"All Girls Gathering" Am I the only uncomfortable one?

[ViperGTS]

I spent a lot of time with my girlfriend (Irishgirl5) over the weekend, and while we were surfing the boards, she told me about an all women gathering that is trying to be arranged by several of the more prominent female ticklephiles of the boards.

Now, even though Irishgirl5 is not able to go (which I would not try to stop her if she could, mind you), I feel slightly...uncomfortable about the idea. From what I have learned, the situation is also sparking an entire website.

It's difficult for me to put this to proper words. I feel at a slight loss for it. It seems as though the mere fact that those of us have a pair of testicles is excluding us from part of the society. Granted, we still have the open areas like the TMF and whatnot, but aren't "Gatherings" all about everyone, from all walks of life, with all different backgrounds, from BOTH genders, being able to come together to explore our fetish? I don't feel as though it's...well, "right", to hold an exclusive gathering such as this. I also feel very left out about the alleged website I've heard of also, for the same reason.

I am not saying these things shouldn't happen. In fact, I'm rather confused. Should I not be feeling this way? Am I wrong to feel left out of such a thing, and the only male here that feels so? Am I over reacting?

 

[TMF Jeff]

Personally I think it's great that the girls are all getting together, and I don't feel left out at all.

I especially don't think gatherings have to be, or should be, about any one thing, like including everyone. This one happens to be about including only women and I'm totally fine with that. To me it makes a lot of sense that they would want to have a night without the pressure of having guys around.

 

[Krokus]

well, organize an all guys gathering... I'd much rather have it that way anyhow.


of course, im sure the guys here don't share the enthusiasm, LOL

 

[TMF Jeff]

well, organize an all guys gathering... I'd much rather have it that way anyhow.


of course, im sure the guys here don't share the enthusiasm, LOL

That's a great idea, all the guys who feel left out by the girls gathering can get together and tickle each other too 😉

 

[Krokus]

That's a great idea, all the guys who feel left out by the girls gathering can get together and tickle each other too 😉

sounds like a plan! would be much fun, unfortunately I think attendance would be a bit sparce.


one can dream!!

 

[kcantankerous]

Big deal I say let them do as they wish it doesnt bother me. Think of it as a girls night out, if they all turn into lesbians or something than I can see why youd be worried but it's something women do. I say lets watch sports or gamble or something, or find one of millions of women out there to play with if it were to bother you.

 

[venray]

I spent a lot of time with my girlfriend (Irishgirl5) over the weekend, and while we were surfing the boards, she told me about an all women gathering that is trying to be arranged by several of the more prominent female ticklephiles of the boards.

Now, even though Irishgirl5 is not able to go (which I would not try to stop her if she could, mind you), I feel slightly...uncomfortable about the idea. From what I have learned, the situation is also sparking an entire website.

It's difficult for me to put this to proper words. I feel at a slight loss for it. It seems as though the mere fact that those of us have a pair of testicles is excluding us from part of the society. Granted, we still have the open areas like the TMF and whatnot, but aren't "Gatherings" all about everyone, from all walks of life, with all different backgrounds, from BOTH genders, being able to come together to explore our fetish? I don't feel as though it's...well, "right", to hold an exclusive gathering such as this. I also feel very left out about the alleged website I've heard of also, for the same reason.

I am not saying these things shouldn't happen. In fact, I'm rather confused. Should I not be feeling this way? Am I wrong to feel left out of such a thing, and the only male here that feels so? Am I over reacting?

Most gatherings are not open to everyone. Most gatherings have a strict screening process to assure safety and security.....

So, an all girls gathering......?....more power to them.... ....

Are you afraid that they might not want to socialize with us guys again?....

 

[ViperGTS]

See, to screen for safety and security, I can understand that. "You are a serial killer, you cannot attend" is alot different from "You have a Y chromosome, you cannot come". 😛

What I don't like is that it almost feels like being cheated on. If Irishgirl were to go, anyway. I am sure that there are other guys out there that feel the same way I do. Tickling, as silly as it may sound, is something that at least I consider to be almost special between us, something we do not only to bond but to enhance the bedplay. Knowing the effect it has on me (and on her), and knowing that someone else will be doing that to her without me being there, is very upsetting.

Again I want to make it clear that I say this not for myself but for the other guys who I am fairly sure feel the same way, since I know I am not the only guy who is dating a fellow tickling fetishist.

 

[battlecat]

See, to screen for safety and security, I can understand that. "You are a serial killer, you cannot attend" is alot different from "You have a Y chromosome, you cannot come". 😛

What I don't like is that it almost feels like being cheated on. If Irishgirl were to go, anyway. I am sure that there are other guys out there that feel the same way I do. Tickling, as silly as it may sound, is something that at least I consider to be almost special between us, something we do not only to bond but to enhance the bedplay. Knowing the effect it has on me (and on her), and knowing that someone else will be doing that to her without me being there, is very upsetting.

Again I want to make it clear that I say this not for myself but for the other guys who I am fairly sure feel the same way, since I know I am not the only guy who is dating a fellow tickling fetishist.

I see where you are coming from mate and in a way I think you're right but as you are the only man in her life, that bit of it will always be special to just you and her anyway.

I grew up with two older sisters and whenever they had or went to a sleepover or 'jammies only party' there was always loads of tickling going on, I know because they'd come and tease me by describing it in infinate detail (knowing how much tickling turned me on and made me blush then). Personally I see this as being just an adult version of those sort of parties.

Even when I was at college the girls I knew regularly met up for 'girly nights'. I think its just a girly thing to do.

I know it's easy for me to say as I am in England and don't know anyone personally who is likely to attend but if it was me I wouldn't worry too much guys, just as boys are boys, then girls will be girls but they'll soon be home once they have had their share of girly fun and need some proper 'man loving' (um..just to clarify I mean straight sex here, I am not referring to the kinda thing that I hear happens in the showers while blokes are in Jail!!)

P.S From your sig it looks like we could be long lost twins only I have closer cropped hair and a slightly hairer chest...

 

[TheFactor]

See, to screen for safety and security, I can understand that. "You are a serial killer, you cannot attend" is alot different from "You have a Y chromosome, you cannot come". 😛

What I don't like is that it almost feels like being cheated on. If Irishgirl were to go, anyway. I am sure that there are other guys out there that feel the same way I do. Tickling, as silly as it may sound, is something that at least I consider to be almost special between us, something we do not only to bond but to enhance the bedplay. Knowing the effect it has on me (and on her), and knowing that someone else will be doing that to her without me being there, is very upsetting.

Again I want to make it clear that I say this not for myself but for the other guys who I am fairly sure feel the same way, since I know I am not the only guy who is dating a fellow tickling fetishist.

To me it feels like your insecure about your relationship with Irishgirl. Tell me do you feel cheated on when your gf goes to the bathroom? Because in stores and most other places there are rooms where only guys can enter and only girls can enter. Anyways I don't think you should feel "threatened" by this, it's no big deal.

 

[ViperGTS]

Such a notion is so ridiculous it's almost funny. Irishgirl isn't even going (like I have said maybe three or four times), and if you read the actual posts, I said I am not expressing this for only myself, since I am fairly sure there are other guys out there who at least understand my point of view on this matter, if not share the same feelings.

 

[luvgirlsfeet]

I myself dont feel left out at all. It's good for them to get together and have a good time whether they tickle each other or not. But we know they will tickle each other silly. Personally I think its very cool

 

[AquaFeline]

If you look at the normal male:female ratios you'd understand 😉 It's no more meant personally than something like the society of women engineers, I'm guessing it's partially because of being outnumbered so much of the time.

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

I think a bit of clarification may be needed here. First off, everyone has their own view of what tickling means to them. For many of us, though tickling CAN be a more sexual thing, it isn't always. It only is with those we're otherwise romanticly involved with. So, that negates the issue for many of those who are attending. It's not like this is going to be some lesbian orgy or anything of the kind. It's a bunch of gals hanging out and having a little fun. I suspect there will be more conversation and joking around than tickling. Let's remember that the fantasies of guys about what girls do when they get together are for their own titillation and not based upon reality.

The other thing I wanted to address is Viper's comment about the "website" that is being set up. For the record, there IS no web site. All that is being done is to set up a secure place where the gals can talk in private when they want. There've been a number of supposed women-only forums and yahoo groups set up in the past. The guys always invade as soon as they find them and end up with the ladies leaving. So, we're creating a very small, very private location for the ladies to discuss things...one where guys will NOT get in and spoil things.

If guys have a problem with all of this, I would suggest taking a look at your relationships and asking yourselves why you don't trust your girls. There IS no valid reason for concern here...only imagined ones based on fear and insecurity. (Please note that this is not intended as a slam to anyone.)

The only real concern is to keep things confidential so that outsiders don't cause trouble. That's being tended to. So, those guys whose gals are attending should be able to feel confident about their safety.

Ann

 

[kcantankerous]

It's funny, how women invade the ymca, sports, and what not, but oh god we better give them space to single us out. Naw but seriously I dont care I just had to comment lol.

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

LOL Actually....You're right! It's all about us! Now, step aside and let the ladies have their way! 🙄 😉

Ann

 

[ticklemad]

If I'm honest I often feel overlooked on this forum even though I'm female cos I'm not in the U.S, and it can sometimes feel like unless you have one of a certain number of ladies names on here you just dont fit in and it can feel very clicky, but I dont let it bother me cos I concentrate on what I do see as the good things here and what I get out of it in other ways. As for the all girls meet up, again unless I am going to get myself a passport, fly over the othe States etc I am excluded, so I am looking to arrange one for any UK ladies instead via another site, although any UK ladies from here would be more than welcome.

I know some of you guys might feel left out, but us girls like to get together for slumber parties, nights out etc just the same as you guys like to get together for a ball game. Do you feel upset if you aren't invited to a Hen night? it's no different.

I'm all for ladies only nights and guys look at it this way - if it helps the ladies bond and form friendships in real life that then means they have a buddy to come along to a mixed gender gathering and it makes them feel safer and more able to do so, then that can only be a good thing can't it?

 

[vegasfootboy]

even harder...

I spent a lot of time with my girlfriend (Irishgirl5) over the weekend, and while we were surfing the boards, she told me about an all women gathering that is trying to be arranged by several of the more prominent female ticklephiles of the boards.

Now, even though Irishgirl5 is not able to go (which I would not try to stop her if she could, mind you), I feel slightly...uncomfortable about the idea. From what I have learned, the situation is also sparking an entire website.

It's difficult for me to put this to proper words. I feel at a slight loss for it. It seems as though the mere fact that those of us have a pair of testicles is excluding us from part of the society. Granted, we still have the open areas like the TMF and whatnot, but aren't "Gatherings" all about everyone, from all walks of life, with all different backgrounds, from BOTH genders, being able to come together to explore our fetish? I don't feel as though it's...well, "right", to hold an exclusive gathering such as this. I also feel very left out about the alleged website I've heard of also, for the same reason.

I am not saying these things shouldn't happen. In fact, I'm rather confused. Should I not be feeling this way? Am I wrong to feel left out of such a thing, and the only male here that feels so? Am I over reacting?

no disrespect to the jeffmiester! he is great but we all know he isnt hurting for tickling these days,, no shortage of it im willing to bet,, and with awesome chicks!,, as for the rest of us guys i can see where this fellow would feel this way,,its hard to hook up with girls to tickle,, all i hear about is how difficult it is,, now the ladies want to seperate?? even once can lead to more and more,,then before you know it the best gatherings will be the chick only deals,, and we will have to sit and read about thier incredible experiances second hand which sucks! we need more unity and less seperation,, as i see it there are very few people who can even go to a normal gathering because of distance,,now there going to one day be able to attend but to be turned away at the door cause its a chick only thing??im not the most insecure person on the planet,, just the opposite of course,, it just sounds like a seperate thing to me,, i have a gut feeling it will be a trend...no guys allowed

 

[golas1964]

If the ladies want to do their own thing, fine. Too bad we won't be able to see it. Bet it'd be really fun to watch. I have plenty of media at my disposal to keep me occupied should the need arise, but I'm sure I'll be ok. I would prefer not to be openly teased about my being excluded. It's a private event; I don't need to know about it.

To that end, let 'em have a website too if they want one. No big whup. It's a free country. The truth is that everyone 'discriminates' in some way or another, right down to the clothes we wear and the food we buy. Some discrimination is publicly frowned upon. The rest is called 'politically correct'.

Again, ladies, more power to ya! Have a great time! I would expect and hope that men receive the same courtesy for our gender specific events.

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

Ya know, gang... I'm no longer a mod. But, if I were, some of these posts would be canned very quickly. It IS possible to disagree with one another without tossing around insults. Viper has every right to express concern. If we don't share that concern, we should be explaining why in order to reassure him and not insulting him.....for what? to make ourselves feel good? As for responding to the insults...let's not and say we did.

There's a simple way to handle posts we consider to be offensive without creating even more of a problem. It's called the report post button. It's in the upper right hand corner of every post and looks like this...

 

[Cosmo_ac]

I can actually kind'a see Where vipers coming from on this. Basically you have a gathering exclusive to one type of people only, in this case females. So, i can understand where if your on the excluded list, people might feel a litle jilted. I mean, lets face it, most people would be unhappy about being excluded from a gathering. Particulerly if the exclusion was based on skin color, age, or in this case sex.

However, i think something that we should remember, is that this was not created to be spiteful, or because the girls hate men. I know a few of these girls who seem very keen on going and there isn't a spiteful bone in there bodies. Basically, the girls would just like a gathering where they can have there own space. Also, this would give a chance for the girls who would feel more intimidated if there were men at the gathering a chance to come out. A chance for them that they hadn't taken before because of any number of reasons. Anyway, while i admit i have some mixed feelings about this, i will wish the girls the best of luck and hope they have a good time.

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

One thing I neglected to respond to earlier is Viper's concern about guys being left out...a concern that I'm sure a few others DO share. I'm sure this isn't limitted to the gathering itself, either. While I can sympathize with feeling this way, I think this is more of a case of both/and rather than either/or.

From what I've seen so far, the vast majority of those attending have attended and will continue to attend other gatherings that are open to both guys and gals. This is just a matter of having something special for ourselves to enjoy...maybe just once or maybe every once in a while. But, it won't keep us from attending other things.

I've been to a number of gatherings over the years. They've all been great. But, they haven't all been the same. Most have been like NEST and are open to male or female. Those who've proven to be a problem of one sort or another are kept at a distance for the comfort and security of the rest. Other than that and possibly inviting a few people to have a spot, they're generally open to all. So, I can see where this would feel somewhat foreign...or even threatening in some cases. I wouldn't worry about losing a shot at the ladies and this is why...

Different gatherings have a different feel to them. As I said, I've been to a number of gatherings....all male and female. But, we've had some where it was all couples. That excludes those who aren't part of a tickling couple. Is that unfair to those people? I dont think it is. Because, we have a right to gather as a group of couples as well as being part of a larger, more diverse group. The atmosphere is totally different...not necessarily better or worse...just different. We still go to the other gatherings. We simply have these in addition on occassion. I believe that the same will be true of the all-girls gatherings.

I'm sure every guy here can relate to wanting time to just hang with other guys on occassion. It doesn't have to be related to this. There's just something different about it. It doesn't mean that you want to exclude anyone...though that could be true at times. It's just part of who we are. An all-girls group isn't MEANT to exclude anyone. It's simply a place where we can share girl talk....and in the case of any gatherings, a bit of all-girl fun that doesn't have a bunch of sexual tension involved or a bunch of guys drooling over us and wondering if/when they'll get their shot.

One thing, for any guys who may feel upset about this, to keep in mind is that folks will not go to ANY gathering or open up in ANY group unless they feel safe and accepted there. For some people, this can't be done in a larger and more open group. So, rather than excluding them by never having anything for them to join in on, we simply want to give enough variety to things that anyone who is at all interested will find at least one place where they feel comfortable. I see other groups forming as we go along as well. Instead of segmenting the community, I feel it will strengthen it by drawing in those who may otherwise never even sign up and say hello.

I hope this helps to explain what's really going on and eases some of the concerns folks may have.

As for any plans of panty-raids and the like... While that's fun to joke about, even those we trust won't know where we're at to pull anything like that. 😉

Ann

 

[ticklkitten]

Goodness...

When I went to MTU I was an active member in a sorority... the social chairman, planning the "fun" stuff we did. Every now and then we'd have a "retreat", usually going camping or something like that so that us girls could get together and have a chance to bond again. This is kind of how I see this gathering. It's not meant to exclude anyone, it's just a girls night out... a slumber party... a retreat... whatever you want to call its just me and some of my girlfriends getting together to hang out. We share an interest of tickling but then again I generally don't make friends with people whom I don't share any interests...

No one should feel threatened by this. It's just an innocent night of fun...

 

[thx10050]

Viper, I have to say that I agree with you in this regard. Like yourself, I can't quite explain the feeling, but I know that tickling is something usually very intimate between my g/f and myself and as such I too would feel left out as it were. Though I don't know what it feels like to be cheated on, I do know what it feels like to be specifically excluded from something for some reason or another and that is how I would feel. Plus, despite the fact my g/f doesn't post on here (though is a member), I know I would have some difficulty accepting the fact she was going to some tickle gathering without me. Don't get me wrong, it has nothing to do with permission-granting or anything like that; I'm definitely more of a protective person, rather than a possessive one. Therefore, I would feel uncomfortable with her going without me, mostly because, as I said, tickling is more intimate than playful between us.

Just for note: you can judge this post and myself how you will. I mean no disrespect to those organizing and/or attending the gathering.

Thanks for reading, those who did. Hope I was clear and didn't ramble too much.

 

[venray]

holy crap! A bunch of ladies want to get together and have a party and a bunch of others jump on and say they cant unless males are invited too? Have any of you read your posts before pushing the submit button?

Talk about insecure...it is obvious that the ladies having this gathering are not the ones that are insecure.....

Concerned? Why should ANY of us be concerned if a group of people want to get together for a slumber/tickle or ANY kind of party.

We have just attended a "couples only" gathering and are scheduled to attend another. Is this wrong? We can't get together several couples because we arent inviting singles? Or is this all about the male ego........


As for the BF/GF thing, that is something you need to work out with your significant other and in no way should it affect others who you are not romantically attached to....wow...imagine imposing one's view on the actions of others.....

Lighten up folks.....and please refrain from vulgarity...it only shows your IQ, or lack thereof.....


Ray