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So my girlfriend of two years broke up with me 4 months ago and i still find myself sad and still thinking about her. I know everyone says time is the best way to get over someone, but does anyone else have any other advice for me?
 
been there done that- after a marriage of 4.5 years- 'time' is a lie, you need to start replacing the memories of you two together with others that you can focus on... the more busy you are, the less time you have to wallow in self-pity. sounds dumb, but its true.

and then yes, in time, you'll be just fine... but seriously - get out there and even if its just dating for fun- do it... you'll be miserable till you do.
 
You're in luck! I happen to be an expert in said situation.

First off....Getting dumped sucks. It hurts at the very core. I'm very sorry. It happens to the best of us and you have good company.

But this is also a very exciting time. You are free now to focus solely on you. You can now become a better man instead of focusing your energies on becoming a better couple. In the end you might find this breakup to be the best thing that ever happened to you.

Your new focus should be getting to know yourself....your wants and your desires. Find out who you want to be...and then be that person. When I was broken up with I was very much the "nerdy" type. No flair....or pizzaz. I dressed that way. I looked that way...and I dated that way. I decided to become the person I always wanted to be. I took accountability for my life and my relationships. I decided not to be the victim. I started dressing better. Worked out more. Made new and interesting friends. Took a career turn. Bought a cool new car. Took fun trips. And finally...started dating the women I always wanted yet held myself back from. Hell I even adopted a new TMF sig to represent the change "GQguy". Soon my ex was a distant memory. We got back in touch a couple years ago.....and became friends. Only for her to tell me she would love to marry me. Crazy huh? Not so much. Women can't help who they're attracted to. I became a more quality man. She visited my city and met my new gf......while both girls are beautiful my new gf blows the old one out of the water....and my ex knows that.

This was a quick post and the concepts are much deeper but the overall theme is to move on by becoming a better man. Those that stay stagnant or even regress will always be depressed about their failed relationship. I believe in "leagues" like "she's out of your league"....some guys will get broken up with get depressed, gain weight, look sloppy, lose drive and now can't attract a woman as quality as his ex..therefore he'll be stuck on her. Other guys will improve themselves "jumping a league" and are now able to attract more quality women than their ex....giving him an easier time forgetting about her.

Figure out the kind of woman you want. Be sure to know how to identify her when you see her. Know what sorts of values she holds dear. Know what kind of guy she's attracted to. ex. If you want a hippy girl. Would she be most attracted to a guy that wears business suits or hemp jewelry? Know where her type hangs out and go there. ect. If you want a Christian girl...where would you hang out to meet her? What values would you need to date her? Ect. Get the idea. Think these things through. I'll stop with that but I have tons more.

Give it a shot! And i'm sure you won't be too depressed much longer.



GQ

Watch the movie "swingers"
 
Everything everybody else has said.

Also, read my signature which pretty much tells you everything you need to accept, no matter the cost. Once accepted, you will be the you that attracted her, and then you can go find somebody that appreciates that you.

Unless you fucked up... then learn and continue. Sounds harsh, and it is, but we all go through it once or twice.
 
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