Can tickling wreck marriages?

[andymac1]

I hope this isn't a too personal q, but I was just wondering if anybody has been divorced because of the conflict of a tickling fetish. Weather you were a 'ler' or 'lee' and your busband/wife detested it so much it caused the split?

 

[LonelyKimiko]

I would imagine that nearly anything can break marrages, it depends on the people involved. 🙁 .

 

[Sockstickler]

I could see how it could break up a marriage, if the marriage was just based on tickling. There's a lot more to a good relationship than just tickling, like trust, common interests, and not driving the other person crazy, and if you don't have that, if you make it just about the tickling, then that's a pretty sure road to disaster, in my opinion.

 

[Cbarton]

Agree with you 1000% Socks. Mine nearly was wrecked by it indirectly. Back in the late 80's/early '90s, before places like this existed, I fell into a pornography addiction in the process of looking for 'tickle stuff.' The addiction cost me a job and nearly my marriage. But I've stayed clean after prayer, deliverance, counseling, and finding a place like this where I can persue my tickling interest without exposing myself to the 'bad stuff'.

Anything that throws the trust and comittment out the window can scuttle a marriage. Usually it's money, being 'in lust' and not 'in love', or other misconceptions of what marriage really is (Hint: It's a marathon, not a sprint!). Anything that throws off the trust and balance can destroy a good marriage.

 

[Journia]

the day to day shit song, coe on everybody!

Theeeeee....
Day to day shit was the day tio day
and the day to day was a shit to day!!!!
Oh kyles mom is a big fat bitch is the biggest bitch in the whole wide world....

 

[Papabear1]

Just for my two cents. My wifes child hood friends screwed up how ticklish she is now. She seems to have had her body shut down most of her sensitivity. I can get her ticklish if I make her really explode, seems to blow a circuit or something. I don't love her for that I love her for her. I am the only person I know who has permission to cheat, though I do not. I was a virgin when we were engaged and she had a few before me and one messed up marriage. I would like to find someone to play with us who is ticklish but I find it highly sexual and will not do that with just anyone so I do not bother. I deal with it through this and other sites and those times when I can trip her circuits. Marriage is about the whole person and the relationship, my wife is my best friend and who I see growing old and wrinkly with, she is my completion and I love her for that more than anything. Damn that was a hell of a lot of two cents worth.

 

[GEORGIATKLER]

THERE ARE TWO SIDES TO A DIVORCE: YOURS & THE SHITHEAD'S...

My Love Of Tickling Was One Of Many Torpedos That Sank Our Love Boat. The Day To Day Grind, Each Of Us Wanting To Be Da' Boss, Arguing Over Money And In-laws From Hell On Both Sides. Oh, Yeah My Ex Had Really Shitty Taste In Men, Too. 🙂

 

[HOLLYWOOD]

the hollywood brother could see it mess up a marriage if the wife says no all the time but otherwise it could bringtwo people closer

 

[coloman]

A marriage involves all of the things that have been mentioned in the replies to this thread. I would have to agree that tickling could break up a marriage but it would have to boil down to the fact that all one person ever wanted to do was tickle the other one or that one person would never allow the other person to tickle them.

 

[Budweiserbob!]

I saw a webpage once about a guy who lost a girlfriend of 17 years due to his tickle fetish. It acted as a warning sign.

But for me, no. I've only ever been in one marriage and that's to someone who loves to try new things! XD

But of course, you must be careful in a relationship. DOn't force tickling onto her. Little and occasionally is how I do it! XD

 

[drew70]

My first marriage ended because I insisted on constantly referring to myself in the third person. "Honey?! Drew's home!" or "Never mind, babe. Drew will do it Drew's self."

My Second Marriage Was A Virtual On Line Marriage In Which She Dumped Me Because I Insisted On Capitalizing The First Letter Of Every Word.

Third time's a champ!

 

[P.H. Tickler]

over a decade and still goin'
moderation and reciprocation is the key, or at least seems to be...(communication a major factor... preferably BEFORE the vows)
may only be once or twice a month, for my particular "interest" (nylons & tickling)...
but that's at least 12 times a year I get to live out my fantasies ;-)

we married eachother with 2 rules
1. never fight about money
2. never bring an argument into the bedroom

THAT seems to be the key to true longevity. If you take money arguments out of the list of things to argue about, there isn't much left to come between you. and rule#2 keeps pettyday-to-day trivial crap from "extinguishing the flame".

"she's my best friend" might sound cliche, but we had that before marriage, made bringing up the whole tickling thing MUCH easier.

another interesting aspect that I discovered was that not everybody has a particular "thing". After I explained my special interest to her, I asked (on several occasions) if there was anything she was inclined to... nothing (at least nothing like tickling).

overall, if done to excess or if it's the ONLY thing that interests you, then it may be a divorce waiting to happen... but there are MANY more things to keeping a marriage happy than that.

 

[Genma1]

I am getting married soon and I have a really big question:
Is it possible to sexually pleasure a wife in bed? even if you have a tickle fetish?
I mean, people in TT are members because they possess some form of a tickle fetish, and need that to get off.
I also suspect that a marriage comes with sexual activity to please a partner
However, if we need tickling to even get an erction, then how can we pleasure our partners sexually?

Please, any married members of TT, give me some advice

 

[tcls_4_yr_tummy]

Genma, good question

I dare to reply to your question. But please understand my answer is a best guesstimate. I could be wrong, in which case I have nothing to loose. But I could be right, and in that case, you have nothing to loose.
When I first got married, I had hoped she was as into tickling as I. Turns out tickling her made her mad!!! Well all good things come with drawbacks in this not so perfect world. Perhaps its better I love her for all the other things she represented to me. And you're right, I had doubts about being able to get aroused without indulging in my bedroom passion. But as I consciouly willed that tickling her was not needed, I found myself aroused by the petting, her reactions, you know the usual vanilla stuff. SO the answer is remove all doubt. You can be aroused by a woman for her being just a woman.
In conclusion, the next 8 years were regular vanilla, I put my passion out of my mind, if you can believe that's possible. And in the end, she dumped me for a guy ten years her younger! I'd like to believe it was the petty stuff that wedged us apart. Now she's gone, and I like tickling as much as ever!

 

[Celtic_Emperor]

ANYTHING can wreck a marriage if it's out of balance. Period.

 

[Journia]

well sauid.

 

[P[a]pi]

There are basically two kinds of people here on TT. There are people who think of tickling as fun, male and female, and there are people here who think of tickling as sexual, male and female. The fun tickling people will just think of meeting a partner into tickling as a bonus. The sex tickling people will think of meeting a partner into tickling as a goal or mandatory. If tickling is sexual to you than you are gonna want it as much as you want sex. I think most guys wouldn't marry a girl that wouldn't have sex with them, so I don't see a problem with a sex tickling guy not marrying a girl because she won't let him tie her up and tickle her.

And probably most important, the sex tickling guys want their wives to like tickling. A wife who is willing to indulge their husband's tickling fetish to keep them happy is alright, and enough for some. But I think every guy really wants a girl who likes it, either sexually or just as fun.

There are also some guys who say that tickling is their sex, and the only way they can get an erection. First off, I find that hard to believe. I think if a girl does the right stuff you'll get hard. But if it is true, then just ask to play with her feet, then start to have sex. Intercourse will feel good to any guy, period.

 

[gilmourwaters]

IMO ...if you're getting married to your guy/gal/partner and you have a tickling fetish.....or any fetish at all for that matter,BOTH parties had better damn well be aware of the fetish one has and is accepting of it...so for me a fetish should not ever be the PRIMARY reason a marraige crumbles

 

[Featherdemon]

*Wrecks come in many forms*

I think that if you hide anything from your partner then he/she may well end up resenting you and the thing that got in the way. As has all ready been said, anything that stop communication is bad. If your partner is not into the tickling then that is fine but you should be honest with them and (more importantly yourself) about exactly what you want and how bad you want it.

Feathers,

 

[TickledToDeath]

in MY opinion, the ONLY way tickling can wreck a marriage would be if the marriage is already in a tail spin heading for an inevitable crash.
No way can tickling alone wreck a marriage unless you are out tickling others behind your partners back and even then, it is not the tickling but the lie and deceit that ended the marriage.

 

[maniactickler38]

Of course tickling can wreck a marriage. if your a hard core tickler and married to someone whos not into it, its over!

 

[lordbaron]

mine was

Yes. Mine was. She didn't understand, and didn't want to. Many marriage councelors told her to relax, but too late.

I lost many good, rare videos in that marriage, either by trash cans or by scissors.

 

[lordbaron]

She sent me to a therapist. On the first visit, she said there was nothing to be ashamed of, and did not want to change my habit.


Turns out my ex and I were sexually incompatable.

 

[TheChameleon]

Agree with you 1000% Socks. Mine nearly was wrecked by it indirectly. Back in the late 80's/early '90s, before places like this existed, I fell into a pornography addiction in the process of looking for 'tickle stuff.' The addiction cost me a job and nearly my marriage. But I've stayed clean after prayer, deliverance, counseling, and finding a place like this where I can persue my tickling interest without exposing myself to the 'bad stuff'.

Anything that throws the trust and comittment out the window can scuttle a marriage. Usually it's money, being 'in lust' and not 'in love', or other misconceptions of what marriage really is (Hint: It's a marathon, not a sprint!). Anything that throws off the trust and balance can destroy a good marriage.

My only question is... if this turns you on more than the 'bad stuff' than how is it any better? Thats not fair for everybody else, who gets actual sex thrown at them all the time.

 

[Cbarton]

It depends on how you use it, Chameleon. I have the abiltiy now to pick and choose what I expose myself to. If the title and description are nto my type, I just avoid them. Tickling I can control. I lose my control if I wand to other things. I've been clean for quite a while and plan on staying that way.