cutting?

[BLUE_THUNDER]

I love the assumptions and stereotypes made by people who don't know anything about the topic or the people who do it, but assume they do.

I am a cutter.

Bet none of you who think you know the mindset of one who does that saw that one coming! I'm not going to go into personal details as to why or how long, but I just wanted that tossed out there as an example that you don't have to be off your rocker or severely mentally or emotionally damaged to be among the ranks who do. It's just one of many ways of dealing with stress and emotions. Some punch walls, some throw things, some just scream and swear. I don't do any of that. I deal with it my way. Leave your assumptions and judgements at the door, please.

i would never presume to judge, and as i always say to each their own (as a now reformed "wall puncher", i understand) . my only point is young people are doing this and may do it the wrong way, its one thing to inflict a bit of pain, its another thing to accidently hit an artery and bleed to death. i dont know enough about this to properly speculate, as always i simply offer my 2 cents worth. i am the last person here to judge anyone based on their choice of lifestyle. i simply think this subject may warrant further discussion. peace..........BLUE_THUNDER

 

[MrMacphisto]

What if this were "two consenting adults" doing this to each other? Should we still be concerned?

That depends... If the two consenting adults were seeking help during it, then yes. If they weren't, then no.

 

[MrMacphisto]

Yes, that's exactly what I'm asking. Would this be something that warrants an intervention of some kind? Or do we just shrug and say "Hey, we have no right whatsoever to question what two consenting adults do"

Read my above post....

 

[MrMacphisto]

I couldn't agree more. Self injury is just as crazy and dangerous as mutual consenting injury. There are better and far more healthy ways to deal with whatever emotional issues that lead one to seek out such physical abuse.

I agree, but.... I wouldn't stop someone from doing it if they enjoyed it. If it was something that they did out of depression, then I'd alert someone however.

 

[MrMacphisto]

It does warrent intervention cuz if theyre older and can directly effect society since they live in it, then its a problem. I dont want to risk a car accident cuz someone cant find a better outlet for the "horrible worldy pain" and then end up wrecking due to it and harming me or a loved one. Thing too is you couldnt charge them cuz theyre "mentally unstable" by law

Change the law instead.... I like the Jesse Helms approach: insane but guilty. That policy change was probably the only thing I ever agreed with him on.

As for the damage that unstable people do to society, that's life. You can't prevent that kind of thing from happening most of the time. It's the paranoia that this might happen that causes people to sacrifice privacy for security.

 

[MrMacphisto]

Lastly... I knew a girl who was a cutter. We got drunk and messed around at one point while her boyfriend was away (which was the only time I've helped someone cheat), and she ended up feeling really depressed later. I found out on the next day that she went a lot further than normal with the cutting thing and had tried to kill herself out of guilt. Thankfully, the EMS had gotten to her in time, but I vowed never to let my libido get the better of me ever again. I really should have seen that one coming, but honestly, I'm just glad she's still alive. I felt like such an asshole afterwards (as I should have)....

 

[drew70]

I am a cutter.

Bet none of you who think you know the mindset of one who does that saw that one coming!

Perhaps not, but I don't see how that changes anything.

I'm not going to go into personal details as to why or how long, but I just wanted that tossed out there as an example that you don't have to be off your rocker or severely mentally or emotionally damaged to be among the ranks who do.

I doubt there are many among us who can claim 100% clean mental health. I know I can't. So try not to look at it as an insult, or a personal judgement. There's no more shame in having a mental affliction than a physical one. We're all fragile human beings, with our minds possibly the most fragile part of us. All I'm saying is that if any of us are hurting to the point of inflicting self-injury, or seeking it from others, we need help. There's no shame in that, and no reason to regard it as an insult or judgement.

 

[Mimi]

Rest assured I am seeking help. Have been for years. I'm wise enough to know my way of dealing with things when they get too overbearing is anything but spectacular, and I need to find a better outlet. And since finding Laz, my need to do so, and the frequency of the occurances, has diminished greatly. His patience and understanding and compassion have gone much further in helping me get past this than any med or therapist thus far.

I guess my best advice to anyone who cuts to release pent up emotion is the same thing I keep telling myself. If that's how you deal, and it stops you from doing something worse...like hurting someone else, or contemplating suicidal thoughts, then by all means do what you have to in order to cope. But realize that it's NOT the best way to deal with things, and it's best to get help from someone....even a good trustworthy and patient friend if you aren't ready to seek professional help. My door is always open too. While I obviously don't have any answers, or else I would have stopped myself long ago, I CAN at least offer understanding. By the sounds of the replies to this thread, there are a number of us who have gone through this at some point, so you may also find some comfort in the fact that you're far from alone.

Mimi

 

[scissorman]

I find it much more satisfying to unleash pent up emotions on others. Namely, the ones who are the cause of the pent up emotions in the first place. Often times, people are to afraid to confront the real source of a problem, which is many times a person/people.

Just my view.

 

[Goodieluver]

Rest assured I am seeking help. Have been for years. I'm wise enough to know my way of dealing with things when they get too overbearing is anything but spectacular, and I need to find a better outlet. And since finding Laz, my need to do so, and the frequency of the occurances, has diminished greatly. His patience and understanding and compassion have gone much further in helping me get past this than any med or therapist thus far.

I guess my best advice to anyone who cuts to release pent up emotion is the same thing I keep telling myself. If that's how you deal, and it stops you from doing something worse...like hurting someone else, or contemplating suicidal thoughts, then by all means do what you have to in order to cope. But realize that it's NOT the best way to deal with things, and it's best to get help from someone....even a good trustworthy and patient friend if you aren't ready to seek professional help. My door is always open too. While I obviously don't have any answers, or else I would have stopped myself long ago, I CAN at least offer understanding. By the sounds of the replies to this thread, there are a number of us who have gone through this at some point, so you may also find some comfort in the fact that you're far from alone.

Mimi

I am glad you have\are finding help mimi luv, someone as gorgeous as you shouldnt be doin that sort of stuff. My stigma against is teens\underagers who do it then post all aboot it in a blog trying to get people to get a "woe is me vibe and feel sorry for me cuz i cut myself" and do nothing to get help, esp when people who at that time did share some feelins for do try and help\knock some common sense into them. My philosophy is the people who are really in pain and suffering, you wouldnt know it\it doesnt show, not someone who "brags" or feels a need to share it to the internet multiverse thru xanga or whatever blogs people use

 

[isabeau]

I am glad you have\are finding help mimi luv, someone as gorgeous as you shouldnt be doin that sort of stuff. My stigma against is teens\underagers who do it then post all aboot it in a blog trying to get people to get a "woe is me vibe and feel sorry for me cuz i cut myself" and do nothing to get help, esp when people who at that time did share some feelins for do try and help\knock some common sense into them. My philosophy is the people who are really in pain and suffering, you wouldnt know it\it doesnt show, not someone who "brags" or feels a need to share it to the internet multiverse thru xanga or whatever blogs people use

i agree with you, goodie..half the things one reads in these blogs are probably fiction anyway..tis why i never read them..except Mimi's of course when i go into her website lol. the person i know who cuts himself definitely isn't bragging about it..in fact he was hesitant to tell me for fear i would think he was nuts..

 

[Aachen1983]

i agree with you, goodie..half the things one reads in these blogs are probably fiction anyway..tis why i never read them..except Mimi's of course when i go into her website lol. the person i know who cuts himself definitely isn't bragging about it..in fact he was hesitant to tell me for fear i would think he was nuts..

Anyone who brags about menatl illness or mental instability is lying. No one with real mental problems brags about them.

 

[Strider]

Anyone who brags about menatl illness or mental instability is lying. No one with real mental problems brags about them.

In all honesty, I've met a couple people who really do seem to thrive on their imbalances.

 

[Aachen1983]

In all honesty, I've met a couple people who really do seem to thrive on their imbalances.

I'll tell people right off the bat that I am schizophrenic, but I don't gloat about it.

 

[Strider]

I'll tell people right off the bat that I am schizophrenic, but I don't gloat about it.

I wouldn't say I know people who gloat about it per se; but they've definitely internalized whatever problems they may have to the point where they don't want to manage them, they just sort of see them as being intrinsic to their identity, if that makes any sense.

 

[Cosmo_ac]

I wouldn't say I know people who gloat about it per se; but they've definitely internalized whatever problems they may have to the point where they don't want to manage them, they just sort of see them as being intrinsic to their identity, if that makes any sense.

It makes perfect sense if you think about it. Paticulerly when it comes to things like art, in the written, drawn or musical sense. If you look back, many of yesterdays artists, who are new famous, suffered from various mentle diseases. One could argue that these ilness's fed there creativity.

That arguement asside though, many people feel there mentle illnesses are part of who they are, and are affraid that taking medication will change them. And, sometimes this is a correct belief.

 

[Aachen1983]

It makes perfect sense if you think about it. Paticulerly when it comes to things like art, in the written, drawn or musical sense. If you look back, many of yesterdays artists, who are new famous, suffered from various mentle diseases. One could argue that these ilness's fed there creativity.

That arguement asside though, many people feel there mentle illnesses are part of who they are, and are affraid that taking medication will change them. And, sometimes this is a correct belief.

To these people I say read my post.