Collars?

[TicklishGrl4Lfe]

Has anyone ever used a collar? Like as part of a role play, their lee was a tickle slave and had to wear a collar to show ownership or submissiveness?

 

[tickledorange]

Yeah, it's a cheap red leather pet collar. The only reason I went for that was a) it was cheaper than buying a collar made specifically for people and b) it has a loop in the back where a chain can be hooked to so I can be secured to like a wall using my neck.

 

[TicklishGrl4Lfe]

Was it comfortable or uncomfortable for you to wear it?

 

[TMF Jeff]

I love collars on girls. If I was rich I'd have collars like Imelda Marcos had shoes.

 

[ChosenofMystra]

I sometimes wear a black leather dog collar.

 

[TicklishGrl4Lfe]

I sometimes wear a black leather dog collar.

wow!

 

[Mimi]

Yeah, I have one. Getting used to wearing one is like getting used to wearing a choker necklace. It tends to feel a little annoying at first, but you get used to it after wearing it a little while.

 

[TicklishGrl4Lfe]

What does it look like?

 

[EBunbury]

One thing you should be aware of about collars; they have a serious symbolic meaning in the BDSM community. Accepting and wearing a collar from someone says that you have committed to that person as a submissive. Within the community, collaring ceremonies often have the emotional significance of a wedding. I've been to a few, and officiated at one. As a matter of fact, a recent study showed that a D/s relationship sealed with a collar in a witnessed ceremony was almost twice as likely as a marriage to still be intact a decade later!

🙂 E. Bunbury

 

[TicklishGrl4Lfe]

One thing you should be aware of about collars; they have a serious symbolic meaning in the BDSM community. Accepting and wearing a collar from someone says that you have committed to that person as a submissive. Within the community, collaring ceremonies often have the emotional significance of a wedding. I've been to a few, and officiated at one. As a matter of fact, a recent study showed that a D/s relationship sealed with a collar in a witnessed ceremony was almost twice as likely as a marriage to still be intact a decade later!

🙂 E. Bunbury

Yeah I read something about that. Does that mean going to a different Master would be cheating, like in a traditional marriage seeing another person is cheating?

 

[ChosenofMystra]

One thing you should be aware of about collars; they have a serious symbolic meaning in the BDSM community. Accepting and wearing a collar from someone says that you have committed to that person as a submissive. Within the community, collaring ceremonies often have the emotional significance of a wedding. I've been to a few, and officiated at one. As a matter of fact, a recent study showed that a D/s relationship sealed with a collar in a witnessed ceremony was almost twice as likely as a marriage to still be intact a decade later!

🙂 E. Bunbury

They also have some meaning in the furry community as well. Mostly for camp value though if nothing more 🙂

 

[tickledorange]

Was it comfortable or uncomfortable for you to wear it?

Not anymore. It used to make my neck sweat, but now I don't notice it when I wear it.

 

[EBunbury]

Yeah I read something about that. Does that mean going to a different Master would be cheating, like in a traditional marriage seeing another person is cheating?

Well, if they do it behind their back, sure. Most people who enter into a relationship like that give some thought to who can play with whom. Many people are active in hobby groups, and may, for example, arrange to play erotically with someone else, but reserve actual sex for their primary relationship. There are probably as many variations as there are couples, but the key is to be open with each other.

Kinda like a marriage, where some couples may swap and be perfectly fine with it, but for others, that would end the marriage.

🙂 E. Bunbury

 

[TicklishGrl4Lfe]

Well, if they do it behind their back, sure. Most people who enter into a relationship like that give some thought to who can play with whom. Many people are active in hobby groups, and may, for example, arrange to play erotically with someone else, but reserve actual sex for their primary relationship. There are probably as many variations as there are couples, but the key is to be open with each other.

Kinda like a marriage, where some couples may swap and be perfectly fine with it, but for others, that would end the marriage.

🙂 E. Bunbury

Ah I see.

 

[Papabear]

Keep an eye open

Yes beware of the collar when not engaged in playing and be careful what it means. My wife used to wear a collar once in a while then she hooked up with some guy overseas online and now she is not allowed to take it off. Yeah I know this was until very recently the girl I loved with all my heart and soul who is now a Real Life D/s slave to some a@@hole and is no longer the girl I loved now who I want anymore. I only wish I could find out his real name and let his wife know since she is in the same boat ecxept she can still touch her husband. We went from wonderful sex one day to literally not touching from the next day on because of orders from the master. So men and women beware and the collars do not have to look like dog collars hers is an native american necklace, btw one I bought her. Yeah I am a little bitter though she has no idea how bitter or what all I do know about.
Sorry for the ranting.

 

[cloudgazer2k]

my girl wants one, and recently she learned the S/M significance to collars. though she isn't even close to being a true sub, as she has a stong dominant personality, i think she still wants one just cuz they look good on her.

 

[kilitiinko1]

Collars-how wonderful/horrible!

I`ve never been collared in the BDSM sense of ownership,but I have worn collars in play. The particular collar I was secured in had steel rings that allowed for several tie points.Let me assure you,this provided some extremely restrictive bondage when Mistress was finished! Yes,the wrist and ankle cuffs are great,but that collar and a strap over the forehead really took the fight out of me! These were some of the best/worst ticklings I have ever received! 😱 😛oke3: 😱 😛oke3:

Judging from Jeff`s comment,he knows exactly what I`m talking about!

If you are a `ler who has a `lee that is a wiggler,I highly recommend a sturdy bondage collar! 😱 !

 

[tickledorange]

I`ve never been collared in the BDSM sense of ownership,but I have worn collars in play.

That's what mine is for, just for fun.

 

[isabeau]

I think wearing a collar is super sexy, besides showing everyone that you are owned..it's all in how you perceive the relationship..

 

[TicklishGrl4Lfe]

I think wearing a collar is super sexy, besides showing everyone that you are owned..it's all in how you perceive the relationship..

mhmmmmmm I totally agree Melanie.

 

[Lttg]

Yes beware of the collar when not engaged in playing and be careful what it means. My wife used to wear a collar once in a while then she hooked up with some guy overseas online and now she is not allowed to take it off. Yeah I know this was until very recently the girl I loved with all my heart and soul who is now a Real Life D/s slave to some a@@hole and is no longer the girl I loved now who I want anymore. I only wish I could find out his real name and let his wife know since she is in the same boat ecxept she can still touch her husband. We went from wonderful sex one day to literally not touching from the next day on because of orders from the master. So men and women beware and the collars do not have to look like dog collars hers is an native american necklace, btw one I bought her. Yeah I am a little bitter though she has no idea how bitter or what all I do know about.
Sorry for the ranting.

this is what bugs me about the S&M community. Its a lot more... serious than any other minor fetish etc and it tends to have real life implications whereas tickling doesnt. I know im on thin ice condeming one form of fetish while i consider my own fetish perfectly fine, but it seems to me that delving into S&M can turn people into a shell of who they used to be..

I was talking to an ex gf of mine the other day who has recently gotten into a relationship with a guy 20 years older than her and based on S/D. I was interested at first, although it weirded me out slightly.. but when i asked her if she wanted to go out for a drink (with me and other friends, wasnt making any sort of move) she acted as if id asked her to commit a murder, and said "my master wouldnt let me go out with any other guys" and later told me shed pretty much gotten rid of most of her friends at her "masters" request.

i mean i know this is her lifestyle choice, but seriously just dumping your friends with no consideration to other peoples feelings, is that right?

 

[BellaRisa]

this is what bugs me about the S&M community. Its a lot more... serious than any other minor fetish etc and it tends to have real life implications whereas tickling doesnt...but seriously just dumping your friends with no consideration to other peoples feelings, is that right?

You mean the D/s community. D/s is a lifestyle or way of being, not a fetish like tickling or spanking (which are actually proclivities rather than fetishes, but I digress 😉 ). And yes, it can indeed be a very serious part of one's real life. But whether that reduces a person to a mere shell or lifts them up to the best they've ever been depends on the person and the situation, not D/s itself. There are plenty of people into 'just' tickling or other kinks that have become overly obsessed and too focused and hurt/ignored the other aspects of their lives. And how many vanillas out there have dropped their friends and families for an overbearing boyfriend or spouse? You hear about it all the time.

And to stay on topic, I adore collars; My Sir collared me in 2002 and wearing mine brings out a part of me that I truly cherish

Bella

 

[TicklishGrl4Lfe]

And to stay on topic, I adore collars; My Sir collared me in 2002 and wearing mine brings out a part of me that I truly cherish

Bella

did you do the whole collaring ceremony Bella?

 

[BellaRisa]

did you do the whole collaring ceremony Bella?

Nah, it didn't feel necessary, everyone who knew us considered me collared to him way before we actually did it 🙂 We found a nice one that we liked one evening while we were out and about, he bought it and placed it on me, and that was that . We've been together 7 yrs and we'll prolly do something more formal at the 10 yr mark

Bella

 

[TicklishGrl4Lfe]

Nah, it didn't feel necessary, everyone who knew us considered me collared to him way before we actually did it 🙂 We found a nice one that we liked one evening while we were out and about, he bought it and placed it on me, and that was that . We've been together 7 yrs and we'll prolly do something more formal at the 10 yr mark

Bella

what does your collar look like?