Coming out of the closet.. Tickling compared?

[ChaosControl]

I don't know how most of the Tickling world feels... but one huge reason I am not homophobic is because of the Fetish... You don't choose to like tickling, just as people who are Homosexual don't choose to like the same sex.

I am personally not gay, but what I don't get is why people basically expect them to come out and say they are gay these days...

We should all be proud of who we are.. but how many people here are open about having a Tickling fetish? A good few friends know about mine, but i wouldn't want just everyone and anyone knowing about it, it is something personal for me. I remember in college a lad used to go round the girls, and many who were my friends, and would ask if he could sniff their shoes and suck their toes... so everyone started saying how sick fetishes were... and i want to be known as Leighton, not for my fetish, having people know me for "That person with the fetish" is something I don't like... I prefer to be know as the one with the smile on his face.... just as i don't refer to my gay friends as gay first or foremost.. or my Black friends by their skin.

If you are straight/Bi/Gay/Have a fetish/Don't have a fetish.. we are all human beings. It upsets me how foot Fetishes are treated with such disgust.. . People known as "freaks" because of it... I use Feet as an example because not as many people know Tickling is a fetish it would seem.

So how many people on the forum are open about their Fetish? I think it takes courage not caring who knows stuff about you... I commend anyone who is open about their fetish or sexuality.

=)

 

[playgirl]

i'm pretty open about my life in general. i don't feel the need to shove it in people's faces, but if it comes up, i'm open and out. i will tell you most anything you want to know about me while maintaining discretion about those with whom i play. i will admit, however, that there are some things i'm into that aren't included on my fetish list on fetlife. what's not included on my fetish list isn't about not being out or ashamed as much as it is about some things being private and special or things that i only engage in on certain occasions with certain people. being open and out is totally freeing. if you don't like it, your loss.

unfortunately, i think the US is a pretty sexually repressed culture and that repression and suppression comes out in unhealthy ways. owning your sexuality is powerful!

it's been difficult for me to understand how people have a difficult time being open about being into tickling when it's such a common, socially acceptable activity. it's probably the only fetish that is also practiced in an innocent nonsexual way in public and with kids. who didn't grow up being tickled? tickling is so acceptable, it seems easy for anyone to say they're into tickling and no one would blink an eye. for those with whom you want to engage in tickling as a fetish, those are the ones you let know it's a fetish, since they're really the only ones it really applies to anyway, right?

just my $.02

 

[rhiannon]

Uhm....you know....fetishes are not treated with disgust if you aren't running around trying to force them on people - like that guy you talked about. Why would anybody do that? Imagine he ran around asking every girl "Can I lick your pussy?" I don't think a whole lot of people would object to pussy licking - IN PRIVATE!! But for God's sake, don't run around and ask everybody and their mother if you can do it to them!

People shouldn't know about what floats your boat unless they are sitting in the freaking boat with you, meaning they are the one you are having sex with! I will never understand why people on here feel the urge to run around telling everybody that they get off from tickling!

 

[Exile]

I was terrified the first time I actually told a girlfriend that I wanted to be tickled. But with that first 'opening up' came an incredible sense of elation and freedom as well. Just as Rhiannon stated, as long as you don't go around attempting to force your fetish down the throat of others, you'd be amazed at how open and receptive most people are to new ideas and things.

 

[LD_Tickler]

There are some minor similarities between having a fetish and being homosexual, but only minor.

The "coming out" isn't really comparable. Divulging that you have a fetish is uncomfortable because people may not be familiar with your fetish and think it's weird. However, coming divulging that you're homosexual can be way, way worse, because people are familiar with the idea and have deep-rooted hostility, prejudice, and hate towards it.

 

[ParanoidChant]

I don't know how most of the Tickling world feels... but one huge reason I am not homophobic is because of the Fetish... You don't choose to like tickling, just as people who are Homosexual don't choose to like the same sex.

I am personally not gay, but what I don't get is why people basically expect them to come out and say they are gay these days...

We should all be proud of who we are.. but how many people here are open about having a Tickling fetish? A good few friends know about mine, but i wouldn't want just everyone and anyone knowing about it, it is something personal for me. I remember in college a lad used to go round the girls, and many who were my friends, and would ask if he could sniff their shoes and suck their toes... so everyone started saying how sick fetishes were... and i want to be known as Leighton, not for my fetish, having people know me for "That person with the fetish" is something I don't like... I prefer to be know as the one with the smile on his face.... just as i don't refer to my gay friends as gay first or foremost.. or my Black friends by their skin.

If you are straight/Bi/Gay/Have a fetish/Don't have a fetish.. we are all human beings. It upsets me how foot Fetishes are treated with such disgust.. . People known as "freaks" because of it... I use Feet as an example because not as many people know Tickling is a fetish it would seem.

So how many people on the forum are open about their Fetish? I think it takes courage not caring who knows stuff about you... I commend anyone who is open about their fetish or sexuality.

=)

The difference in homosexuality and tickle fetishism is that its a lot harder to be openly gay and not have people know about it - if you're walking around holding hands with your partner its pretty obvious to people what floats your boat (Master/slave relationships can be a similar situation.) If you're tickling your partner in public, it's just tickling in everyone's eyes.

Honestly there are few times where discussing what I do in bed ever comes up in a mature conversation, so only a handful of people know about what turns me on. I remember a time when I use to think that 'opening up' would make me feel like less of a freak, like people would understand me more. But knowing what turns someone on is only useful when being intimate; otherwise its just trivia.

 

[naughtylucy]

I don't think a whole lot of people would object to pussy licking - IN PRIVATE!! But for God's sake, don't run around and ask everybody and their mother if you can do it to them!

Yes, particularly don't ask everyone and their mum if you can go down on them. Now THAT'S a Sunday dinner I wouldn't like to attend.

 

[rhiannon]

Yes, particularly don't ask everyone and their mum if you can go down on them. Now THAT'S a Sunday dinner I wouldn't like to attend.

Quit being silly 🙂

 

[Coup de Grace]

I don't tell anyone about my female toe fetish. They'll just think I'm strange even though it's the most common fetish.

 

[TangerineTicklee]

I wish I could be...

I don't know how most of the Tickling world feels... but one huge reason I am not homophobic is because of the Fetish... You don't choose to like tickling, just as people who are Homosexual don't choose to like the same sex.

I am personally not gay, but what I don't get is why people basically expect them to come out and say they are gay these days...

We should all be proud of who we are.. but how many people here are open about having a Tickling fetish? A good few friends know about mine, but i wouldn't want just everyone and anyone knowing about it, it is something personal for me. I remember in college a lad used to go round the girls, and many who were my friends, and would ask if he could sniff their shoes and suck their toes... so everyone started saying how sick fetishes were... and i want to be known as Leighton, not for my fetish, having people know me for "That person with the fetish" is something I don't like... I prefer to be know as the one with the smile on his face.... just as i don't refer to my gay friends as gay first or foremost.. or my Black friends by their skin.

If you are straight/Bi/Gay/Have a fetish/Don't have a fetish.. we are all human beings. It upsets me how foot Fetishes are treated with such disgust.. . People known as "freaks" because of it... I use Feet as an example because not as many people know Tickling is a fetish it would seem.

So how many people on the forum are open about their Fetish? I think it takes courage not caring who knows stuff about you... I commend anyone who is open about their fetish or sexuality.

=)

I'm not open about my fetish because I do care about what people think about me. Why? The way people think about you reflects how they will treat you. Not only that, but there are just some things you keep to yourself, that aren't suppose to be open to the public.

I hate the way the world is today. Things aren't as discreet as they use to be. Things aren't a secret/surprise anymore, and I believe that - for any form of sexual magic to exist - some things need to be searched for. I believe fetishes should be bedroom material, only, because if you share it with others who are not inclined to feel the same way, then you should only be ready to receive harsh criticism. While I do have a tickle fetish myself, I would also be rather cheesed off at someone for coming up to me in public and making such a request. It's not because I am ashamed of said person, or their fetish, but rather because they expressed it in the wrong time, at the wrong place.

I'm tremendously selective about whom I share my fetish with. A) others with a tickle fetish, and B) people I am very close to. If I am not close to you and/or you do not have a tickle fetish, I'll most likely keep a great deal of my life from you.

 

[ParanoidChant]

Things aren't as discreet as they use to be. Things aren't a secret/surprise anymore, and I believe that - for any form of sexual magic to exist - some things need to be searched for.

Mm, agreed. A symptom of the "Everything I Do Is Interesting" culture of facebook and co.

 

[the tickleshow]

Uhm....you know....fetishes are not treated with disgust if you aren't running around trying to force them on people - like that guy you talked about. Why would anybody do that? Imagine he ran around asking every girl "Can I lick your pussy?" I don't think a whole lot of people would object to pussy licking - IN PRIVATE!! But for God's sake, don't run around and ask everybody and their mother if you can do it to them!

People shouldn't know about what floats your boat unless they are sitting in the freaking boat with you, meaning they are the one you are having sex with! I will never understand why people on here feel the urge to run around telling everybody that they get off from tickling!

I have to agree with Rhiannon here. While it may be "liberating" to finally tell your partner, girlfriend, whomever; telling people you are not or will not be intimate with is not really necessary. I have 3 friends who know, plus my old girlfriends and my wife. No one else i personally know needs to know. I get my liberation here.🙂

 

[Interrogator]

There are some minor similarities between having a fetish and being homosexual, but only minor.

The "coming out" isn't really comparable. Divulging that you have a fetish is uncomfortable because people may not be familiar with your fetish and think it's weird. However, coming divulging that you're homosexual can be way, way worse, because people are familiar with the idea and have deep-rooted hostility, prejudice, and hate towards it.

I guess this is just a question of where you live (not wishing to make sweeping generalisations). Where I live being openly gay is perfectly acceptable, even normal. If I were to meet someone new and they found out I was gay (hypothetically speaking) they probably wouldn't bat an eyelid. As for coming out, I guess being gay is quite a paradigm shift, so its quite a lot for close friends/family to deal with (one of mine told me he was bi, and was quite a shock to be honest, but I dealt with it). Being open about tickling may not be such a big deal, but it is much more obscure and unique, so makes you that much more speical/weird (delete as appropriate) in the eyes of the people you tell. Although I don't believe liking tickling affects your life as much as being gay, so being honest about it should in theory be easier, which is a bit rich coming from me who's never told anyone...

 

[TangerineTicklee]

Mm, agreed. A symptom of the "Everything I Do Is Interesting" culture of facebook and co.

😉 Exactly why I don't do Facebook.

 

[AmandaBear]

I don't know how most of the Tickling world feels... but one huge reason I am not homophobic is because of the Fetish... You don't choose to like tickling, just as people who are Homosexual don't choose to like the same sex.

I am personally not gay, but what I don't get is why people basically expect them to come out and say they are gay these days...

We should all be proud of who we are.. but how many people here are open about having a Tickling fetish? A good few friends know about mine, but i wouldn't want just everyone and anyone knowing about it, it is something personal for me. I remember in college a lad used to go round the girls, and many who were my friends, and would ask if he could sniff their shoes and suck their toes... so everyone started saying how sick fetishes were... and i want to be known as Leighton, not for my fetish, having people know me for "That person with the fetish" is something I don't like... I prefer to be know as the one with the smile on his face.... just as i don't refer to my gay friends as gay first or foremost.. or my Black friends by their skin.

If you are straight/Bi/Gay/Have a fetish/Don't have a fetish.. we are all human beings. It upsets me how foot Fetishes are treated with such disgust.. . People known as "freaks" because of it... I use Feet as an example because not as many people know Tickling is a fetish it would seem.

So how many people on the forum are open about their Fetish? I think it takes courage not caring who knows stuff about you... I commend anyone who is open about their fetish or sexuality.

=)

Very beautifully said. 🙂 For me personally, I'd much rather prefer that people know about me being gay than having them know about my fetish. The gayness is something mainstream and it's becoming more accepted by the day...fetishes, however are a whole different story. XD But when it comes to real life friends, I've opened up my lesbian identity to a select few but absolutely no one knows about the fetish. Haha, I remember being at my friend's birthday party and she actually mentioned being into bondage. Since there was also a lot of innocent tickling going on there, I didn't dare mention my fetish out of fear of being thought of as a creeper. lol But yeah, when it comes to my offline friends only a small handful will know about my gayness and an even smaller bunch will know about the fetish. 😀 That is...if they didn't already guess based on the picture of a rainbow flag slapped onto my purse.

Mm, agreed. A symptom of the "Everything I Do Is Interesting" culture of facebook and co.

I think Dr. Phil calls it the "Me" generation.

 

[ticklishangel52]

I personally am not too open about my fetish. I have to know a person REALLY well before I'll tell them about it. I did take a gamble though with my current B/f when I found out he was ticklish. I tied him up and started tickling him, and after about 15 minutes, I told him the truth about myself, that I have a tickle fetish. Turns out he did too in a certain way, and was just afraid that I would think he was creepy for it. So now I have a sweet, wonderful b/f who tickles the crap out of me on a daily basis. What more could you ask for? 🙂