Do you think my GF knows about my tickle fetish?

[mmafankennylee]

Hey forum,

so I was on TMF asking a question a while ago about asking my girlfriend to take the next step and tie her up or something. SO, I have not tied her up or anything, but every time I'm with her, I'm tickling her somewhere. I'm 21 by the way, and I always say I like to "tease" her when I tickle her. She goes absolutely nuts when I tickle her armpits, and her feet are really ticklish too. She is really ticklish and says "its torture" And I've talked to her about fetish stuff, and I always joke and say I have a hand fetish, and I tell her I like manicures, and *hint* that she should do pedicures too, and whenever she is barefoot, I'm always playing with her feet (I have a little foot fetish too). So last week when I stayed over at her place, I tickled the shit outta her in bed. I couldn't really get her armpits, but I got a good 5 minutes holding her feet and went crazy. She IS really ticklish, and always says "its torture."

So do you guys think she hates me tickling her? (Because she says she doesn't like it and says its torture, and also that I wouldn't know how bad it was because I'm not ticklish). Also, seriously, I have been "joking" with her and I asked her if she could fulfill my fantasy. I used the word "fantasy" and I always joked about it saying "why don't you do my fantasy..." "you promise to do it during my birthday?" ALSO, you think she knows I have a tickle fetish or I love tickling?

Thanks TMF!!!

kenny

 

[mass1926]

She knows you have a liking for tickling. To her she only assumes that it is your way of flirting and gets you in the mood. She definitely does not know of it being a fetish or she would've come out and said you have a tickle fetish. She has no idea about the forum, tickling clips or anything else of that nature, I'm willing to bet. Be careful and approach progressing with caution. My ex was the same way and she didn't like being tickled all the time but let me do it to her only because she knew it got me in the mood. She didn't know of it being a fetish, nor would she have been very comprehensive of it being a fetish so I never told her. If your girl lets you tickle her and doesn't get weirded out by you doing it often, I'd say stick to keeping it this way for a while longer. Make sure she is gonna be with you long term and gradually suggest you get aroused by tickling.

To be honest, if she lets you tickle her and knows it gets your aroused, there really isn't any need to tell her about the forum and clips and all that. If things are good where they are, I say why change it.

 

[Gentler]

So do you guys think she hates me tickling her?

Well, let's see...

She IS really ticklish, and always says "its torture."

...she says she doesn't like it and says its torture​

Damn, if she only could have given us some kind of clue as to how she feels about it.

I give up. I can't crack this code.

 

[mass1926]

Well, let's see...

She IS really ticklish, and always says "its torture."

...she says she doesn't like it and says its torture​

Damn, if she only could have given us some kind of clue as to how she feels about it.

I give up. I can't crack this code.

Yea but that don't mean anything. My gf used to say it was torture when I got her in nylons, but she used to laugh and tickle me back so it was one of those "no" (but she really was enjoying the flirting) type of responses. That could very well be the situation here.

 

[TicklesFemales]

She knows you love tickling for sure. If she did not like it at all she would have broke up with you already I think personally but I could be wrong. Good luck buddy sounds as though you have a keeper with her.

 

[mass1926]

If a girl hates tickling, how do you even date her. Like I don't even know any other way to make flirty contact with a girl.

 

[Deadsea7777]

She is a woman, that means, when it comes to the sex game she is clever than you, that is the prerogative of the female of the species.
So she knows very well about your taste for tickling, and how letting you satisfying your urges gives her some control over you. The eternal feminine.
If she has connected it (tickling) to the concept of fetishism is another completely different matter.
What I would do if I were you is find and excuse to talk with her about fetishism, and find out what she think about it. Is she reject it or not. Does she think is bad or not. If she has a low concept of people who are fetishist.
And when you do it, remember that in a conversation the one that made the questions is the one in control of the conversation. Let her talk. The more she talk the more you know.
If she has a strong rejection of the fetish world, don't ever mention the TMF. Just enjoy tickling her with moderation.

 

[mass1926]

She is a woman, that means, when it comes to the sex game she is clever than you, that is the prerogative of the female of the species.
So she knows very well about your taste for tickling, and how letting you satisfying your urges gives her some control over you. The eternal feminine.
If she has connected it (tickling) to the concept of fetishism is another completely different matter.
What I would do if I were you is find and excuse to talk with her about fetishism, and find out what she think about it. Is she reject it or not. Does she think is bad or not. If she has a low concept of people who are fetishist.
And when you do it, remember that in a conversation the one that made the questions is the one in control of the conversation. Let her talk. The more she talk the more you know.
If she has a strong rejection of the fetish world, don't ever mention the TMF. Just enjoy tickling her with moderation.

Smart idea. Mention fetishes and sort of guage her reaction to them, but don't implicate that you are referring to you having a fetish. Definitely do not mention the TMF, even if she is okay with tickling or fetishes. The TMF is a pretty heavy thing to explain to someone who just found out her bf has a strong desire for tickling. To her, tickling is your foreplay, but she probably doesn't realize how powerful fetishes are, so I wouldn't tell her about the forum or tickle clips even if you tell her you have a fetish. That kind of information could be too much for her to handle, so I'd hold off on bringing them up for a long time.

 

[maniactickler]

Once you put the ring on her finger, she will cut off the tickling. i say run now.

 

[gilmourwaters]

If she doesn't know for sure..she should! Why hide it ?...just flat out tell her! She'll either embrace that part of you like she did with all the rest of who you are and include it as part of your lives together...if she doesn't accept it then you have to make the decision of either suressing this part of you for the rest of the time you're with her however long that would be or decide that this is a part of who you are and you aren't (or cant) just drop the fetish out of your life a just move on

 

[proud2tickle]

i will way in on this one because in some circles people calls me the albino hitch..... Its very simple, tickling has i have stated 1000 times before is just part of a relationship. do i get off by tickling yes, do i also get off by hitting it at midnight and making the room shake..... absolutely!!!!!!!!!!! i dont think you need to tell the person your with about your "fetish" your doing what people everywhere do just more often and it excites you. she probably already knows it excites you and therefor is ok with it. a relationship isnt successfully based upon a blue print you lay out but yet rather the mystery and spontaneous things that occur while your with that person. as long as your kink isnt whips and midgets and pony play i dont feel like u need to come out and say it..... as much as you tickle her and hint at it she already knows. no point in making a conversation out of it. if she had a problem wtih it or you. i am sure you would know by now. moral of the story just like a famous song...... "the smile on your face lets me know that you love me there is a truth in your eyes that says you'll never leave me the touch of hand says you'll catch me if ever i fall you say it best when u say nothing at all." love isnt a word and against popular opinion its not even an action.... it is however the most awesome binding power that ever existed in the history and future of anything.... i hope this advice shed some light for you

 

[Destro]

I have to agree with maniac. If she is after a ring, then run now. I know a woman who told me how much she hated giving oral sex, but constantly did it for her boyfriend because he loved it so much. She stopped the day they got married. Needless to say this lead to many marital problems and the marriage finally collapsed. If she says she hates it and it is torture. Then you best believe your fun is over the day you say "I do".

 

[Marquis De Sade]

If she really, truly hated it, you'd know. She would let you know beyond words that she hated it and wanted you to stop. If a woman is really and I mean REALLY unhappy, you would know without a doubt in the world.

Even if she were laughing.

My two cents would be, stop for a while. Don't even mention it. See if she teases you about it or tries to start something on her own.

And I don't think most people have even heard of a Tickle Fetish before so you're safe there. If anything she probably knows it does something for you but it kind of depends on what happens during or after you tickle her. If it's followed by sex, then she's probably aware on some level that it gets you off AND, will most likely be into it without her feeling the need to ask you or say so herself.

If you go watch sports after a five minute session she probably just thinks you're a douche. 😀

 

[hotdog]

So what you're saying is you didn't get documented permission before you tickled your girlfriend? I hear sirens. Morality police force activate and engage target! 🙂

 

[dj_hisp]

Tell her buddy. Don't be afraid. She will probably be totally cool with it. Most girls are cool with all this stuff.

If she doesn't understand it then it proves 1 thing: That she isn't the right girl for you 🙂

 

[hiram]

There are way to many interesting statements and questions in this thread. \

She is really ticklish and says "its torture"

My wife insists that a man who tickles his woman needs a good talking to.

The first time I ever dated my wife she was eighteen and I was nineteen. She attended an all-girl Catholic high school and asked me to take her to her senior prom. When I took her home that night I tickled her tummy for just a second to be sure, and have tickled her a thousand plus times since then. I joined the Navy to dodge the draft, and when I returned home she and a mutual friend arranged a party that she could just show up at and utterly trap me, but I didn't know it at the time.

<I>And I've talked to her about fetish stuff, and I always joke and say I have a hand fetish, and I tell her I like manicures, and *hint* that she should do pedicures too, and whenever she is barefoot</I>

I think women are much smarter than we sometimes give them credit. I also think in these sex games they are often a step or two ahead of us. I've been married to or going with my wife for nearly four decades. For most of that time I'm the one who does her toe nails (bright red, of course). To this day, when the need arises she comes to me in a robe, opens it and flashes, puts a bottle of red nail polish beside her head and shakes it up and down. She then says, "Now!"

After we were married about fifteen years she said one night, "You have a foot fetish, don't you?" By the way, I don't.

I said to her, "No. Actually, I have a deep and desperate tickle fetish."

She said, and I quote, "Duh!"

<I>She IS really ticklish, and always says "its torture."...So do you guys think she hates me tickling her? (Because she says she doesn't like it and says its torture, and also that I wouldn't know how bad it was because I'm not ticklish).</I>

I am ticklish, but regarding my wife, that's another story. When my youngest daughter was a junior in college she was home for the summer. One night we were watching TV when I took my wife down on the floor and tickled her until my fingers were tired and she was too exhausted to move.

My daughter asked, "Are you two ever going to grow up?"

My wife asked her, "What's it to you?" To this day I won't swear my wife likes to have me tickle her. So far she hasn't asked for a divorce.

<I>Also, seriously, I have been "joking" with her and I asked her if she could fulfill my fantasy. I used the word "fantasy" and I always joked about it saying "why don't you do my fantasy..." "you promise to do it during my birthday?"</I>

My wife has known for thirty five years I have wanted to tie her to the bed and tickle her from dusk til dawn. She has always refused. She has said many times, "You have no difficulty whatsoever holding me down and tickling me as much as you like. That's as good as it gets. Deal with it!"

<I>ALSO, you think she knows I have a tickle fetish or I love tickling?</I>

It's rare, I know. Every once in a generation or so we are lucky enough to bump into a lass who likes us AND is smarter that we give them credit. Your lass might, just might be one of them.

Good luck.

Hiram

 

[hotdog]

My wife has known for thirty five years I have wanted to tie her to the bed and tickle her from dusk til dawn. She has always refused. She has said many times, "You have no difficulty whatsoever holding me down and tickling me as much as you like. That's as good as it gets. Deal with it!"

Your wife is ticklish, lets you hold her down and torture her and seems to like it. Yet for 35 years you've waited to take it that one step further. I applaud you sir. Although I know nothing of your situation, I wondered while reading this why adding a little bondage to the scenario is so far out of the question. Doesn't seem like such a terrible compromise to allow once in 35 years. For me, repeatedly coming within inches of something I could never grasp would be worse than having nothing at all. As I previously mentioned I don't know anything about your situation but that just struck me as sad.

One other thing. You mentioned that you think women are much smarter than we sometimes give them credit for, and that if you're lucky a women who is more intelligent than you thought may like you. That sounds as if you are generally surprised when a women displays intelligence, as if you expected less. I just want to make the point that all of the women I've ever seriously dated are intelligent. It's really not rare or surprising.

 

[hiram]

<I>That sounds as if you are generally surprised when a women displays intelligence, as if you expected less. I just want to make the point that all of the women I've ever seriously dated are intelligent.</I>

I sometimes am not as clear as I think I am. In this case I might have ventured a bit into sarcasm or hyperbole or some such. In days of yore I could never have dated a lass a second time if I didn't think she was both fun and smart.

I've been married to the same woman for over three decades. I don't think it would have lasted three months if I didn't think she was brighter than bright.

I have two adult daughters that give me hours upon hours of interesting conversation.

I think my back handed compliment...often a mistake... had me suggesting that women are very often a step or two ahead of us in the social graces. It's one of the things that makes battles of the sexes so fun and interesting and makes life worth living.