does game count for anything in relationships?

[scorpionldr]

So lately, my new gf's biggest statement to me was something along the lines of "oh, well you have to admit that you have no game. you ARE really good guy though and showed me a good time, tho. I don't care about game."
then i heard something along the lines of she wanted to tickle torture me some today maybe with a good ending.

am i becoming a carpet? or is this something attractive that i have from not having game?

 

[Senshi1]

I don't mean to sound ignorant, but what exactly is meant by game? Is it game as in willing to do something, or is it meaning to be more playful, or something different again? Or are you yourself confused as to what she means by it?

Sorry if this is a bit of a strange post lol. XD

 

[scorpionldr]

um she like got wrapped around game in the sense of the smooth slick guy that can pick up chicks on a whim and have them begging for more.

 

[Senshi1]

um she like got wrapped around game in the sense of the smooth slick guy that can pick up chicks on a whim and have them begging for more.

Ooh, okay, I get it. Thanks.

In that case, no, game probably doesn't count for much. 😛 I'm about as slick as "Giraffes on Ice", but my relationship is immensely satisfying. 🙂 And I'm sure I'd hear about it if it weren't. :laughing:

Well, I'm saying game doesn't count for much, that's a bit sweeping. In MY experience it doesn't. But as people value different things, I'm sure a lot of people value a partner who can make such an enticing first impression. I guess it just depends on who you're with and what they like. Just like some guys like "bad girls" who have more balls then they do, whilst others prefer "girl next door" types who act sweet, innocent and naive. 😛

 

[scorpionldr]

yea but i've been used in the past..........i don't want to be used again.

 

[anon0907]

Yup, game still matters. Women stay women. That which attracted them at the beginning is still attractive years down the road. Trick is, you gotta adjust the game. It's not for picking her up, it's for keeping her. Same kinds of things you did before, but now you gotta learn timing. You just can't use some of it as often as you once did, or it gets irritating. Some things you need to do more. trick is, now you gotta learn phase 2 of the game.

Don't wanna be used? Then be stronger than her. Not physically (hey, I dunno, she may be a powerlifter), but don't let her walk on you. You're your own man. She's a gf, that means you are still independent even in a committed relationship. Do NOT confuse that with stepping out on her. Be faithful (unless she's cuckold or a swinger, but that's different). Walk as if she left tomorrow morning you'd have a hotter women in bed tomorrow afternoon...or evening depending on when you get up...lol You don't threaten her with it. You don't suggest it. It's a strictly internal thing. CONFIDENCE. If you were married, it would be different, but game still applies, even married.

If she starts using you, make her gone. Or, just be strong enough not to be used. Read the Gor books, and then figure out how it applies to modern real life in the 21st century. The philosophy is sound (mostly), it just needs some heavy adaptation to fit within laws, the dynamics of actual people and such. Good starting point, tho.

Basically, be the slick dude that picked her up and talked her out of her panties. If you want to keep her, you gotta go deeper than that, but you need to still be the slick, confident mofo, that bagged her at the start. Just be a responsible, caring, slick mofo.

If she sees you got game (don't expect her to ever admit it...ever), then she'll know she's gotta work to keep YOU, not the other way around. If she just wants to control you, drop her fast, but don't be nasty or vindictive. Just be straight up and honest.

The advice my wife would give you (and has given other men) is that if you let her think she's in charge, she'll eat you alive. You'll turn into a Scorp skin welcoe mat at the front door. My wife is a bit sexist...lol. But seriously. Just be the strong, confident slick guy she met. Don't be slick all the time, but often enough that she knows you still got it (again, don't expet her to admit it).

And tell her "No" from time to time. You're the man, BE the man.

CJ

 

[3xPIN]

Short answer: no.
long answer: NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!
(I wish no offense to gadilici, this is just my opinion)
You are in a relationship! If you want to stay in one, You CANNOT have game! You have to have a deficit of game! You have to be a carpet! But so does she! that is the point! You have to be there for each other and no one else and make it mean something! I am using too many Exclamation marks!!! I....... you get the idea.

 

[Violetta]

No, there's nothing attractive about a man with no game. And, holy shit, a girl's giving this opinion. I want a guy who's capable of being his own man, projecting his own personality, and definitely not being walked all over. A man who's a doormat isn't a man, it's a pet. A clingy, needy pet that I'd get tired of really fast. Faithfulness is one thing, assertion is another. And a man who can't assert himself has nothing to offer.

 

[anon0907]

Carpets are for floors. Not what anyone male or female should aspire to be.

If you gotta be a carpet to keep a girl, find another girl.

And if you think she's gonna be a carpet, I'd like to sell you this fine bridge that connects Brooklyn to.....

I rule over my house. I'm not a carpet. But just because I am the ruler of the house, does not mean my wife is a carpet. She is a fiercely strong-willed woman. Which means my will has to be stronger. It means I have to stay strong. I have to work to maintain my position. But I am also caring and loving, and SOFT when I need to be.

Part of ruling is knowing when and how to serve your subbordinates. Leading by example and all that.

If I was a carpet, she'd be gone. She was rid of two husbands like that, when I met her. If she was a carpet, I'd be miserable, and she's be in risk of being gone. I like that she's intelligent, has a mind of her own, and yet still looks to the Head of the Household. She can rule. She did it before I met her, and when I was gone as a truck driver. She had to. She is no one's carpet.

If my game disappears for too long, she lets me know she misses it. And then my game comes roaring back, she says she hates me, and I feel all warm and fuzzy.

Bring back your game, and see what impact it has. Just be respectful (in an Action-Bastard sort of way), and still flirt with her. bust on her. Call her a dork when she messes up. Just make sure there's a smile in the corner of your mouth she can pick up on.

Oh, and make sure you're aware of if she's on the PMS. The hormone changes can be radical, and something that amused her 2 days ago will crush her at that point. Adjust this to the severity of PMS. My ex-wife (from whom I learned all about the disaster of losing game) had almost no PMS, so it wasn't an issue (well, if I hadn't abandoned my game). My wife now has crushing PMS (doctor is working on it), and it's tough to balance soft and hard when you don't know if her mood will change before the next breath.

You're not being mean. No more than if your friend says something like "Who? that asshole over there?" pointing to you. He's your friend. You know it, he knows it, and he knows you're gonna shoot back. Then you're gonna have a beer, watch a game, and be like brothers.

At the very worst, it means you won't be used. Better to be alone than be used.

These are the things that keep me and my wife in love.

Come to think of it, it's been a week since she called me an arrogant bastard. I need to ruffle some feathers when she gets up.....😉

CJ

 

[TKLVR181]

Different girls see 'game' in different ways. True there's no girl who wants a carpet, but I personally don't want a guy who constantly wants me to submit, either.

That doesn't mean I don't like excitement--Senshi, as modest as he is, has plenty of 'game', he just doesn't try to dominate me (unless I wanna be dominated--then he friggin melts me with a look 😱 )

~K

 

[anon0907]

Like I said, it's all about adjusting game when you're in a committed relationship.

But you still gotta have game.

CJ

 

[3xPIN]

Like I said, it's all about adjusting game when you're in a committed relationship.

But you still gotta have game.

CJ

...alright, I'll give it to ya.

 

[blackmagicjack1]

And a man who can't assert himself has nothing to offer.

This ought to be framed.

 

[melanie2]

i read this entire thread and still have no clue as to what is meant by game???? however no relationship will work without equality..that's my opinion..no carpet..no doormat...and Sammi...i could not agree more..if i could walk all over david, i would never respect him..and would never have been with him this long..and believe me i've tried to walk all over him before..it doesn't work..