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can you be "born" into a situation where its easier/harder to have experiences?

Wolf said:
No one asked you to jump in to gainsay everyone's advice to the OP, either.
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OP could use someone who actually related to him rather than hearing everything he felt was bullshit. Which is what your snarky "fuck off with your problems" posting provides.

Do you really see yourself as positive? at least I'm good at hiding my feelings.
 
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I never said anything is impossible, I keep telling you it's more rare/improbable for people however, something you obviously haven't faced.
 
No one said everything he felt was bullshit.
You're the one saying everyone's advice was bullshit, as usual.
Are you delusional, now, too? Is this a new thing?
 
Wolf said:
No one said everything he felt was bullshit.
You're the one saying everyone's advice was bullshit, as usual.
Are you delusional, now, too? Is this a new thing?
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telling someone they "just need confidence" and to forget about the fetish is prettymuch a brushoff.

ignoring someone telling you that environment is a factor in life IS bullshit. the fact Doll straight up ignored that just verified my opinion.

I spent a lot of my 20s chasing women that wouldn't work out, and got a dozen or two dates that went nowhere. what do I have to show for it? looking like a fool. so really, what am I denying myself? what am I not getting?
 
duderino84 said:
telling someone they "just need confidence" and to forget about the fetish is prettymuch a brushoff.

ignoring someone telling you that environment is a factor in life IS bullshit. the fact Doll straight up ignored that just verified my opinion.

I spent a lot of my 20s chasing women that wouldn't work out, and got a dozen or two dates that went nowhere. what do I have to show for it? looking like a fool. so really, what am I denying myself? what am I not getting?
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That's a straightforward question, but I can't answer it, because I don't know enough about what your criteria are for deciding who to date, how you're trying to meet them, or what you mean by the phrase "went nowhere".
 
duderino84 said:
telling someone they "just need confidence" and to forget about the fetish is prettymuch a brushoff.

ignoring someone telling you that environment is a factor in life IS bullshit. the fact Doll straight up ignored that just verified my opinion.
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Look: I was going to address the state topic today. But things disintegrated pretty rapidy last night.

I wasn't going to ignore that until you said the entire STATE is tight knit. Which is running away from the fact you are having a hard time finding a girlfriend. Blaming the entire state is absolutely ridiculous. That's why I asked you if you meant just the Tickling Comm there is tight knit. THAT I would have understood. When you said NO- you meant the entire STATE- yeeeeeaaah I was stunned. As I have only been to Seascaucus (sp?)and Wildwood- yeah I really couldn't speak anymore to N.J as a whole. But I don't NEED to. I have lived in many states- and they are all tight knit. So THAT theory is bullshit. How am I supposed to address full blown crazy statements? If I address it I'm only going to get back a just as crazy answer. You don't know what you're doing.

Get some professional help.

And yeah- you're right this all done at our leisure. VERY CORRECT. Trying to help others is a nice thing to do. For leisure. If you don't like how I handled WildLaughter that's fine- you don't have to. But... make no mistake... you're treated like a charity case because you ACT like a charity case. And people here keep flocking to help you. Time and time again. Jokes on us though right? Have fun beating off by yourself.
 
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Wolf said:
That's a straightforward question, but I can't answer it, because I don't know enough about what your criteria are for deciding who to date, how you're trying to meet them, or what you mean by the phrase "went nowhere".
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They said they didn't want to be friends or see me again. I'd say my standards were low to moderate? How. ...well, we know how that one's been.

CapturedDoll said:
Look: I was going to address the state topic today. But things disintegrated pretty rapidy last night.

I wasn't going to ignore that until you said the entire STATE is tight knit. Which is running away from the fact you are having a hard time finding a girlfriend. Blaming the entire state is absolutely ridiculous. That's why I asked you if you meant just the Tickling Comm there is tight knit. THAT I would have understood. When you said NO- you meant the entire STATE- yeeeeeaaah I was stunned. As I have only been to Seascaucus (sp?)and Wildwood- yeah I really couldn't speak anymore to N.J as a whole. But I don't NEED to. I have lived in many states- and they are all tight knit. So THAT theory is bullshit. How am I supposed to address full blown crazy statements? If I address it I'm only going to get back a just as crazy answer. You don't know what you're doing.

Get some professional help.

And yeah- you're right this all done at our leisure. VERY CORRECT. Trying to help others is a nice thing to do. For leisure. If you don't like how I handled WildLaughter that's fine- you don't have to. But... make no mistake... you're treated like a charity case because you ACT like a charity case. And people here keep flocking to help you. Time and time again. Jokes on us though right? Have fun beating off by yourself.
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You're judging the state based on two towns. One's especially great. The other is fairly nice. Ya, pretty tight knit. Again, "population density". It's not about blame, it's just what it is. I've seen the mental health practice on people. .....I'd rather keep to myself, based on my observation. You're right, it's a joke because I'm laughing at the fact you've been to one town with the least amount of people actually living in it and feel like that's a gauge for what the state is like. For the record, I've loved wildwood all my life. That'd be my pick for somewhere to aspire to afford. Oh and the 300 some tickling fetish community of NJ in fetlife? Lol one 30,000th of the state? Boy the things to look forward to!
 
Okay, here's the thing-

Finding a woman who feels the same way about tickling that you do is going to be difficult; even on Fetlife or the TMF, because, as you've said, that's all you want, and you partake in more conventional sexual activity only as a way to get what you want and feel as if you've given back. That's a tough sell in terms of relationships.
People want to be treated as something more than a cum sponge.

Finding someone outside of those communities who enjoys or is even okay with tickling is much more likely; I really can't overstate how much more likely it is.
However, that usually means that the desire for more conventional sexual activity would still be an issue.

Have you considered looking into Asexual communities, like asexualitic.com? A number of people who don't have a desire for conventional sex (or can't, for other reasons) often still enjoy sensual or pleasurable physical contact.
 
Well...obviously. How could that not be the case?

There are people with 'easier' times and 'harder' times when it comes to having tickling experiences...no matter what way you slice it. And those differences are based on the reality that we are all different people. Asking whether or not being 'born into a situation' has some kind of effect on those circumstances? You might as well be asking whether or not a thing is what it is.

Anyone appealing to "a person can overcome it; it just takes hard work"...Yeah...hard work. I think that's kind of the point of the question.

Even the condition of having a positive outlook, that drive, what some would refer to as the "human spirit"..that is something that is not the same in everyone. Just like 'being born into wealth', it's another one of the countless things that makes you you, and not Bucky Joe down the road.

To the extent that people have the lives they have, and not the lives they don't...I suppose you could call that 'luck'.
 
As much as I want to argue about cum sponge philosophy in the sex scene, I'll admit, no, I haven't looked into asexual communities because I'm not sure that I'm as asexual as I am sexually misdirected. But it's definitely worth a look.
 
You wanna argue something, argue it. Don't be passive-aggressive about it.
 
CapturedDoll said:
Who me? I'm not arguing. You just had the best idea EVER! 🙂 And he's open to it! I'm thrilled!
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No, no...sorry, should have quoted.
He dropped one of those, "As much as I'd like to argue about..." lines.
 
CapturedDoll said:
I usually am not. Depends on who's asking and what the question is. Are you alluding to something? Or... what do you mean as per this thread?
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I'm saying it took a fair amount of pressing the issues in this thread to finally hear actual perspectives that each other could tolerate.

Wolf said:
What is?
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Well I mean "cum sponge". ..is that a reference to promiscuity or just not feeling appreciated?
 
duderino84 said:
I'm saying it took a fair amount of pressing the issues in this thread to finally hear actual perspectives that each other could tolerate.

Well I mean "cum sponge". ..is that a reference to promiscuity or just not feeling appreciated?
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More like the latter.
It's a reference to people treating others as masturbatory tools, in that satisfying their fetish is the real goal, and that the actual person is just incidental.
It's like that TV sequence where the comedian went to a foot fetish party, and the guy was slobbering all over her foot, and she said something along the lines of, "I could just pop out a tit right now, and that wouldn't matter, would it?". She could have cut her foot off and handed it to him, that how focused he was.
And that's something that people who deal with some in the community have to deal with.
 
Naw, it's not incidental. I mean if it didn't matter who, anyone would fit the bill, right? All the people I tried I thought had really good qualities to them. They just didn't match in interests, really. I was always willing to "equal" in relationships. But I think people have a purpose in mind for the people they're seeing, mostly. I just don't serve the one I'm wanted to. Which explains no "after" with my previous partners.

If that term "cum sponge" referred to the former it'd make sense.
 
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duderino84 said:
Naw, it's not incidental. I mean if it didn't matter who, anyone would fit the bill, right? All the people I tried I thought had really good qualities to them. They just didn't match in interests, really. I was always willing to "equal" in relationships. But I think people have a purpose in mind for the people they're seeing, mostly. I just don't serve the one I'm wanted to. Which explains no "after" with my previous partners.

If that term "cum sponge" referred to the former it'd make sense.
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Yeah, I suppose. I don't think we're going to get anywhere discussing actual relationship dynamics.
If you want to find someone who might be more amenable to your fetish, I've given you my ideas.
 
I guess having a great tickling experience can be similar to most things in live in which you have to just go for it. I've had plenty of great tickling experiences because of that, middle school and high school were great in particular with female friends and girlfriends, tickling different races and personality types and a lot of women I've interacted with were enjoyably ticklish.
 
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