Can it take over?

[Alan19581]

I have a lovely, gorgeous girlfriend. Of late our sex life has diminished to almost zero. This is because we both have kids, and other factors like my kidney stone, my snoring and her endometryitus. I wonder if I have gotten by because of sites like this. This afternoon my girlfriend and I went to see a band at a local pub, and we talked about, and realised that neither of us were happy with things of late. However we concluded that we love each other and are gonna work things out. We have been together 7-8 years. She does not know that I am a ticklephile.

Can this fetish be harmfull these days, now that so much access to your fantasy is readily available on the internet? Can this actually damage a good relationship. When my g/f asked me if there was someone else I could honestly and truthfully look her in the eyes and tell her NO! Obviously I couldn't tell her about this and the other sites I visit for titillation .... but is it helping the situation.

Can reality be fogged by the fantasy offered by the internet?

For me it won't be .... but as a general point of discussion .... what do you all think?

 

[Cbarton]

Yes, it can be IF you let it take control of your thought life. Sexually, your focus has to be HER first, not you. anything else leads to the selfishness that destroys many relationships.

 

[ILove2Tickle1]

Good question.

It's possible. If you let your fantasies get away from you, as it were. If you keep clear, realistic expectations in your relationships, no.

You might want to discuss your interest with tickling with your g/f though. You never know, she might be interested and want to try it out. It might spark the love interest all over again. You never know.

 

[Goodieluver]

I dont know why you are steadfast in saying u cant tell her, i mean its like the issue of hiding playboys from the sig other, i mean some women dont care\like it and some do care. I mean i dont think it can be devestating since u guys have been together for so long, i mean, saying u like tickling early in the relationship may cause issues but youve been together so long, just some secret uve kept from her

 

[Alan19581]

Well, I don't think I need to tell her right out of my interest in tickling, specifically being tickled, for 2 reasons.

The first is that I don't think it would be exciting if the tickler knew the ticklee was enjoying the torture, that would defeat the object for me.

The second being is that my g/f loves to tickle anyway ..... so we don't really have an issue there.

What I couldn't admit to is that I enjoy looking at tickle pics and clips. I don't think it's harming her by not knowing this, and I doubt she would thank me for offering that imfo.

Good advice on keeping a grip on reality tho'. Thanks for the replies.

 

[nessonite1]

I'd like to move this to TK discussion, with permission of the OP

 

[Alan19581]

I'd like to move this to TK discussion, with permission of the OP

Sorry it took me so long to look back at this .... but you have my permission to move it where you like Nessonite 🙂

 

[DarthGrinn]

Personally I think it can only be harmful if it gets in-between the couple. If I were to spend more time online with my fetish, to the point where its taking time away that I could be spending with my gf... then yes, I think that's harmful. If this online time leads me to seeking out online ticklephiles to engage in activity; then it's definitely harmful.

If it isn't getting in the way, and I'm able to maintain a healthy relationship with my gf; and indulge my fetish (without her involvement as I might prefer), then I personally don't think there's anything wrong with it.

Of course, the perfect solution would be to practice my fetish with my gf... It would be nice to cuddle up with my gf, and look at "tickle pr0n" together lol, maybe even tickle her a bit as well?

Who knows, maybe it would be just the spice we need to bring some zing back into the relationship eh?

 

[Yet_One_More_Idiot]

...She does not know that I am a ticklephile.

...Obviously I couldn't tell her about this and the other sites I visit for titillation .... but is it helping the situation.

Why "obviously" can't you tell her? I admit, in the same situation, I'd probably keep it secret too, but I do think that it might help you to reveal your passion for tickles. Still, I'm a potential pot calling the kettle black, aren't I? Please ignore my ramblings. 😛

 

[morgandee]

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