Approaching my fetish to girlfriend?

[demure]

Alright, so I've been dating this amazing girl for about a month now, and it's pretty amazing so far. She recently had her birthday, we celebrated it this past Wednesday and it was a blast. Not too long ago, we were sitting in my car while it was raining outside and were listening to music and just talking about stuff, with her legs on my lap and mine on hers. I got to talking about strange things about us, and I told her about my foot and tickling fetish while brushing my hands across her ankles. She was like "ah, that's cool" about it, and I jokingly started brushing her ankles harder while sticking out my tongue and she laughed. I must admit, she has amazingly beautiful feet, of whom belong to the most gorgeous girl on this planet.

The thing is, how should I approach my fetish to her, since she already knows of it? I've tried taking off her shoes to give her a foot massage, which was probably stupid because she tried to keep her shoes on and told me she didn't like people seeing her feet. And a week ago while we were hanging out at a friend's house, while people were piling pillows on us, I took off one of her shoes and she was like "why did you take them off?" and I was like "Dunno, deal with it." And she just kind of smiled and took off her other shoe and kind of played footsie with me in her socked feet.

Any tips?

 

[hockeygolf13]

I would just keep going for it. Just take her shoes off and try rubbing her feet. She should enjoy it and be more open to other foot stuff if you take it easy while also being confident about it. Congrats btw.

 

[lzamora]

Meet her halfway. If their is anything she enjoys doing that doesn't really strike your fancy, do it anyway. If you play along with things she likes to do, maybe she'll return the favor. Something for something. Baby steps. Baby steps.

 

[Phineas]

The thing is, how should I approach my fetish to her, since she already knows of it?

Um... you already have. Think about it.

The reason you "approach" someone about your fetish is because they don't know about it and you want to gauge their reaction. She said, and I quote, "ah, that's cool", and has thus far not stopped you from tickling her. So stop jerking around and do something, already.

 

[demure]

Um... you already have. Think about it.

The reason you "approach" someone about your fetish is because they don't know about it and you want to gauge their reaction. She said, and I quote, "ah, that's cool", and has thus far not stopped you from tickling her. So stop jerking around and do something, already.

My previous girlfriends all have known about my foot fetish, and every time I tried to indulge my fetish, they resented it. My most recent ex, every time I tried to tickle or lick her feet, she pulled away and was repulsed. And I was doing it as casually as possible. That's why I used the word "approach", because I don't want to turn her away by my fetish. She may say she's cool with it, but she may not actually like it, like my most recent ex.

 

[ticklechambers]

Okies i get ya, by approach you mean initiate 😛

The advice i live by personally is that tickling is a part of my sexuality. If someone doesn't like participating in that side of my life, then they aren't right for me romantically. It's a harsher view, that you don't have to follow if you don't agree with it. But the only thing you can do is what makes you happy. Suggest to her that you take your intimacy to the 'next level' and share fantasies together. Say you want to be able to play out things she desires for and visa versa. Tell each other one big fantasy and make a time to create each of them.

Be open and forward about what it is you want. She knows you have the fetish, but she probably doesn't know what that means. Be specific and ask questions, "so you know how i told you about my fetish.... does that mean that if i wanted to pin you down and tickle you (or the other way around) you would be okay with that? even if I wanted to do it every few days? what are your personal boundaries here?"

Try the sentence... "I like tickling so much that I want to do it "insert amount of times per week" but i also want you to feel good. Do you have your own fantasies or any ideas on how we can make my fantasy more pleasurable for you?"

But ey best of luck! 🙂 PM me if you like haha i slow reply but am happy to chat about things like that 🙂

 

[Freethought]

I love this advice. My only suggestion would be to use the word "kink" instead of "fetish".

Okies i get ya, by approach you mean initiate 😛

The advice i live by personally is that tickling is a part of my sexuality. If someone doesn't like participating in that side of my life, then they aren't right for me romantically. It's a harsher view, that you don't have to follow if you don't agree with it. But the only thing you can do is what makes you happy. Suggest to her that you take your intimacy to the 'next level' and share fantasies together. Say you want to be able to play out things she desires for and visa versa. Tell each other one big fantasy and make a time to create each of them.

Be open and forward about what it is you want. She knows you have the fetish, but she probably doesn't know what that means. Be specific and ask questions, "so you know how i told you about my fetish.... does that mean that if i wanted to pin you down and tickle you (or the other way around) you would be okay with that? even if I wanted to do it every few days? what are your personal boundaries here?"

Try the sentence... "I like tickling so much that I want to do it "insert amount of times per week" but i also want you to feel good. Do you have your own fantasies or any ideas on how we can make my fantasy more pleasurable for you?"

But ey best of luck! 🙂 PM me if you like haha i slow reply but am happy to chat about things like that 🙂

 

[JoePTickle]

I wonder what kinks/fetishes she has? If she shared yours, she would've been all over it by now. So it may be a matter of just selflessly satisfying each others'. If that's acceptable to you.

 

[demure]

She has a hand fetish.

So, I hung out with her today, went to a church thing and came back to my house and she sat on the couch with me while I did some homework and stuff. In the middle, I started tickling her sides (she's super ticklish) and I peeled off her shoes and started tickling her feet, where she's also ticklish. She tried tickling me back and I'm not that ticklish so it wasn't as fun receiving. I had the opportunity of massaging her feet, which I must admit are pretty amazing. Again, I restated my fetish to her, and she was like "You really have a foot fetish?" and I'm like "Yeah" and she's like "That's fine, I have a hand fetish". I smiled and she smiled back, and I did kiss her on the sole of her foot, and she didn't mind it like my previous girlfriend have. I think she enjoys it. There's much to learn about it. Maybe this relationship will go pretty well after all. 🙂 Thanks for the tips.

Though, how do you satisfy a hand fetish? I've never really met a hand fetishist before. What should I do?

Oh, and here's a picture of my girlfriend and I.

 

[hockeygolf13]

Just make sure you keep your hands in good shape. Mine are very rough, so I would not fare well with a hand fetishist. It is ok to ask her about it though.