dating advice...

[scorpionldr]

ok, I'll make this one short and sweet. Walked into the mall, was browsing around, met a girl who asked me for my number (we had a few small things in common and she seemed adamant about dating). Was in a rush, so I said I'd get back to her. I come the next day, give it to her, talk, hear that I'm gonna get a call later (at a specific time). Two days later, no response whatsoever.

Don't wanna look like a stalker,what should i do?

 

[Tamia78]

I wouldn't worry about it too much. If she calls, cool, if she doesn't, move on. People do strange things sometimes. If you want, you could drop by the store in a couple of days and ask her how she's doing. Whatever you do, DON'T mention that she hasn't called. Play it by ear. Maybe she just misplaced your number or something.

Good luck!

--T

 

[scorpionldr]

I wouldn't worry about it too much. If she calls, cool, if she doesn't, move on. People do strange things sometimes. If you want, you could drop by the store in a couple of days and ask her how she's doing. Whatever you do, DON'T mention that she hasn't called. Play it by ear. Maybe she just misplaced your number or something.

Good luck!

--T

I donno, I was just thinking I'd drop by for some lotion today since it's been a couple days and just be like "you've been pretty quiet lately. whats going on after work?"

seems harmless, besides, both times i came she tried to get me to buy skincare stuff.
lol it's just so funny. the one time i come in and she actually notices me glancing at her, all of a sudden she's all into me. what can i say, i'm a sucker that hasn't had a good date in a number of years.

 

[maniactickler]

ok, I'll make this one short and sweet. Walked into the mall, was browsing around, met a girl who asked me for my number (we had a few small things in common and she seemed adamant about dating). Was in a rush, so I said I'd get back to her. I come the next day, give it to her, talk, hear that I'm gonna get a call later (at a specific time). Two days later, no response whatsoever.

Don't wanna look like a stalker,what should i do?

Dont be afraid to appear like a stalker. ive used that method at times. maybe you can scare her into dating you? its worth a shot!

 

[scorpionldr]

i think today i'll go to the mall and see what sort of schedule she appears to run on, because at the moment i've only seen her twice (back to back days) and it seems like she might be on a consistant schedule........then tomorrow i might just come with a few friends and actually talk to her.

DAMNIT why do girls have to be so confusing?? They seem like they need their own clock for people to follow to get a hold of them.

so since i figure this would probably help, i'll give the whole scoop. So i went to mall looking at girls (trying to get back into the habit of getting a nice morning walk before work starts at 11:30, where better a place to do it). As i said, I was walking around, and saw her as I'm walking by. Now, there is NO THOUGHT in my mind of hooking up, I'm just checking her out from the back. I start to pass and give a little extra glance to check out the front (as she's getting up) and all of a sudden i hear "hi". PAUSE between the two of us for a second....I meekly come out with a "hi" and some murmering (lol she was a ten). So we're talking and the first thing she asks is how old i am and what i do for a living. I just respond "oh, well I'm 22 and i'm trying to make up for some of the money i lost in college working at Fisher Scientific" to which i hear "oh, i'm from Israel, I'm studying nuclear physics! (or some variant)"

For all who are drawing blanks as to what Fisher Scientific is, generally from most of the work that I am seeing, it's a chemical company which excels in dealing and distributing chemicals to Universities, labs, and other places which need them, in which I pick orders to be shipped. I guess i can sorta relate to Nuclear studies on a much smaller level.

so then I'm asked what I'm studying, which of course, because I am, I respond "Music Education", recieving the classic "OMG are you in a band!?"
so of course, since I can see her enthuisiasm over me, I hear "so can i have your number so I can call you?".............Now mind me, I'm a poor poor idiot and my brain isn't awake. I'm only stopping in for a second because I want to pick something up and my brain is screaming at me "GET YOUR ASS TO FISCHER! YOU HAVE TO LEAVE AT FVCKING 11:15!".......so I quickly ask if it's ok to drop on by "later in the week" to take care of it (but hey, at least she didn't let me go just then without having me buy a can of Dead Sea salt for slightly cheaper, that must say something). Next day I come in realizing i screwed up the day before and apologizing that I get stuck in patterns occasionally that I just have such a hard time pulling myself out of that i come off as a jerk. give her the number, tell her i get out of work 8:30 (she asked) and that's the end so far.

 

[unclebill]

Get a puppy. Chicks will see you walking the dog and bother you so much that you will literally have to beat them off with a stick.

 

[Knox The Hatter]

Dont be afraid to appear like a stalker. ive used that method at times. maybe you can scare her into dating you? its worth a shot!

So, how's the ankle bracelet working out?

 

[maniactickler]

So, how's the ankle bracelet working out?

Fits like a glove.

 

[scorpionldr]

haha, i don't think i'll need to keep her bound by chains....if it helps me any she asked if i had a girlfriend. Said i hadn't found the right one yet

 

[DannyMc]

Hi Scorpionldr , you could stop back by the mall to say hi to her , she may be wanting to get a hold of you to tell you something , if not at least you get a chance to see if she's still intrested , if so maybe you could take her to eat somewhere in the mall on her break . The two of you can get a chance to talk and get to know each other .

 

[german]

I think Tamia78 got it pretty much spot on.........just play it cool and if she calls, nice but if she doesn't there's many others out there.

Kust

 

[Knox The Hatter]

I'm telling ya, you had BETTER play it cool. You see, women all have this thing...they sense desperation faster than Google searches. And then, they're outta there.

Just take it easy. Let things happen, and if they don't, there are millyuns and millllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllyyyyyyyyyyyuuuunnnnnns more of her where she came from.

 

[tkrexx]

Gotta agree with Knox on this: Women can smell desperation, and it repels them like the bad ends of 2 magnets. The best plan is to make the women want to chase you. i.e. Be seen with other women, get a job as a bartender, or in the case you're describing here, you blow HER off... Sorry I missed your call, I wound up with spur-of-the-moment plans, friends and I went/did (Somewhere/something absolutely spectacular inspiring immense amounts of envy), wish she could have been there, hey I gotta go I'm on the clock, we'll talk again. Don't pay too much attention to her unless and until she becomes more interested.

Rxx

 

[scorpionldr]

I'm telling ya, you had BETTER play it cool. You see, women all have this thing...they sense desperation faster than Google searches. And then, they're outta there.

Just take it easy. Let things happen, and if they don't, there are millyuns and millllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllyyyyyyyyyyyuuuunnnnnns more of her where she came from.

despair has nothing to do with it. it's just me trying to get a hold of something good, and figuring out some way to make it easier on me.

tkrexx, why does it sound like every guy seems to have to be a complete asshole? All i keep hearing about guys that don't succeed is "too nice", "creampuff", "pussy", "pushover." I never saw a guy that acts like complete asshole that actually gets too far. The only asshole that I've actually seen get a little bit of luck (in the one night stand area) was my first roommate, and the only redeeming thing about him was the fact that because he was a boxer he had a good fit. Oh, and he was really good at cheating on his girlfriend .

from friends I'm hearing I didn't show enough interest (which could've been shown asking for her number). I don't think the problem is appeal to eachother tho is my point. we both seem to have a pretty good attitude towards eachother: very friendly

 

[tkrexx]

Whoa, Dude! I never meant be an asshole (Tho they DO have alot of short-term luck with women, generally speaking), I just meant that sometimes if you show too much interest, you may not seem interesting yourself. Whereas if you're constantly busy and gregarious, you obviously have a life and are fun to be with. Make more sense this way?

Rxx

 

[scorpionldr]

oh ok. yea, i'll probably come in before work again to bother her and see whatsup
i need some lotion anyways to go with that dead sea salt damnit.