Crossing the Divide...

[Red_Feather]

I realised today that I haven't really tickled many people, or been tickled much before. My 'tickling' life has been mainly restricted to viewing pics, watching clips and visiting this site in secret. Due to my naturally shy disposition, which I have only recently begun to shake off, the most I've got was a few surprise pokes. Whilst these were no doubt enjoyable 🙂D), they haven't done much to fulfil this part of my personality.

I think the reason I like tickling is the intimacy of it. By that I don't mean just sensual, erotic tickling (which I also like, mind). Even playful tickling shows a friendly intimacy between two people. Recently I've begun making tentative steps to introduce my like of tickling into my 'real' life.

Like many guys here I started a Myspace profile that represented my interest in tickling, a seperate account from my 'real' one. It was a way to interact with others like me without showing my face. I think I am outgrowing this desire to hide this thing that I like so much. On my facebook account I have recently added 'tickling' to the interests section. No mention of arousal, no mention of fetish, just 'tickling' nestled amongst my other bizzarre interests. This might not seem like much but to me it feels like a massive step.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not complaining about the lack of tickling/friendly interaction with girls. The massive leaps forward in socialising and friend making I've made since coming to uni have been beyond my wildest dreams. However, now that I've decided on making this a more prominent part of my life, I'd like to ask advice from those who live out their inner tickler/lee about how one can go about making this fetish/interest/preference a part of your life. 🙂

 

[Ticklish_witch]

Thats so good for you! I'm kind of like you except I do everything on this site, and I tickle people lpayfully all the time, but I didn't tell anyone anything about it yet! I'm proud for you and your decision to come out, its very brave! 😱

 

[Red_Feather]

The wierd thing is, that I don't feel as if I've come out. I've written down 'tickling' on one of my online profiles. Whereas before I would have thought of this as a massive leap and almost unimaginable, now it just seems... normal. One quirk among many others out there. 😀

Now it's just a matter of bringing the actual activity itself into my life. 😛

Thank you for your kind comments, Ticklish_Witch (cute name. 😉 ), I really appreciate them. 🙂

 

[David.s]

I'm in a pretty similar situation to yourself - in fact your first two paragraphs describe my approach to tickling perfectly. I, on the other hand, am complaining about the lack of tickling with girls: it absolutely sucks and I hate hate hate it 😛 I'm not at Uni at the moment (stupid semi-unnecessary gap year of doom... can't wait till next year) and am stuck with a pretty empty social life for the time being, but hmmm, whenever I get a chance I try to grab a tickle, I do! It's such a friendly and nice thing to do, assuming you're not a totally aggressive ass about it, and can be a wonderful part of those intimate moments you're sometimes lucky enough to share with friends - again, like you, not using 'intimate' as some moronic synonym for sexual, but for that awesome feeling of closeness true friendships can (or should) sometimes bring.

Hmm, it's kind of hard to define what 'coming out' about your fetish means if it's just an online thing, but I've recently started using my proper email/msn/yahoo/etc on here... I mean now anybody could probably find me out if they googled my email for a bit but meh, I'm starting not to care what people think and it's not worth the hassle of having too separate online lives anyway. Hmm, and I randomly told an exclusively online friend about it a while and she was totally cool with it... come to think of it I should be able to get some tickling out of her if we ever meet up sometime and (assuming all goes to plan...) I'll actually be attending the same Uni as she does... yay, heh. I'm planning on being kindof openish about how much I love tickling (although I probably wouldn't want to actually call it a fetish when telling other people) in real life soonish actually... at the moment I just don't seem to have that many friends who still live round here to be open to though, lol.

Anyway man, while I don't have much advice I think it's absolutely fantastic you're thinking about developing your experiences with tickling, and really hope you can find someone who enjoys it as much as you do - although if you do finally find some kind of tickling-related happiness it just means I'll have to add you to my list of people I'm incredibly insanely jealous of, yaarrgh. 😀

 

[Red_Feather]

I'm in a pretty similar situation to yourself - in fact your first two paragraphs describe my approach to tickling perfectly. I, on the other hand, am complaining about the lack of tickling with girls: it absolutely sucks and I hate hate hate it 😛 I'm not at Uni at the moment (stupid semi-unnecessary gap year of doom... can't wait till next year) and am stuck with a pretty empty social life for the time being, but hmmm, whenever I get a chance I try to grab a tickle, I do! It's such a friendly and nice thing to do, assuming you're not a totally aggressive ass about it, and can be a wonderful part of those intimate moments you're sometimes lucky enough to share with friends - again, like you, not using 'intimate' as some moronic synonym for sexual, but for that awesome feeling of closeness true friendships can (or should) sometimes bring.

Hmm, it's kind of hard to define what 'coming out' about your fetish means if it's just an online thing, but I've recently started using my proper email/msn/yahoo/etc on here... I mean now anybody could probably find me out if they googled my email for a bit but meh, I'm starting not to care what people think and it's not worth the hassle of having too separate online lives anyway. Hmm, and I randomly told an exclusively online friend about it a while and she was totally cool with it... come to think of it I should be able to get some tickling out of her if we ever meet up sometime and (assuming all goes to plan...) I'll actually be attending the same Uni as she does... yay, heh. I'm planning on being kindof openish about how much I love tickling (although I probably wouldn't want to actually call it a fetish when telling other people) in real life soonish actually... at the moment I just don't seem to have that many friends who still live round here to be open to though, lol.

Anyway man, while I don't have much advice I think it's absolutely fantastic you're thinking about developing your experiences with tickling, and really hope you can find someone who enjoys it as much as you do - although if you do finally find some kind of tickling-related happiness it just means I'll have to add you to my list of people I'm incredibly insanely jealous of, yaarrgh. 😀

Thanks for the reply. 🙂

Sounds great that you've actually managed to express your interest to someone who is (or at least soon will be) a part of your real world. My attitude to date has been to create a heavily fortified dividing line between these two halves of my life. If someone knows about my fetish (from here, for example), then they cannot be part of my 'real' life. Likewise if I know someone in my real life, then they can't know about my fetish.

As I finally begin to properly mature, I think I have grown tired of this seperation. I don't want to live two incomplete lives, I want to live one full one! 😛 The reason I haven't expressed my interest into my day-to-day life isn't because of some external factor or some sort of defect in my personality (if you find some of my old posts you'll find out that I used to honestly think like that. 😉 ), but instead it is because I've subconsciously crossed girls I know and am friendly with off my 'list' of possibilites for fear of 'outing' myself. I want to get rid of the paranoia and the worry, so that I can just be comfortable and friendly around girls, and actually have fun in their company. 🙂

It's true at the moment that my 'coming out' is just one tiny word on an Online forum. On the other hand, I really do want to make it something more, and put an end to all the hiding. Life's too short. 😀

 

[Red_Feather]

Anyone else have any advice on how I can 'come out' as a ticklephile? 😀

 

[leeboy]

My advice would be to pay a visit to a mistress who will tie you down and tickle you. It is a wonderful experience. Most professionals are very sensitive to your fetish, do not judge anyone and enjoy doing the tickling ! You won't be sorry.

 

[Red_Feather]

My advice would be to pay a visit to a mistress who will tie you down and tickle you. It is a wonderful experience. Most professionals are very sensitive to your fetish, do not judge anyone and enjoy doing the tickling ! You won't be sorry.

Thanks for the reply. 😀

An interesting suggestion, but I doubt my student budget could stretch to hiring a mistress. 😛

What I'd really like is to find a way of bringing my interest into my day to day life, so I don't have to 'keep it secret' all the time. 🙂