Craziest "partners" Lers have had to deal with?

[Sethalt2323]

For the Ler's, have you ever had a partner of your Lee freak out, try to fight you, or even break up with the Lee after "finding out"? Lemme hear your stories!

 

[SoleMates]

I did have a really strange interaction with one of my original models. She E-mailed me after having worked with me numerous times and asked me to remove all of her personal information from my website. I went and checked my storefront, but there was absolutely zero personal information there. I had given her a stage name and it's not like I publish their phone numbers or anything. So I told her as much. She then said that her then-boyfriend "googled her E-mail" and somehow found her videos, and he was mocking her over it.

I thought this was strange, so I double-checked again. In going through my E-mail exchanges with her, I discovered that I didn't even have her actual E-mail address, because we were using the Craigslist anonymous relay (it masks your address from the recipient for privacy).

I left it at that, but later that year I reached out and told her that I'd send her a Christmas card that year if she had an address she'd care to share (at the time, I was sending little ten-dollar gift cards to my models every holiday season). She responded implying that something "life-ruining" had happened, no she wouldn't tell me what it was, and said she'd prefer it if I never contacted her again.

Weird. I respected her wishes and haven't heard from her since.

I also used to work for a guy who ran a photography studio, and he told me that it wasn't uncommon for a woman to come in alone, do a boudoir shoot for her man, and then when she showed him the photos he'd flip out - which would cause her to backpedal and say that she didn't actually want to take photos that provocative, but the photographer made her do it. The enraged boyfriend would then turn up at my employer's studio to "discuss" the matter with him. He never elaborated on what happened next, but the way he made it sound, it happened fairly often. I was never a witness to any of this stuff though because by the time I started working for him he was mostly just running websites that he needed a PHP programmer for.

 

[hefophre]

Maybe she meant that he accessed the email and found the conversation that lead him to your site. Maybe she meant that she wanted you to take the videos down?
I think that it is strange you reached out months later to offer to send her a card, after she had requested that of you. I know you paid them, but you know you aren't making anything from these videos, but even if you were, you should just remove them if they express any concern like that.

 

[SoleMates]

Maybe she meant that he accessed the email and found the conversation that lead him to your site.

That was my thought as well - but that's not what she said, so I can only speculate. If that was indeed what happened then she had bigger problems than just some kinky videos.

Maybe she meant that she wanted you to take the videos down?

If I recall correctly, she asked me to "make sure that her contact information wasn't displayed on my site", to which I complied and verified that none was. She didn't say anything about taking the videos down. I might have even asked her if she wanted me to do that, but I don't remember. This was over ten years ago.

I think that it is strange you reached out months later to offer to send her a card, after she had requested that of you.

I was under the impression that it was a misunderstanding and that we were still on good terms. She didn't seem upset at the time.

I know you paid them, but you know you aren't making anything from these videos, but even if you were, you should just remove them if they express any concern like that.

You don't know shit about my business' financial situation, or what I am or am not capable of doing with it. Stay in your lane.

And to be honest? I treat my models well and accommodate them as best I can, but I'm not a boyfriend wrangler. Their private lives and how they handle their fetish work is neither my problem nor my responsibility.

...as an aside, this is why producers are less likely to work with "girl next door" models - the pros' partners don't pull this shit.

 

[hefophre]

That was my thought as well - but that's not what she said, so I can only speculate. If that was indeed what happened then she had bigger problems than just some kinky videos.



If I recall correctly, she asked me to "make sure that her contact information wasn't displayed on my site", to which I complied and verified that none was. She didn't say anything about taking the videos down. I might have even asked her if she wanted me to do that, but I don't remember. This was over ten years ago.



I was under the impression that it was a misunderstanding and that we were still on good terms. She didn't seem upset at the time.



You don't know shit about my business' financial situation, or what I am or am not capable of doing with it. Stay in your lane.

And to be honest? I treat my models well and accommodate them as best I can, but I'm not a boyfriend wrangler. Their private lives and how they handle their fetish work is neither my problem nor my responsibility.

...as an aside, this is why producers are less likely to work with "girl next door" models - the pros' partners don't pull this shit.

Prove me wrong and show your sales then. It would be a massive benefit to those interested in investing their time and effort into creating these videos to see what a veteran creator is actually earning. It will save those thinking they will be making worthwhile money for their effort, because they see all of these active producers and assume they are earning a worthwhile return for their time, when in reality its little if any.

Ive read your posts that these videos just make a little extra money

"...I swear, it's like an urban legend that just won't fucking die. I've been saying "I don't hire fakes" and "my girls aren't porn stars" until I'm blue in the face. If that really mattered to y'all I'd be doing a hell of a lot better than beer money every month."

I am also aware of other creators production financial situations (past not present), and with the distribution platform ranking by sales, and yours being far below them at the time, suggest contrary. Though maybe you had big customs, etc. Obviously it just an educated assumption on my end. And this was quite a while ago, so i cant say how it is now, but It feel safe to assume. If piracy mostly stopped sales then, i cannot imagine it is any better now.


It may not be your responsibility to handle their personal situations, etc. but if the content isn't actually earning anything worthwhile, and so is being made for personal entertainment, expression, etc, and they express concern and some problems arising from the shoot, the conscientious thing to do is to just remove it.

 

[duderino84]

Usually just depressed types that turn out to be a delight to tickle, who then seem to realize what they've gotten themselves into and disappear.

 

[South_Atmo]

Ohhhh hell,

Sit back... this is an interesting one.

To answer your question, sadly, yes. There was one woman who wasn't honest with me. She told me that she had spoke to her boyfriend about everything, showed the website and he was 100% cool with it. We got through two shoots before I started getting text messages on my business phone from some random number. It was her boyfriend... looking for her. And you know, it might not seem so bad. Maybe the guy is concerned, etc. etc. Well... the message read:

"where that b***, **name redacted. I know she wit u"

My immediate reaction was... "huh?" And then it dawned on me. He saw my number in her phone and thought I was some dude she was seeing on the side. I thought it was odd at first because we never texted anything outside of scheduling, outfits, etc. But... people can delete stuff, right? And if you're not privy to the information that you should be privy to, those texts can all still seem very incriminating.

So, I stupidly tried to diffuse the situation. I should have never responded and just brought the situation up to her and let her handle it. But I let him know that if she is stepping out in him, it's not with me. I explain who I am and what I do, but I do it in a way assuming he already knew she was doing some modeling for me. That was mistake number 2, because the dude 1, had no clue what I was talking about, and 2 didn't believe me and proceeded to threaten to come find me and if he found her at my place, yadda yadda yadda. Now, the only people who knew where I lived at that time were Betsy, Willow, Rayne, Tori, and Nadia and Kandace. They only know because they became my actual friends and we hung out. Betsy had been my friend since 2004. So, I was never worried that the dude would find me given that no new models knew where I lived. I shot in various locations. But it was a bunch of drama that I was just not about to deal with. Maybe she was stepping out on him, maybe he was a paranoid a-hole, maybe it was combination of the two, either way, it was none of my business and I aimed to keep it that way.

I told the model about what happened. She tried to brush it off saying his bark is worse than his bite, but I had to cut ties with her because it was now a safety risk for any and all parties involved. She wasn't happy about it, but I am not trying to put myself or anyone else in the path of a jealous boyfriend, and there was obviously some other drama going on there that I didn't want to be in the middle of, let alone exacerbate the problems they are already having.

A week or so passes and I get a message. It's from her number, but it was him, since I'd blocked his number. The text read:

"She ain't modeling for you no more. Go find some other woman to work with."

I had 0 issue with that since I had already said we can't work together anymore. But, in some way, I was actually happy that she finally told him what the deal was, but... too little too late. I thought it was over with... well...

He found found the Facebook page and he's going off in the messenger... she went some where, he couldn't find her... so who's the first person he starts hounding... again? Yup. So he got blocked there. He found me on Twitter. He got blocked there. The dude would not go away. Another few days goes by and I think it's all done... except I stupidly didn't block her number... mans sent me a video of her going down on him and I'm like "That's it... I quit..."

Now that's not the reason I stepped away but I was just past done with the whole situation because it went from mildly scary to just outright stupid. I did learn a valuable lesson though, and that was if the woman admitted to having a significant other boyfriend/girlfriend/whatever, I had to meet them and talk with them and ensure that they understood every detail. And if the woman lied, I would find out. Very few people know this, but Betsy would snoop people's Facebook profiles for me. I told her about what happened and told her the new rule I set in place and she said "I mean... they could just roll up there with any dude and say it's their boyfriend.". She was right. So, whenever I got a model inquiry, I sent her the name and photo. She looked them up and would actually vet them out. If they had a boyfriend/girlfriend, I knew exactly what they looked like before we ever met.

There were no further problems like that, thankfully and the new rules worked. Only one woman got caught lying to me after that and only one s/o had decided he was not cool with her partner engaging in this type of work. It was all good after that.

 

[Sethalt2323]

Ohhhh hell,

Sit back... this is an interesting one.

To answer your question, sadly, yes. There was one woman who wasn't honest with me. She told me that she had spoke to her boyfriend about everything, showed the website and he was 100% cool with it. We got through two shoots before I started getting text messages on my business phone from some random number. It was her boyfriend... looking for her. And you know, it might not seem so bad. Maybe the guy is concerned, etc. etc. Well... the message read:

"where that b***, **name redacted. I know she wit u"

My immediate reaction was... "huh?" And then it dawned on me. He saw my number in her phone and thought I was some dude she was seeing on the side. I thought it was odd at first because we never texted anything outside of scheduling, outfits, etc. But... people can delete stuff, right? And if you're not privy to the information that you should be privy to, those texts can all still seem very incriminating.

So, I stupidly tried to diffuse the situation. I should have never responded and just brought the situation up to her and let her handle it. But I let him know that if she is stepping out in him, it's not with me. I explain who I am and what I do, but I do it in a way assuming he already knew she was doing some modeling for me. That was mistake number 2, because the dude 1, had no clue what I was talking about, and 2 didn't believe me and proceeded to threaten to come find me and if he found her at my place, yadda yadda yadda. Now, the only people who knew where I lived at that time were Betsy, Willow, Rayne, Tori, and Nadia and Kandace. They only know because they became my actual friends and we hung out. Betsy had been my friend since 2004. So, I was never worried that the dude would find me given that no new models knew where I lived. I shot in various locations. But it was a bunch of drama that I was just not about to deal with. Maybe she was stepping out on him, maybe he was a paranoid a-hole, maybe it was combination of the two, either way, it was none of my business and I aimed to keep it that way.

I told the model about what happened. She tried to brush it off saying his bark is worse than his bite, but I had to cut ties with her because it was now a safety risk for any and all parties involved. She wasn't happy about it, but I am not trying to put myself or anyone else in the path of a jealous boyfriend, and there was obviously some other drama going on there that I didn't want to be in the middle of, let alone exacerbate the problems they are already having.

A week or so passes and I get a message. It's from her number, but it was him, since I'd blocked his number. The text read:

"She ain't modeling for you no more. Go find some other woman to work with."

I had 0 issue with that since I had already said we can't work together anymore. But, in some way, I was actually happy that she finally told him what the deal was, but... too little too late. I thought it was over with... well...

He found found the Facebook page and he's going off in the messenger... she went some where, he couldn't find her... so who's the first person he starts hounding... again? Yup. So he got blocked there. He found me on Twitter. He got blocked there. The dude would not go away. Another few days goes by and I think it's all done... except I stupidly didn't block her number... mans sent me a video of her going down on him and I'm like "That's it... I quit..."

Now that's not the reason I stepped away but I was just past done with the whole situation because it went from mildly scary to just outright stupid. I did learn a valuable lesson though, and that was if the woman admitted to having a significant other boyfriend/girlfriend/whatever, I had to meet them and talk with them and ensure that they understood every detail. And if the woman lied, I would find out. Very few people know this, but Betsy would snoop people's Facebook profiles for me. I told her about what happened and told her the new rule I set in place and she said "I mean... they could just roll up there with any dude and say it's their boyfriend.". She was right. So, whenever I got a model inquiry, I sent her the name and photo. She looked them up and would actually vet them out. If they had a boyfriend/girlfriend, I knew exactly what they looked like before we ever met.

There were no further problems like that, thankfully and the new rules worked. Only one woman got caught lying to me after that and only one s/o had decided he was not cool with her partner engaging in this type of work. It was all good after that.

Oh my gosh!! That's actually insane for you. I'm glad you didn't get hurt :/ definitely a shame she wasn't honest and also how he freaked out. This was the only occurrence though right? Also are you a c4s producer or do you just have personal private tickling sessions?

 

[South_Atmo]

Oh my gosh!! That's actually insane for you. I'm glad you didn't get hurt :/ definitely a shame she wasn't honest and also how he freaked out. This was the only occurrence though right? Also are you a c4s producer or do you just have personal private tickling sessions?

Producer. Lol. No clips4sale. It's all right there in the signature... if it's showing up. Is it not? I've had this problem before.

But, yes. It was the only occurrence. There were measures put in to not allow anything like that to happen again.