil on soles and other part of your body make you much ticklish, but i think that it's mistress's problem, if she is a real good sadistic mistress.

 

[Mike3355]

First important thing to do when going to one of these places, is to just relax... let the gal take care of ya and do the work once your relaxed you'll find she'll have no problem finding your tickle spots, besides they have a good sense of these things to find those spots that will get the others going good... as to prep, when ever i go for a session like this i tend to put moisturising lotion on my feet... i'm not sure if it actully improves anything, unfortunatly years of labour work have given me quite the callouses on my soles but it's part of that relaxing bit i was saying above, if you go in there nervous as hell, it won't be nearly as fun, and as a guy who started with the half hour session his first go... go for the full hour bud... just trust me...

 

[ticklebunny 2]

Yeah it most definitely very important to try to get yourself to relax and enjoy the experience. It is key to try to mentally get yourself to relax and prepare to enjoy the tickle experience. I agree with the other poster to your thread-you most definitely need to schedule the full hour, that way you give yourself plenty of time to relax and ease into the session. It will give you time to warm up to the experience of a tickle mistress tickling you and will give her ample time to find your most intense tickle spots. Also would make you feel as pressured I imagine-help you unwind and actually get a chance to enjoy the experience more, not worry you won't be able to relax to enjoy it.

Whereas I don't actually have knowledge or really first hand experience in this type of situation or scenario, I have to say I have been tickled and I have been one who has dished out the tickles, when you are receiving you are submissive-that is a whole other mindset you have to embrace versus usually being the dominant ler who dishes out the tickles. First you need to try to find ways to help yourself relax so you won't be nervous and wondering the whole time, oh man what if this don't work out, I am not ticklish as much, you get thinking and worrying like that, it is likely that is exactly what is going to happen, then you are gonna get bummed out and be disappointed with the experience. Just try to keep your expectations low, I am not saying don't anticipate the experience, just try to keep your expectations positive but managable, not real high expectations, be looking forward to it but try not to get your expectations too high, I hope this makes sense.

Foremost very important either before this tickle session starts or during, let her know what feels good and what you like and don't like, or better yet talk about it before hand so she knows what your hard limits are, what u enjoy and what you don't like done, have your safeword established , a safeword that you say-lets her know the tickling has gotten too intense and too much for you at that present time, you need it to stop immediately, universal safewords generally used are red, yellow, and green, don't know if you knew that, generally commonly known but thought I would mention it. Red-means STOP, yellow means yeah feels good but go slow, proceed tickling w precaution, Green means all is good, keep tickling, keep doing what you are doing, that or you can come up w your own safeword, you could always use the word Fire, Danger, Panic or something like that-one word that you can say easy enough if you get nervous or need tickling to stop or slow down-that way the mistress can know whether to slow down or stop, good to have a safeword-use when u no longer can take the tickling and a panic word-designed to help a ler slow down and take things slower, hope this helps.

But in the case you are paying for the tickle session I would not use the safeword unless absolutely can't take no more tickling or starting to freak out, a cautionary slow down panic, need go slower word be good to slow the pace down but not stop the tickling, but in this case only use the safeword in emergency since you are paying for the session but other then this, communication is key let her know what you enjoy and don't enjoy, this goes the same for other future tickle sessions. Hope this helps, yeah oil does help soften the skin, especially the soles and on skin, sensitizes the area, it can help or work against you, if your feet are especially hyper ticklish I would not put oil on them, might be over too soon for you, or if not feet or another area, hyper ticklish, maybe ask her to save that for last, you know think you get the idea, that way you get tickled real good and towards the end get that intense tickle rush you are looking for, when your hyper tickle spot is targeted or tickle spots, that way you get more tickle for the buck😉 just a idea anyways, that way by the time she hits that spot you will be going hysterical laughing and likely this way not be disappointed, won't risk being tickle "broke" too quickly, be a way to keep you from safewording too much.

Oh a word of advice that could help I would have her use the light tickle tools first, feather, or q tips if she has them or stiff feathers, depending on how ticklish where she tickles -then have her use her hands and harder tickle tools later on hyper tickle spots like from experience when I have been tickled by harder tickle tools: great ones like Crest Spin Brush electric toothbrush has rechargeable batteries, sonic brush, oral b pulsar toothbrush, electric toothbrush-sadly no rechargeable batteries but a great tool just have to get another when it is worn out, oral b that is, keys lightly traced but can be a intense hard tickle tool if gently traced and not scratched on one's soles or skin, chop sticks flat end of course, not pointy end, fingertips playfully administered to ones' skin-these can be great hard intense tickle tools, these should be saved until towards the end: least for just this once since first time experience. Hope this helps let me know if it does. Have fun, try to relax, try not to overthink it and just let her know what you enjoy, communciate what you want, and relax and enjoy the experience. Please let us know how it goes, hope it is a great tickle adventure for you.

PS oh forgot to ask just curious is there going to be bondage, light or harder bondage, semi hard tickle bondage like leather soft cuffs, velcro cuffs, underbed restraint cuffs, or furry or metal handcuffs, might help to know this so we can further help you w advice to help you ease into the whole tickle session especially if bondage is used for the first time or not, or is it hardcore bondage, immobility when tickled, just curious, want it to be a great tickle session for you-like I said, want to be positive and happy for you-more tickle for your buck, have a great tickle session forgive the blunt questions just trying to help. Hugs.

 

[Oekaki-Tickles]

WOW! Such long responses! Personally, I say go for the full hour to get your money's worth. Let your tickler know how you're feeling... if you've ever been ticklish, I'm sure you still are. 😉

So, if it gets too rough, let her know. I'm sure she could make it pleasureable as well.

It's not so hard to go between torture and pleasure. 🙂

Enjoy!

 

[ticklebunny 2]

Yeah I know I tend to go on tangents at times. I know I tend to write very thought provoking and very thoughtful detailed answers at times. I can't help it I have a lot to express, but yeah the reader digest I advise, like Oaki Tickles said, just tell her what you enjoy and how you would like to be tickled, relax and enjoy the tickle experience go for the full hour-how is that😉? Is that better Oaki Tickles lol

 

[Oekaki-Tickles]

Yeah I know I tend to go on tangents at times. I know I tend to write very thought provoking and very thoughtful detailed answers at times. I can't help it I have a lot to express, but yeah the reader digest I advise, like Oaki Tickles said, just tell her what you enjoy and how you would like to be tickled, relax and enjoy the tickle experience go for the full hour-how is that😉? Is that better Oaki Tickles lol

Oh! I didn't mean to sound mean if I did! I was just like, "Wow!" xD; I was blown away by how much everyone had to say on the subject! Obviously, I just need to get more into it! xD

And er... *ahem* Yes, Ticklebunny 2... Much better! xD



^.^;

 

[CodeBreaker]

I have no advice here, but I hope you enjoy yourself and have a good time. Relax and have fun.

 

[jkb]

Thanks to everyone for the replies! The advice is really helpful, not to mention appreciated. I think I'm going to go for the full hour. I hope the hour is "hellish" (you know what I mean). Like I said, I'm hoping for an intense interrogation session. I want to have two safewords; one being the supposed codeword that the interrogator is looking for (with the mistress having the right if she wants to ignore it), and another one that functions as the actual session safeword.

Ticklebunny, no need to apologize for the long reply or "blunt" questions. I'd rather that than silence. I'm hoping for some fairly restrictive bondage. No mummification or Japanese bondage or anything like that, just racks, stocks, X-frames, etc. The place I'm going to actually doesn't have as much as I'd like, but one room has an X-frame and a small jail cell with overhead shackles and another room has a pillory and a CBT chair. I'm hoping for the former room, and I'm also hoping for the mistress to tickle me unrestrained (like having me keep my arms up while she tickles my armpits or something).

The place I'm going to is called the Dungeon of Mistress Jasmine. Anybody ever been to that place and could recommend specific mistresses to ask for or stay away from? I like the idea of intimidating dommes, so I'm looking at Mistress Amber, Lady Vex, Mistress Nova, or Mistress Miranda. But I'd prefer input from anyone here who has more experience than I.

Also, the full hour is $220. How much does one tip for that?

Thanks, all.

 

[Rustenexcel87]

Well if you went today for the seshion, I hope it was a fun one JKB if you have not went yet, or at least for next time, I just wanted to share a tickle trick with you. Before I know I am going to get tickled I shower with dove soap it seems to get me more ticklish for some reason. The Dove body was works good too. Also last year I was in Vegas and I went to the hotel spa where they had a special package for men it included a sports massage combined with a viggorus scrub down with sea salt. The scrub was new to me, I get messages all the time but the scrub felt awesome. They scrub you witht the salt mixed with oil from head to toe the you rinse off before your rub down. Later that day just to touching my skin lightly tickled more intense then ever. The next time I get tickled I plan to get a salt scrub first.
There is a spa on 8th ave and 14 st in NYC called Nickel Spa For Men. They have mostly female staff that does the body treatments. You can call them and if a spa is not your thing (I was afraid to walk in for the first time) you can request a woman do the treatment durring your appointment to make you feel more at ease.

Aside from that I hope you have fun witht the seshion. PM after you have it if you got time. I live in Astoria Queens and would like to go to a misteress myself for a tickle. I'm turning 30 in April so perhaps I just might treat myself so let me know how it goes.
Dave

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

I've never done a session like you're describing before, so my advice is kinda blind, but I would say go for the 1/2 hour - see how you like it. You can always come back for more.

 

[jkb]

Hope no one minds me bumping this thread back up.

Haven't gone yet. Haven't even booked the session. Mainly because I'm not sure of upcoming plans and weather conditions. I really want to go this weekend.

Has anybody been to the Dungeon of Mistress Jasmine in NYC (the place I'm planning on going)? It looks promising, and I'm just looking to get some feedback about the place.