Can a control freak be happy as a lee?

[the wiz]

Do you think someone who always has to have things their way, would agree to be a lee? 😛oke3:

 

[Mistress Aura]

Do you think someone who always has to have things their way, would agree to be a lee? 😛oke3:

I think it should be mandatory. It would build his or her character. 😀

How therapeutically healthy...


Mistress Aura

 

[the wiz]

I think it should be mandatory. It would build his or her character. 😀

How therapeutically healthy...


Mistress Aura

I know a few people that hate giving up control for any reason. i wonder how stressful it would be for them to be completely in control for 15 mins.

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

I'm a huge control freak. I don't define that as always needing to have my own way, though. It's more a need to know what's happening in situations in which I'm involved and doing what I see necessary to take care of things.

That having been said, I LOVE giving up control when it comes to tickling. It's one of the few areas where I actually enjoy it and can benefit from it. As the wise Mistress stated, it DOES build character. And those who know me KNOW that I'm a character!

 

[minerva]

well, I wouldn't exactly call myself a control FREAK, but there is a big part of me that certainly loves to have things going my way. On the other hand, there is this part of me that loves to give up control completely and just let go, but thats totally depending on how much I respect and trust the person I'm with at that time. I guess, that's exactly why the idea of losing control completely as a 'lee for some periode of time fascinates me so much.

 

[Deleted member 2452]

yes

i too am a control freak around the house, job etc.
but when it comes to tickling, i gladdly give up control.
you just have to love the tickle more than your petty self.

 

[milagros317]

I strive to be in control in most situations in my life, perhaps not so extremely as to be called a control freak, but definitely in that direction.

Giving up control to somebody that I trust such as Mistress Zara is a truly wonderful experience. But the trust has to be there.

 

[jaba]

tickling a "control freak".....what a "rush"....

I think it should be mandatory. It would build his or her character. 😀

How therapeutically healthy...


Mistress Aura

there is some truth to this......

I know a pretty devastating Dominatrix that demands complete control in the BDSM setting, but she enjoys laughing and being tickled, for the stress relief, and the "amazing high from the release of endorphins", as she tells me.... 😛oke3:


we are friends,and she demands that I tickle her on occasion....


and who here would dare disobey the instructions of a true Dominatrix?........😛

 

[4Pawz]

I'm a huge control freak. As Ann said, I don't have to have my way, I just prefer to have some control over the things that happen to me and around me. I gotta know what is going on with myself or I go nutz.

I'm a lee, and I love it. But I don't give up my control over myself, I can't. My safeword is my control if need be. I don't prefer to use it, and I haven't yet, but it's there if I need it. So yeah, a control freak can be a lee.

 

[Mitchell]

I like to have control, too. Who doesnt? Yes, I can ler, but,. I also like to lee.
I can think of some people I know, who love to have control, and yet, are still lees. I dont think one can really equate lee with control, or lack thereof, because, what someone might be out of bed, or out of a tickling situation, doesnt mean that they are in bed, or in a tickling situation. You could have the biggest control freak CEO in the world, or the most successful man or woman alive, financially, and in their career, and they might just love being dominated by a significant other, and tickled until they scream.
To me, control, tickling, and lees are different things, so you really cant say that a submissive person is always a lee, and a dominant or control person is always a ler. It doesnt work that way. There are variables, depending upon who it is, who the person is with, and what the situation they are in involves.

Mitch

 

[b0xr]

A control freak can absolutely be a "lee. My wife is a perfect example. She has to be in on everything, wants to take charge...sometimes I even let her. She is ,however, a bedroom submissive. She enjoys being tied, lightly spanked, tickled, and teased to the edge during play. Not into any pain other than the light spanks...Kinky fun ! She does have control issues that I have to address her with when the time is right. Which BTW is when she says. go figure

 

[ticklesenseless]

Definitely. People need to give up control at some point. With some of us, it is easier to give up control when bound and no way to escape 😉 You sort of slip into the loss of control because there is nothing you can do about it anyway. Your tickler is in charge not you.

 

[P[a]pi]

Generally, I'd answer no to your question, but I know there are exceptions.

But, I'd rather have a submissive lee, then a control freak or a fighter. That's just my preference.