I just what to know if there is anyone like me out there. Is there anyone not getting any sexual attension at all tickling or otherwise? If so how do you deal with this? How do stop from killing yourself? Is there a way to stay positive and be able to countinue life as if everything is fine?
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Are You Frustrated?
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911, I am currently in this situation. No sexual attention, no real life tickling. I will admit that I do at times get downhearted, but, as for "killing myself", nothing is worth that.
My best advice, try to do what I do. Distract yourself with other activities that dont involve sex, or tickling, or thinking about such. Throw yourself into your work, watch TV, read, do activities, work out. Do any other activity, that is productive for your life, which doesnt have to do with sex or tickling. My mother taught me this a long time ago when I was frustrated. She always said to do productive things, which dont give you time to sit back and worry about your problems, or feeling badly.
For myself, I am going to be 37 in January, and I am not yet married. My original intent was to have been married around age 25. Circumstances didnt allow it, because I had other issues, and didnt find the right girl. Now I realize, what difference does it make if I am married at 37, 38, or 40, if I am happy?
Distraction, and not dwelling on what makes you frustrated, is best. Take it from someone who knows. Hopefully this way, if you arent thinking about the frustration all the time, and throwing yourself into other activities, it will make you feel better, and then, maybe what I've always been told will happen, your right lee will come along, when you arent thinking about it so much. Hope this helps.
Mitch
My best advice, try to do what I do. Distract yourself with other activities that dont involve sex, or tickling, or thinking about such. Throw yourself into your work, watch TV, read, do activities, work out. Do any other activity, that is productive for your life, which doesnt have to do with sex or tickling. My mother taught me this a long time ago when I was frustrated. She always said to do productive things, which dont give you time to sit back and worry about your problems, or feeling badly.
For myself, I am going to be 37 in January, and I am not yet married. My original intent was to have been married around age 25. Circumstances didnt allow it, because I had other issues, and didnt find the right girl. Now I realize, what difference does it make if I am married at 37, 38, or 40, if I am happy?
Distraction, and not dwelling on what makes you frustrated, is best. Take it from someone who knows. Hopefully this way, if you arent thinking about the frustration all the time, and throwing yourself into other activities, it will make you feel better, and then, maybe what I've always been told will happen, your right lee will come along, when you arent thinking about it so much. Hope this helps.
Mitch
Mitchell said:
I think that's good advice and I'll do my best to do that which is what I've been doing for years its just so hard and sometimes theres nothing to do and sex is everywhere nowadays I just hope this lonliness dosen't go on much longer I can't take it anymore I hope death isn't my only relief . Thanks for writting.
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You get used to it.
hmmm...
though tickling can be an either or thing for me.. I do understand the frustration in tickling. Since moving to Ca.. I have met 2 Lees, one is engaged.. the other well.. and I know another I have spoken to on the phone. .we just have different schedules. All the other I know are North. But that dioes nto mean I want to do something drastic. I am just looking for tickle friends.
though tickling can be an either or thing for me.. I do understand the frustration in tickling. Since moving to Ca.. I have met 2 Lees, one is engaged.. the other well.. and I know another I have spoken to on the phone. .we just have different schedules. All the other I know are North. But that dioes nto mean I want to do something drastic. I am just looking for tickle friends.
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I haven't had any actual sex since I was 24. I don't get asked out on dates. I got tickled by Jaba, that's it. And that obviously wasn't sexual. That was for MLOL. Only my shoes and socks came off.
If it wasn't for my vibrator I'd go nuts.
If it wasn't for my vibrator I'd go nuts.
Not really, tickling-wise, I have friends from the board I play with.
As for sex, I tend to go through cycles where I just don't care about it for months, and then segue into several months where I'm actively seeking out fuck-buddies. I'm kinda weird that way.
As for sex, I tend to go through cycles where I just don't care about it for months, and then segue into several months where I'm actively seeking out fuck-buddies. I'm kinda weird that way.
No need to get him down with other bad experiences!
Seems like so many people are here looking for something that you should be looking out there in your real life.
This site is just an add on...and with the amazing ability that sometimes we can make friends and maybe win something else. But we should not count on it! Specially because if we are not well in our really life chances are we are not going to shine here also.
Now what to do?
1st you need to learn and respect yourself, if you dont respect yourself, no one else will! If it´s a problem of body image, please get out and work it out, if it´s a problem with social skills you need to focus on what are your interests, find the stuff where you´re good at, go for it, and then share your knowledge and skills in a balanced way to those around you. You´ll see that in no time you´ll catch someone who shares the same interests and who will gladly team with you for what you like.
And please enjoy life!!! Life is not all about sex!!!! And if you think it is, you are missing the great part of it! Sex is one of the "major" highs in life. But as everything, will allways have it´s ups and downs as it deppends on at least 2 very different and complex perssons. So if you live your life based on sex, you have quite the chance of being a looser....but if you live your life full, you gave quite the chance of finding that special persson with whom you can have great sex.
Solve your problems 1st! Partners and sex will came naturally
Seems like so many people are here looking for something that you should be looking out there in your real life.
This site is just an add on...and with the amazing ability that sometimes we can make friends and maybe win something else. But we should not count on it! Specially because if we are not well in our really life chances are we are not going to shine here also.
Now what to do?
1st you need to learn and respect yourself, if you dont respect yourself, no one else will! If it´s a problem of body image, please get out and work it out, if it´s a problem with social skills you need to focus on what are your interests, find the stuff where you´re good at, go for it, and then share your knowledge and skills in a balanced way to those around you. You´ll see that in no time you´ll catch someone who shares the same interests and who will gladly team with you for what you like.
And please enjoy life!!! Life is not all about sex!!!! And if you think it is, you are missing the great part of it! Sex is one of the "major" highs in life. But as everything, will allways have it´s ups and downs as it deppends on at least 2 very different and complex perssons. So if you live your life based on sex, you have quite the chance of being a looser....but if you live your life full, you gave quite the chance of finding that special persson with whom you can have great sex.
Solve your problems 1st! Partners and sex will came naturally
nenezinho said:
That's good advice. But you mension people looking for things here that they should be looking for in real life. I mensioned this before but at this time I have no social life. I have no money or no car and no friends with cars so this is all I have right now and maybe there are others here with similar problems. And as for looking for tickling outside this site it's probley like finding a needle in a hay stack. In order to be married we fetishist have to find someone we find very attrative, we like being around, shares our beliefs(children, disapline, religion, division of labour), can statisfy our fetish, oh ya and actually wants to marry us. Good luck. You see this is probley the only place for some of us to even hear of others like us who have this fetish and understand it. So thats why some people turn to here even if it won't satisify their fetish it gives them the closest thing to it which is sad but true.
Good news:
1st: the most intense tickling I experienced in life was when I earned no money and when I had no car! I must say that I did had a lot of friends.
2nd: I have less friends now that I have money and great car. So go figure....seems thats not really the problem. I do keep the best friends despite now it´s a bit hard to see who are there for money and power and who are there for friendship.
3rd: Your fetish has nothing to do with your problems and it can even help you get around them if you learn how to acept it and how to promote yourself.
4th: statisticaly, REGULAR GIRLS ENJOY TICKLING 😉 now and then you find one that doesn´t stand it or doesn´t like it but most of them will gladly play with you once they feel confortable. I´m yet to have a female friend who I haven´t tickled in some way....and not a single one got mad with me!
Bad news:
You do have a problem of self confidence and atitude. You defenetely need to find something where you´re good at and go for it! If you are above 18 than you should be studying or working hard to achieve your goals. Friends would flock naturaly. If you get stuck and play the victim you wont get anywhere up...maybe only even lower.
1st: the most intense tickling I experienced in life was when I earned no money and when I had no car! I must say that I did had a lot of friends.
2nd: I have less friends now that I have money and great car. So go figure....seems thats not really the problem. I do keep the best friends despite now it´s a bit hard to see who are there for money and power and who are there for friendship.
3rd: Your fetish has nothing to do with your problems and it can even help you get around them if you learn how to acept it and how to promote yourself.
4th: statisticaly, REGULAR GIRLS ENJOY TICKLING 😉 now and then you find one that doesn´t stand it or doesn´t like it but most of them will gladly play with you once they feel confortable. I´m yet to have a female friend who I haven´t tickled in some way....and not a single one got mad with me!
Bad news:
You do have a problem of self confidence and atitude. You defenetely need to find something where you´re good at and go for it! If you are above 18 than you should be studying or working hard to achieve your goals. Friends would flock naturaly. If you get stuck and play the victim you wont get anywhere up...maybe only even lower.
Then your troubles will go away.
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What do I do about it?
Well...I just kind of keep up the hope and frequent the tickling sites on the web.
Well...I just kind of keep up the hope and frequent the tickling sites on the web.
911 said:
You are doing exactly what I did many years ago, I was trying to jump from single to married in one swoop...the idea of love at first sight and the stars aligning...well the stars don't align unless you get out and talk to girls and go on dates and enjoy yourself with them.
All that you mentioned above is true of any two people getting married, certain things need to match up for their to be a compatiblity and for us yep, tickling is generally one of those checklist items;
but if tickling is your only checklist item then when the tickling gets old, what do you fall back on to talk about and do...oh and replace tickling with sex and you have what any other couple faces when they only marry for the sex and don't click anywhere else.
I was in the same boat you are in...you simply need to go out and date, I'm not talking about sleeping around, but just date, see what you like, what you don't and hey sneak in a tickle and see what happens...at least there will be some tickling in your life too for all of your effort.
Good luck.
tommytikl said:
Wisely said, thanks for the response. Now all I need is a car and money. Untell then the booze, drugs, and masterbation idea seem like the best bet for now
but it is good to know I'm not the only one, good luck to those of you like me and God bless.Well I'm going to go drink some booze and wack off while crying bye.
