Am I wrong to fantasize about this?! Boss tickling

[idolfan05]

Ok, so found out my boss is leaving my department last week and we’ve been close since Day 1. To say I’m devastated is an understatement. I started off as PRN, as needed, in healthcare, she knew I wanted a full timejob, couldn’t make one up, and got rid of someone and got me in her position. She saw me as someone who was quiet at first , and then blossomed through to the highest position. We counted on one another- she’d call me for things ( little things like this person is absent, email team X), I’d ask for advice etc.

She’s in her late 50s, gorgeous, has a calming demeanor about her in both speaking voice and management, single, but has a boyfriend, there are times when her nails are natural but long or short. Now I have a new supervisor. Nice , will do a great job, but not like the latter. Is it wrong to fantasize her tickling me considering how close we were based on trust and the new one as well?

The other side is I work with an RN whose nails are really long & sharp , she’s gorgeous as well, the same age as my boss and it would be a dream of both of them tickling me too…

Anyone else here or I am a psycho?

 

[U.N.Owen]

In my personal opinion, fantasies are rarely "wrong." It's not like we plan to have them. They're just something that happens. It's not "wrong" to find a co-worker attractive and wish you could play around with her.

"Wrong" enters into it when people do things that are inappropriate or disrespectful.

But it's not wrong just to imagine.

 

[LerLee]

Agree with Owen. Over the years I have thought about tickling my boss or coworkers.

 

[idolfan05]

In my personal opinion, fantasies are rarely "wrong." It's not like we plan to have them. They're just something that happens. It's not "wrong" to find a co-worker attractive and wish you could play around with her.

"Wrong" enters into it when people do things that are inappropriate or disrespectful.

But it's not wrong just to imagine.

It would definitely fall into fantasy/ imagine and not inappropriate/ disrespectful. They’re all Moms, my boss , now former 😥, is a military Mom, but not in that way with management. It would be crazy to feel “gang” tickled by former, current, RN with nails as they know each other and the banter between it all ( ie who can make me laugh the loudest, where, I trained you well
former boss to current boss , what was that a snort, I’m crying… you’re gonna make me cry… God you’re good… there’s a reason why I got 20 years as a boss! NO! Not your nails…. We’re gonna have to hold her down…..)

 

[idolfan05]

Agree with Owen. Over the years I have thought about tickling my boss or coworkers.

Were they guys or girls? Older or younger?

 

[RahnSolo]

Ok, so found out my boss is leaving my department last week and we’ve been close since Day 1. To say I’m devastated is an understatement. I started off as PRN, as needed, in healthcare, she knew I wanted a full timejob, couldn’t make one up, and got rid of someone and got me in her position. She saw me as someone who was quiet at first , and then blossomed through to the highest position. We counted on one another- she’d call me for things ( little things like this person is absent, email team X), I’d ask for advice etc.

She’s in her late 50s, gorgeous, has a calming demeanor about her in both speaking voice and management, single, but has a boyfriend, there are times when her nails are natural but long or short. Now I have a new supervisor. Nice , will do a great job, but not like the latter. Is it wrong to fantasize her tickling me considering how close we were based on trust and the new one as well?

The other side is I work with an RN whose nails are really long & sharp , she’s gorgeous as well, the same age as my boss and it would be a dream of both of them tickling me too…

Anyone else here or I am a psycho?

Not wrong at all!
I've had fantasies of tickling my bosses at nearly every job I've worked. Especially when I get a chance to see that they actually have cute feet.
Wrong is getting too familiar and losing your job over it. The last thing I want in my employment file is getting fired for tickling, lol.

 

[U.N.Owen]

It would definitely fall into fantasy/ imagine and not inappropriate/ disrespectful. They’re all Moms, my boss , now former 😥, is a military Mom, but not in that way with management. It would be crazy to feel “gang” tickled by former, current, RN with nails as they know each other and the banter between it all ( ie who can make me laugh the loudest, where, I trained you well
former boss to current boss , what was that a snort, I’m crying… you’re gonna make me cry… God you’re good… there’s a reason why I got 20 years as a boss! NO! Not your nails…. We’re gonna have to hold her down…..)

There's nothing wrong with fantasizing.

 

[LerLee]

Were they guys or girls? Older or younger?

All girls. Mostly younger.

 

[luvgirlsfeet]

It’s perfectly natural to have those feelings. In my opinion it’s how a person moves forward to that fantasy

 

[idolfan05]

Not wrong at all!
I've had fantasies of tickling my bosses at nearly every job I've worked. Especially when I get a chance to see that they actually have cute feet.
Wrong is getting too familiar and losing your job over it. The last thing I want in my employment file is getting fired for tickling, lol.

It would be vice versa- they would be tickling me.

 

[Wesker28]

Nothing wrong with fantasising. We have all thought about tickling co workers and sometimes managers. 😀

 

[WickedTouch]

In my personal opinion, fantasies are rarely "wrong." It's not like we plan to have them. They're just something that happens. It's not "wrong" to find a co-worker attractive and wish you could play around with her.

"Wrong" enters into it when people do things that are inappropriate or disrespectful.

But it's not wrong just to imagine.

This is a wonderful answer!

If the fantasy starts to dominate your thoughts in a way that negatively affects you, or if it begins to control your behavior or life in unhealthy ways, that's where intervention should be considered.

The original post contains a lot of details about the person being fantasized about, but the only real pertinent one is that they are in a position of authority or power, and that you have a professional working relationship with them. These kinds of power dynamics are often the spark for many fantasies, but not healthy or ethical to pursue in reality. Also, I think most people would not refer to a woman with a boyfriend as single. Just make sure that your fantasy stays as such and does not creep into any real action and I think everything is fine.

 

[idolfan05]

This is a wonderful answer!

If the fantasy starts to dominate your thoughts in a way that negatively affects you, or if it begins to control your behavior or life in unhealthy ways, that's where intervention should be considered.

The original post contains a lot of details about the person being fantasized about, but the only real pertinent one is that they are in a position of authority or power, and that you have a professional working relationship with them. These kinds of power dynamics are often the spark for many fantasies, but not healthy or ethical to pursue in reality. Also, I think most people would not refer to a woman with a boyfriend as single. Just make sure that your fantasy stays as such and does not creep into any real action and I think everything is fine.

She’s not engaged as of yet but I can see where you’re coming from with my writing. My fantasy will so stay as such and again the fantasy would be the power of authority of her tickling me not vice versa. Way inappropriate! Her boyfriend can do that 😂

 

[FFT32]

In my personal opinion, fantasies are rarely "wrong." It's not like we plan to have them. They're just something that happens. It's not "wrong" to find a co-worker attractive and wish you could play around with her.

"Wrong" enters into it when people do things that are inappropriate or disrespectful.

But it's not wrong just to imagine.

Great response. Thats a "mic-drop and walk off the stage" reply!

 

[U.N.Owen]

An example of the point I was making: I was just at a meeting on a college campus, and I happened to meet a grad student who I instantly thought was one of the most beautiful women I have ever met. Needless to say, my imagination immediately went into overdrive with all the ways I would love to play with her. And needless to say I gave absolutely no outward sign of any of that beyond briefly chatting with her politely. Fantasy is automatic. Reality is reality.