Chance not taken.. Feel like an idiot.

[marzbarz]

I had the PERFECT opportunity to tickle my best friend on Friday. I did not take it. It went exactly as planned.

I stayed over at her apartment for that night, and I needed her to model for me for my drawing project and I took pictures of her. I told her I wanted to do a hand and foot study. For my final project I needed a theme and I wanted to do emotional portraits of people "in the moment" being happy.

Her roommate was there but we moved to her room, just as I had wanted it to. We sat on her bed, and I took pictures of her hands and bare feet. It was fun and good until she wanted me to be more specific about the happy expression. She told me it was hard to fake it. And I knew this would happen.

My idea was for her to sit with her legs forward. I would sit on her legs to get an angle of her torso up. And I would ask her to tell me a story. Usually when she tells stories she has hand movements and facial expressions when she gets excited. If she didn't get into it, or during her story, I would tickle her feet.

I froze. I could not do it. I spent about 10 minutes just sitting and thinking. I was so nervous. Earlier that day I had tickled her a little. Just little pokes. She hugged me and told me she wouldn't let go. And when it got to an awkwardly long time in embrace, I tickled her sides and ribs and she giggled and let go. I felt like it was a sign to tell me that it was okay.

How can I set it up so perfect like this again?? At least make me feel less uncomfortable.. Should I tell her about this moment I had with her? So she knows how serious it is for me? Maybe talking to her, physically telling me that it's okay will get me more comfortable about it?

 

[CD216]

Everyone misses certain chances marz, try not to beat yourself up over it. She's your best friend so talking to her might help make it easier on you and to set up such a situation again.

Don't worry, there's always another day for a reason.

 

[Mike3355]

there will be other chances girl, just gotta be patient enough for them...

 

[Jagermeistered]

First - Don't kick yourself in the ass...

Second - No need to bring up the moment, since she may or may not remember it.

Lastly, like CD said... She's your best friend. Tell her about your fetish...

 

[Avenger314]

You're better off missing a moment that could've worked, than trying for a moment that works badly or blows up.

 

[PiedPiper]

The best-laid plans, eh?

... First off, Marz, I know practically nothing about the origin of your intent, here,.. nor about the "best friend" protocol you have going with this lady. Just want to "innocently" tickle her? Keying on her feet? Other? Whichever it is, Avenger was right.....

You're better off missing a moment that could've worked, than trying for a moment that works badly or blows up.

...That much said, I thought your plan seemed too overly choreographed, and that's where you faltered. Good ad-libbing would have been a less error-prone strategy. Had I been in your situation, I would have just used the photo shoot phase of the mission to segueway into tickling,.... you could have been extra "concerned" about having just the right angle/posture for her feet,.... used that as a pretext for reaching over to tweak the positioning (along with a toe),.... a little casual brushing a speck of something to elicit a response,...one thing leading to another "I don't know what it is with me, but tickling someone's foot is always fun." And suddenly you're talking about it,.. gaining valuable intel and insight as to what might happen next. All very naturally, too.

And yeah, I construct plans around my own glibness, which is considerable (my profession demanded and refined it), and we all hate to miss an opportunity, if such really exists. Just don't feel bad about it,... treat glitches like these as learning experiences.