Beginner question

[TicklIng Phobia]

Hi,

I am new in the tickle community and totally feel like a LEE. I crave to be strictly restrained and tickled mercilessly without possible resistance... you know the song ahah

Here is my question : Has anyone ever done a first session and completely hated or even been traumatized? (not traumatized because the LER was bad but really by the complete tickle torture experience totally different from the fantasy).

This question because I hate being tickled or touched, i think that im hyper sensitive of the skin, I cant resist to the lightest tickle and it's the same everywhere. Why this tickle fantasy then ? because i think im asexual and has no other fantasy than tickles (perhaps just bondage but i dont like pain for example). So I'm afraid 😀

can you enlighten me with your testimonies?

 

[WickedTouch]

Hi,

I am new in the tickle community and totally feel like a LEE. I crave to be strictly restrained and tickled mercilessly without possible resistance... you know the song ahah

Here is my question : Has anyone ever done a first session and completely hated or even been traumatized? (not traumatized because the LER was bad but really by the complete tickle torture experience totally different from the fantasy).

This question because I hate being tickled or touched, i think that im hyper sensitive of the skin, I cant resist to the lightest tickle and it's the same everywhere. Why this tickle fantasy then ? because i think im asexual and has no other fantasy than tickles (perhaps just bondage but i dont like pain for example). So I'm afraid 😀

can you enlighten me with your testimonies?

Well, first off, welcome! Nice username!

Many things can cause traumatic experiences of varying degrees, and tickling is no exception. I’ve not had the experience of tickling causing it for me, but many people get tickled to the extreme when they are young and it triggers a traumatic response that they carry into adulthood. Where I’d start if I were you is making sure the first person you play with is very vetted and trusted. I’ve heard too many accounts of people getting set back years or for life by having a terrible first experience. You can start this slow. try something light, with safewords, no bondage, and a trusted person. As you go, you can slowly add more challenge to it and gauge how you process it. When the time comes for light bondage, have a safeword (use the stoplight system—green for I’m good/keep going, yellow for hold on a minute, and red for stop everything and let me go). I know that when the craving is high and it’s all new, people often want to jump in head first, but you’re better off taking it slow and learning where you’re at with it first.

I know when I first started playing with my now wife, we are both very glad we had the foresight to go slower in the beginning. She was very nervous and in reflecting on it now, we can see where it may have gone differently for her. Compare that to now, we both can be quite extreme with each other and enjoy the hell out of it. Now, when we meet with new people for sessions, we try to use that same introductory strategy and give them space to learn about themselves and their relationship with tickling when it applies. When finding a ler, look for someone that will respect your boundaries and take it as slow as you need.

I wish you the best of luck! 🙂

 

[TicklIng Phobia]

Thanks for your answer
Im going to plan a session with somebody on a tickle site which is certified by other peoples but i hesitate ! Because tickles without bondage totally turn me off 😛

 

[Maneo]

Proceed with caution. There needs to be trust and clear boundaries as you begin to explore bondage and tickling. Don’t let your fantasies and desires lead you to make unwise decisions. Safe words and take it a step at a time. Look before you leap is a sane way to proceed.

 

[Soles_Scream]

Hi,

I am new in the tickle community and totally feel like a LEE. I crave to be strictly restrained and tickled mercilessly without possible resistance... you know the song ahah

Here is my question : Has anyone ever done a first session and completely hated or even been traumatized? (not traumatized because the LER was bad but really by the complete tickle torture experience totally different from the fantasy).

This question because I hate being tickled or touched, i think that im hyper sensitive of the skin, I cant resist to the lightest tickle and it's the same everywhere. Why this tickle fantasy then ? because i think im asexual and has no other fantasy than tickles (perhaps just bondage but i dont like pain for example). So I'm afraid 😀

can you enlighten me with your testimonies?

From a producer and play perspective, I always start slow - though I don’t tend to tie people up or go near tickle torture.

The trust needs to be established first. It can take time and reps to get there. Some folks with a bit more experience will even tell you phrases or places on the body to avoid.

Heed those warnings as the ler and verbally express them as the lee.