Beginner question

[TicklIng Phobia]

Hi,

I am new in the tickle community and totally feel like a LEE. I crave to be strictly restrained and tickled mercilessly without possible resistance... you know the song ahah

Here is my question : Has anyone ever done a first session and completely hated or even been traumatized? (not traumatized because the LER was bad but really by the complete tickle torture experience totally different from the fantasy).

This question because I hate being tickled or touched, i think that im hyper sensitive of the skin, I cant resist to the lightest tickle and it's the same everywhere. Why this tickle fantasy then ? because i think im asexual and has no other fantasy than tickles (perhaps just bondage but i dont like pain for example). So I'm afraid 😀

can you enlighten me with your testimonies?

 

[WickedTouch]

Hi,

I am new in the tickle community and totally feel like a LEE. I crave to be strictly restrained and tickled mercilessly without possible resistance... you know the song ahah

Here is my question : Has anyone ever done a first session and completely hated or even been traumatized? (not traumatized because the LER was bad but really by the complete tickle torture experience totally different from the fantasy).

This question because I hate being tickled or touched, i think that im hyper sensitive of the skin, I cant resist to the lightest tickle and it's the same everywhere. Why this tickle fantasy then ? because i think im asexual and has no other fantasy than tickles (perhaps just bondage but i dont like pain for example). So I'm afraid 😀

can you enlighten me with your testimonies?

Well, first off, welcome! Nice username!

Many things can cause traumatic experiences of varying degrees, and tickling is no exception. I’ve not had the experience of tickling causing it for me, but many people get tickled to the extreme when they are young and it triggers a traumatic response that they carry into adulthood. Where I’d start if I were you is making sure the first person you play with is very vetted and trusted. I’ve heard too many accounts of people getting set back years or for life by having a terrible first experience. You can start this slow. try something light, with safewords, no bondage, and a trusted person. As you go, you can slowly add more challenge to it and gauge how you process it. When the time comes for light bondage, have a safeword (use the stoplight system—green for I’m good/keep going, yellow for hold on a minute, and red for stop everything and let me go). I know that when the craving is high and it’s all new, people often want to jump in head first, but you’re better off taking it slow and learning where you’re at with it first.

I know when I first started playing with my now wife, we are both very glad we had the foresight to go slower in the beginning. She was very nervous and in reflecting on it now, we can see where it may have gone differently for her. Compare that to now, we both can be quite extreme with each other and enjoy the hell out of it. Now, when we meet with new people for sessions, we try to use that same introductory strategy and give them space to learn about themselves and their relationship with tickling when it applies. When finding a ler, look for someone that will respect your boundaries and take it as slow as you need.

I wish you the best of luck! 🙂

 

[TicklIng Phobia]

Thanks for your answer
Im going to plan a session with somebody on a tickle site which is certified by other peoples but i hesitate ! Because tickles without bondage totally turn me off 😛

 

[Maneo]

Proceed with caution. There needs to be trust and clear boundaries as you begin to explore bondage and tickling. Don’t let your fantasies and desires lead you to make unwise decisions. Safe words and take it a step at a time. Look before you leap is a sane way to proceed.

 

[Soles_Scream]

Hi,

I am new in the tickle community and totally feel like a LEE. I crave to be strictly restrained and tickled mercilessly without possible resistance... you know the song ahah

Here is my question : Has anyone ever done a first session and completely hated or even been traumatized? (not traumatized because the LER was bad but really by the complete tickle torture experience totally different from the fantasy).

This question because I hate being tickled or touched, i think that im hyper sensitive of the skin, I cant resist to the lightest tickle and it's the same everywhere. Why this tickle fantasy then ? because i think im asexual and has no other fantasy than tickles (perhaps just bondage but i dont like pain for example). So I'm afraid 😀

can you enlighten me with your testimonies?

From a producer and play perspective, I always start slow - though I don’t tend to tie people up or go near tickle torture.

The trust needs to be established first. It can take time and reps to get there. Some folks with a bit more experience will even tell you phrases or places on the body to avoid.

Heed those warnings as the ler and verbally express them as the lee.

 

[TicklIng Phobia]

Proceed with caution. There needs to be trust and clear boundaries as you begin to explore bondage and tickling. Don’t let your fantasies and desires lead you to make unwise decisions. Safe words and take it a step at a time. Look before you leap is a sane way to proceed.

yes that’s what I’m trying to do currently
the person I chose seems correct and has positive reviews but I’m afraid of not appreciating at all because of my extreme sensitivity and wasting the person’s time.

 

[WickedTouch]

yes that’s what I’m trying to do currently
the person I chose seems correct and has positive reviews but I’m afraid of not appreciating at all because of my extreme sensitivity and wasting the person’s time.

I appreciate what you're saying here and your concern for the other person, but that is a two-way street. Anyone that plays with you should be patient, respectful, and understanding. Just make sure you communicate what exactly you're looking for, what you aren't (yet), and what concerns you have. After you vet them and thoroughly discuss those things, they will decide whether it is for them or not. With everything known in advance, they are deciding if they are interested just as much as you're deciding the same. After that, provided you've established trust and considered safety risks, you just won't know how each other feels until you actually meet and experiment within the agreed upon bounds. Potentially disappointing someone doesn't feel good, yet it's a small but necessary risk that all of us take every day in one way or another. And, of the risks involved, it usually has the mildest implications. For the same reason you shouldn't think of trying new things or experimenting as being a waste of your own time, you should have the same expectation of how those who play with you should see it. It's okay for someone to feel like the experience wasn't for them, but if they look at trying it out as a waste of their time, they're almost entirely interested in themselves and the activity, and not you. Make sure the person you meet with is interested in playing with you instead of just using you to play.

 

[soletease]

Hi! Welcome! Congrats on being brave and making a post. I commend you on that.

Yes! I have experience with brand new lees!!!!

Generally, when I have a brand new lee, yes, they are fully restrained in leather cuffs and straps.
I like to have them lay on a chiropractor table, arms up straight up above head and secured with wrist cuffs and additional straps by the elbows. Then we have some straps on thighs and ankles cuffs secured the feet. Usually 8 straps, 2 on each limb, and sometimes 9 if you add one across the waist.

Clothing can vary. I let the lee decide for their comfort level. If it’s a female, short crop top (tank top?) or sports bra, and capri pants are pretty standard for a first timer. Footwear is always absent and both feet are totally bare for the tickle torture aspect.

For a newbie, I start out lightly, usually raking fingernails across the torso and armpits to see what reactions we get. Starting with Light fingernail stroking of the soles, arches and toes is standard. See what reactions we get!!!

Hips I take my thumbs and put pressure on the hip bones and swirl thumbs in there with circles.

Then we kind of see what the lee wants. Do they want focus on upper body, or feet, or do they care?

For the “torture” aspect, I prefer to start off lightly and then increase tickling over time. Feet: light nails stroking across soles, then add in electric flosser and a metal pinwheels rolling across the soles in different directions. Then add oil and you can do a brush if you want.

For the new person wanting tickle “torture”, I’ve found long, careful prolonged stroking of the soles and armpits seems to break them down into a blubbering mess. Careful, orchestrated tickling is key. Not too hard, more on the light and RELENTLESS side is best.

I try to break the new lee down and go over all their spots as they learn what spots get them the best.

Full restraints on the table is standard for my new people, as are introduction of tickle tools. I throw everything at the new people and see how they hang on throughout the session.

I like rotating though tickle tools and breaking the lee down. Once they reach the breaking point, I like to add an additional 20-30 minutes of tickling with varying intensities past their limits if they want a true “tickle torture” experience. They’re strapped to the table for the entire time and unable to defend against tickling on their body.

It’s quite fun. I really hope I’ve answered your question!

 

[robmic]

My early experiences tickling people I've been involved with I would secure them well and go slowly all over their bodies to see where their worst spots were and have some fun with those places. But, I didn't go overboard on them. And I moved around their bodies a lot. The biggest thing I was careful about was not going so far that they were freaking out and continuously begging me to stop. And I didn't go on too long tickling them. Then I would stop and do my best to make them feel really good in the end! Using that method, I even had some come over another time and ask me to do it again!

 

[TicklIng Phobia]

Hi! Welcome! Congrats on being brave and making a post. I commend you on that.

Yes! I have experience with brand new lees!!!!

Generally, when I have a brand new lee, yes, they are fully restrained in leather cuffs and straps.
I like to have them lay on a chiropractor table, arms up straight up above head and secured with wrist cuffs and additional straps by the elbows. Then we have some straps on thighs and ankles cuffs secured the feet. Usually 8 straps, 2 on each limb, and sometimes 9 if you add one across the waist.

Clothing can vary. I let the lee decide for their comfort level. If it’s a female, short crop top (tank top?) or sports bra, and capri pants are pretty standard for a first timer. Footwear is always absent and both feet are totally bare for the tickle torture aspect.

For a newbie, I start out lightly, usually raking fingernails across the torso and armpits to see what reactions we get. Starting with Light fingernail stroking of the soles, arches and toes is standard. See what reactions we get!!!

Hips I take my thumbs and put pressure on the hip bones and swirl thumbs in there with circles.

Then we kind of see what the lee wants. Do they want focus on upper body, or feet, or do they care?

For the “torture” aspect, I prefer to start off lightly and then increase tickling over time. Feet: light nails stroking across soles, then add in electric flosser and a metal pinwheels rolling across the soles in different directions. Then add oil and you can do a brush if you want.

For the new person wanting tickle “torture”, I’ve found long, careful prolonged stroking of the soles and armpits seems to break them down into a blubbering mess. Careful, orchestrated tickling is key. Not too hard, more on the light and RELENTLESS side is best.

I try to break the new lee down and go over all their spots as they learn what spots get them the best.

Full restraints on the table is standard for my new people, as are introduction of tickle tools. I throw everything at the new people and see how they hang on throughout the session.

I like rotating though tickle tools and breaking the lee down. Once they reach the breaking point, I like to add an additional 20-30 minutes of tickling with varying intensities past their limits if they want a true “tickle torture” experience. They’re strapped to the table for the entire time and unable to defend against tickling on their body.

It’s quite fun. I really hope I’ve answered your question!

My early experiences tickling people I've been involved with I would secure them well and go slowly all over their bodies to see where their worst spots were and have some fun with those places. But, I didn't go overboard on them. And I moved around their bodies a lot. The biggest thing I was careful about was not going so far that they were freaking out and continuously begging me to stop. And I didn't go on too long tickling them. Then I would stop and do my best to make them feel really good in the end! Using that method, I even had some come over another time and ask me to do it again!

I appreciate what you're saying here and your concern for the other person, but that is a two-way street. Anyone that plays with you should be patient, respectful, and understanding. Just make sure you communicate what exactly you're looking for, what you aren't (yet), and what concerns you have. After you vet them and thoroughly discuss those things, they will decide whether it is for them or not. With everything known in advance, they are deciding if they are interested just as much as you're deciding the same. After that, provided you've established trust and considered safety risks, you just won't know how each other feels until you actually meet and experiment within the agreed upon bounds. Potentially disappointing someone doesn't feel good, yet it's a small but necessary risk that all of us take every day in one way or another. And, of the risks involved, it usually has the mildest implications. For the same reason you shouldn't think of trying new things or experimenting as being a waste of your own time, you should have the same expectation of how those who play with you should see it. It's okay for someone to feel like the experience wasn't for them, but if they look at trying it out as a waste of their time, they're almost entirely interested in themselves and the activity, and not you. Make sure the person you meet with is interested in playing with you instead of just using you to play.

very different versions ahah