Actually, the mod was referring to AZ. Personal experiences can vary, but knowing people from there who have had positive experiences necessitates contribution to this thread. If I didn't, I would be neglecting to give hope to all, you included, dskodj. It's not to contradict you, but instead to give the newer folks hope for their efforts.
I know folks there who are female. I know folks there because they've traveled to other states to gather, to meet others. Did they play? Some did. Some did not. I'm friends with them, some closer than others.
Some of the dating wasn't great. Mirrors the vanilla world. Some was so awesome that I married 'em.
And yeah, it REALLY sucks when you wanna connect and the pool of perceived possibilities seems small.
And gents, most women don't post in this section. Little miss chicago, delicate and petite flower that she is, will ever contribute. Then again, that kid would back friends in a bar fight. Maybe even me. 😉
Have a munch, folks. Do it regularly. Befriend one another, forgive faults, and meet more of you. That's how any society grows. 🙂