Do you think a lot of people are afraid to admitting they like tickling?

[Adam27]

Hi,

I have come to find that question true. I live in Wilkes Barre PA and I left something in the personals about me and wanting to meet a tickling buddy and I have I believe 139 people who viewed it but no responce. I believe that many people are afraid to admit to others that they like tickling and find it fun. Really I don't understand why? I would like to hear others responses to this. So please read and reply

 

[Myriads]

Simple answer: Fear.

People tend to not want to stand out, and be open to ridicule. Having and discussing an unusual sexual like takes a bit of guts at first, and often first attempts at sharing such info are met with negativity from people who the person thought cared. That reinforcement makes it harder to try the next time.

Myriads

 

[Adam27]

That is a very true statement now that I think about it. Well at least there is a place like this where you can be reassured that you are welcome.

 

[Strelnikov]

Answer to the original question is YES. Most of us older folks thought for years that we were the only ones with this "weird" desire. That's not conducive to openness.

Maybe the exposure we get on the Internet will change things. God knows, we're pretty benign compared with some kinks. But meanwhile, I suggest that you don't "come out" to anyone unless you know them well.

Strelnikov

 

[U.N.Owen]

The great majority of children (not all, but it certainly seems most) enjoy being tickled. Do adults grow out of that? Adult chimpanzees and apes tickle constantly, enjoy it, and actively seek it out. Have we evolved out of that?

I think the answer to both questions is no. What DOES separate adults from both children and other primates is that they become inhibited and socially conditioned. I think most people don't like being tickled because they are humiliated to lose control of themselves so completely.

After all, when people are intimate and private, they seem to tickle a LOT more, and that's where trust is high and inhibitions are low. There are lot of advice columns, articles, etc. that indicate tickling is a very common activity in the bedroom. But those same people would probably hate being tickled publicly. The tickling sensation is extremely intense, and if you really don't want to react, trying to ignore it and contain it makes the sensation painful.

I personally hate being tickled in front of people. With an intimate partner, things are very different.

So yes, I think there a many people -- in all likelihood a considerable majority -- who COULD enjoy being tickled even if they presently DON'T.

 

[mysterytic]

I don't think its a matter of being afraid to admit it

I think a percentage, and I probably fall into this category, can not respond to an "Personal Want Ad" where tickling is concerned. Tickling is a very private and intimate activity, too much so to do it on a casual basis with a stranger. Before you jump to conclusions, yes we can tickle without love, (it isn't as good), but only with somebody we know well, can trust, and have other common interests to share. Some can tickle in a public forum amongst friends, but from your posting is sounds like you are referring to a one and one meeting. That usually will occur only when both feel very comfortable and that may require attending a "Group Meeting", or a long time chatting on line. My findings have been with a few female chat partners I have that tickling is only what brought us together. Each was interested in other factors which created that initial interest in learning more about each other. So trust and common interests and even emotional attachment can figure into the equation. Somehow though I feel a large percentage of women and a much smaller percentage of men feel that way.

 

[Giggles]

I've been reluctant to tell romantic partners about my desire to be tickled. This is partly due to my shyness, and also partly due to my strict upbringing which dictated that anything outside the norm of marital, strictly for procreation, missionary-position sex in the dark was deviant. Even though I've made great strides in overcoming both of those hurdles, old habits do die hard. Interestingly enough, I don't find myself troubled by shyness when I meet people from the tickling world after talking with them online.

 

[roger]

Introducing Tickling into a relationship

I think the main reason that people are reluctant to admit to their partner that they have an interest in tickling is that they may be misunderstood. Someone might fear that they could be viewed as simply
having sadistic or masochistic impulses that they wish to play out with tickling. In reality, tickling can be part of an overall healthy sexual relationship that includes fantasies, roleplay,etc.

 

[Adam27]

Wow! I am suprised with the amount of imput put into this subject and hopefully maybe this subject will do some good with some people who are afraid to say they like it. Thanks for all who replied and future replies

 

[PunkRawkTickler]

hmm

hey dude, have you ever heard of Milford PA?? im from there

 

[coolman]

I think that coming out depends on the person. If you are shy then the chances are you won't find coming out easy, even possible with a new partner.
BUT, everyone can do it. It's all a question of willpower. Think positive, and chances are the person you're telling will think positive as well, espescially if they're a good friend or relation. If you look on a fetish as a negative thing, ESPESCIALLY if you have it, then so will everyone else. A healthy sexual interest is never a bad thing.

 

[crydun]

I think it depends on the person, place and time. I subconsciously held in my tickling passion for years making me even more ticklish(if that's possible) almost to a point of pain. I was the type of person that if you tapped my shoulder, I would scream. Since I have discovered my tickling desires, I have been able to relax alot about physical contact in general, including tickling. I think that I was afraid to admit my fetish for a variety of reasons. Namely, my mother forbade tickling of any kind in our house. Even mentioning it in a pleasurable way( for example, "what makes you laugh the hardest?" Tickling!!!" "😡 You're not supposed to be doing that, anyways!") this probably made it seem like a bad thing. It wasn't until I became an adult with a computer, that I realized how much I LOVE to tickle and be tickled. Also, some think its cruel. So, you have to be careful. just my two cents.

ticklishly yours,

crydun😀 😛

 

[shy_tickler]

Hey Adam,

I don't know that I have the answer for you, but I did want to say you're not alone in feeling frustrated. I posted an ad in the personals too, I had 167 people look at my ad with similar results. I decided to take the plunge and be totally honest about how I felt about tickling, after being a lurker for so long (I really am shy about tickling - that also makes it difficult to join in tickling chat rooms.) I even said in my posting that I wasn't necessarily looking for real life tickling or even cyber-tickling, but just looking for a sincere woman to talk about tickling with. I figured TMF was a safe place to "come-out" about my tickling and get some response. I really thought I would get more response after almost 2 months. It's hard to meet women online into tickling because if they even mention tickling anywhere in their profile they get tons of messages from all kinds of people. I believe most of the people here on TMF are good people, but there are alot of other people out there that are really rude. It makes it hard for a woman to admit anything personal out there for fear of the onslaught of unwanted male attention. Most of the women out there that I have talked to about tickling have told me that is true, and even though it clearly states in my profile that I am male I frequently get very rude messages from guys. I guess that is at least a part of an answer to your question, I think everyone who responded here has part of the answer.

So now that I'm done rambling on, let me just say again that you're not alone in feeling a little frustrated. Just hang in there and keep on believing!!!

 

[magic fingers]

I agree with just about everything that's been said concerning this topic, and I'd like to add one more reason why we've been conditioned to think that tickling's weird - The Media, specifically the entertainment industry, which has pretty much ignored tickling . Think about it; When was the last time you saw tickling involved in a romantic love scene on TV, or in a movie? When the scriptwriter wants to make it kinky, that usually means S & M type of stuff(and personally, leather, and whips don't do a thing for me). For example, look at the show, "Friends." 3 beautiful women, and I don't think any of them have been tickled in an episode. There's not even any tickling in Porno flicks! Whenever there is TV tickling it usually involves children, not adults, so it's not at all sexual. This is why, there's such interest in the Mainstream Lists & Ticklish Celebrity sections of the forum, because we've been starved for celeb tickle info, for so long. Since a lot of us grew up with TV, and movies telling us what's cool, and what's hip, is it any wonder we've all supressed our love of tickling for so long?