Ah, okay, though the more I think about it, that strikes me as something that would be highly individualized based on strongly variable preferences. For example, some people would only have rope on the list to cover bondage, while others might want cuffs and straps, or stocks. I think you'll have to create one tailored to you, but maybe people can reply with things for you to consider adding to your list. I'll try to give you a start. I'm not going to include spots to tickle, as that is the most individualized and totally depends upon the lee–anywhere can be ticklish, or not ticklish at all.
Bondage & Restriction
- Cuffs
- Adjustable Straps
- Rope
- Stocks & Toe-tie strings
- Blindfold
- Gag
- Earplugs/headphones
Tools
- Feathers
- Paint/makeup brushes
- Finger claws
- Hairbrushes
- Pet grooming gloves
- Electric Toothbrush
- Electric Flosser
- Oil / lotion
Atmosphere & Experience
- Background music
- Candles or special lighting
- Fragrances
- Special clothing (and extra clothing...tickling can be a sweaty activity lol)
Safety
- Discuss aftercare ahead of time
- Emergency Shears (not just any scissors, and definitely not pointy ones!)
- Prepare bondage in a quick release way in case of emergencies
- Establish Safewords–Even in CNC play, having one for medical emergencies is important.
- Ask about relevant medical conditions and be prepared to deal with any existing or emergent challenges related to them.
- If you're the lee, informing a trusted third party of your location, and when to expect check-ins
- Ask about material and food allergies and sensitivities
- Talk about privacy expectations (recordings, pictures, sharing info about the session, etc)
- Prepare in advance for hydration and snacks. Remember water alone is not always sufficient for hydration and that electrolytes are important.
- Knowledge & sanity – Know what you're doing before experimenting on someone, especially with bondage
This is not at all an exhaustive list, but hopefully will get you started. Good luck!
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