Welcome to the TMF, rifoottickler!
Although kwildoctr and I haven't married yet, I wanted to respond anyway.
Last weekend, post-NEST, kwil and I were visiting with the Duo's, the Venrays and others in one of the hotel rooms. kwil wanted to head back to our room, and I wanted to stay and visit. I ended up doing a short scene with the fine people there...no bondage, just pinned (I've a strong personality, but an easily pinned body 🙂 ). Had the folks we visited been anything less than trustworthy to the highest degree, not only would kwil never have left me alone with them, but also, we would not have been hanging out with them in the first place! (kwil wouldn't leave me alone with just anyone for play...although those he did leave me alone with do seem to have an evil side on occasion! 😉 )
Was that clear? 😀