Does it ever feel wrong?

[angelspike]

Hi
does anyone else ever feel like it's weird to this particular fetish. Sometimes when I'm watching a tickling clip it just feels wrong like " why the hell would anyone get pleasure out of this"
I dont know if it's just me but I feel like its a strange thing to like so much
angel

 

[kcantankerous]

It feels stupid to me sometimes. Like what the hell am I doing with my time looking at this garbage. Those are some things that pop into my mind sometimes. I found that my perusing this particular forum shifted from tickling related to just conversational and about other things than this. From a moralistic standpoint I feel nothing at all. Mine is purely from a standpoint that its tickling so what, its like hugging, or kissing. It aint sex thats for sure lol.

 

[Butterfly wings]

Yeah i feel weird about it as well at times. But i don't let it get me down or let it get to me. I just keep telling myself that we almost all fetishes and things and kinks that we like we're all not the same. So i just move on. I would much rather love tickling then get hooked into porn and watch porn.

 

[Michael514]

Not for me, at least not until a foot segment on t.v. comes on and people who know I have one look over to see my re-action, or when a foot subject comes up and someone who knows about my foot/tickle fetish starts asking me personal questions. I wrote about the second part of this in a trie experience. I wrote how I was confronted and how I solved it.

 

[amk714]

No, Angel, I never feel or think that loving tickling and/or being tickled is weird or wrong, and I don't give a @#$% if anyone thinks it is. It's my life and no one's going to change it. 😎

 

[Hiryu]

I sometimes feel guilt over the lust aspect of it but, when it comes right down to it, nobody's perfect and we're going to sin no matter how hard we try not to. That's just the way it is. It could be worse ya know. What if you were aroused by something violent or unhealthy. Tickling is neither of those things as long as you keep it rational and reasonable.

 

[jk666uk]

I sometimes feel guilt over the lust aspect of it but, when it comes right down to it, nobody's perfect and we're going to sin no matter how hard we try not to. That's just the way it is. It could be worse ya know. What if you were aroused by something violent or unhealthy. Tickling is neither of those things as long as you keep it rational and reasonable.

what he said good work

 

[Storm_Cat]

it's not something I would discuss with just anyone, but I don't feel it's any weirder than other fetishes/deviance out there. it's not like it's the worst "fetish" one could have!

 

[Vae]

As much as I tend to agree with amk714, I also know what it's like to think this fetish is weird. I go back and forth all the time. I look at our "porn" and then I think... "there's nobody naked in this" or "there's no sex in this at all! How is it porn?!" I often wonder what it is that attracts me to this fetish over being "normal."

I think the weirdest thing is that it is a fetish itself. I've had a phone conversation about this: fetishism is usually the need of an object that must be seen, nearby or touched in order to reach climax. Tickling is not an object, it's an action. We need an action, or perhaps a feeling, in order to reach that sexual high. And it's that that I have no answer. I don't understand how that works or how any fetish works, for that matter. I don't know why this is the way I am.

But I'll go back to amk's post and says: It IS who I am. It's apart of me.

A lot of people talk about how they couldn't bear if someone knew about their fetish. For the longest time, my fiance was the only one who knew. Now, just the other day, I kinda accidentally (don't ask) told a friend of mine in real life. It was the first time I realized I had to deal with the fact that someone who wasn't in love with me, or didn't have it himself, knew of my fetish and I've never felt so shaken and so scared. He not only accepted it, he thought it was cool. He asked me some questions about it, but left it at that. So of course, this is what I thought:

"It's because he cares about me. If he didn't care about me, he'd think I was a freak."

But then, as pointed to me by a friend of mine, if it were a complete stranger and they were okay with it, then it's because they didn't know me or I them and it didn't matter what they thought. So where am I going with this?

As far as this fetish goes, it will always be weird to you until you accept it. You can tell the world and sure, some asshole may think you're weird, but it's you YOURSELF who thinks its weird. I am very guilty of this: I often wish that I didn't have it, that I was what I think is normal. If everyone had this fetish, well, sure, it wouldn't be weird, but you could tell every soul you ever saw and you can come up with every reason why they didn't react badly to it. It's just you who needs to accept it ultimately or that weird feeling will never go away.

How do you do this? I have no idea. I've been working on that since I realized I had it at 16. So much for help there. 😉

 

[maniactickler]

When i see some of the sick fetishes other people are into, no, i dont feel tickling is wrong at all.

 

[Illtcklu]

WHAT IS NORMAL?! I mean really. Think about it. Normal itself is really a fantasy. Normal is an image, a state of being, that we ALL put a facade on to try and look. No one is truly normal. Strike that! Everyone is truly normal, when they are TRUE TO THEMSELVES! Normal isn't even normal!

Is homosexuality weird? Think about what these people go through!

Is a nudist weird?

Is talking to each other about this subject weird?

If it's the perverts that should leave, then we should all exit alphabetically

I salute Vae on her bravery to tell someone. We have been PMing each other and I know what kind of big step that was for her.

Some people won't accept it. They are dogmatic and narrow minded. I pity them more than any of us. They will never fully know all life has to offer, cause they shut it away.

 

[ticklkitten]

Technically tickling isn't a fetish. It's a paraphilia because we don't require an "object".

Anyhow to me... it's never felt wrong! I don't feel guilty or strange in the least bit because for me what it really boils down to is extreme playfulness that I think is sexy.This isn't all I'm about. I don't watch tickle videos at all either which is a bit odd but that's just me. Videos don't do anything for me, I need it IRL.

 

[tklcouple]

academic discussion

Well Kitten, it is a paraphilia?

A fetish does according to most authoriteis demand the necessity of an object (shoe, panties, or body part). Stedman's defines "parahilia" as "a sexual deviation". According to the DSM-IV (the manual psychiatrists use, the latest version is version "TR") a paraphilia is " recurrent intense sexually arousing fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviors generally involving 1) nonhuman objects 2) the suffering or humiliation of oneself or one's partner or 3) children or other nonconsenting persons, that occur over a period of at least 6 months". It also notes that this behavior must cause "clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning." So is your lee "suffering" or "humiliated"? If so and then only if this keeps you from funcitoning then you meet the criterion for a paraphilia (and you should seek some help). Keep in mind that this is the clinical use of these terms as determined by people who shrink heads for a living. On a more colloquial level, the common use of the term "fetish" is much more loose in which there is a lack of the necessary criterion of loss of function as well as the loss of the humiliation/suffering part. To the common folks the word just means essentially "something that gets you off which doesn't necessarily do it for most people". Ulitmately, technicalities such as these usually don't make a difference to anyone who loves tickling anyway.

My thought . . . bottom line: life is short, so if making someone laugh by stroking their skin or vice versa makes you happy, who gives a shit! Good for you! (For that matter: do pretty feet or watching ladies blow up balloons launch you to ecstacy? Fabulous! More power to you!) We ticklephiles should be happy such a simple thing brings us so much pleasure. It probably makes you lucky, not ill.

That said, my thanks to the Kitten for noticing enough to bring about the discussion - chalk one up for the giggling feline! LOL

Just my $0.02.

Professor Tkl

 

[lk70]

No, Angel, I never feel or think that loving tickling and/or being tickled is weird or wrong, and I don't give a @#$% if anyone thinks it is. It's my life and no one's going to change it. 😎

I used to feel it was weird, or at least odd. Now I feel just like amk. Why you ask? What changed my mind? I'll tell you...talking to various people on this site and meeting some in person. You know what? They're fun, smart, entertaining people and they don't seem weird to me. So I figured I must not be weird either!

Long live us ticklephiles!

 

[ticklkitten]

Well Kitten, it is a paraphilia?

A fetish does according to most authoriteis demand the necessity of an object (shoe, panties, or body part). Stedman's defines "parahilia" as "a sexual deviation".
That said, my thanks to the Kitten for noticing enough to bring about the discussion - chalk one up for the giggling feline! LOL

Just my $0.02.

Professor Tkl

Your words are interesting doctor, because you yourself are the one who told me that tickling isn't a "fetish" but is best defined as a "paraphilia". 😀 I got that little tidbit from you.

So maybe we don't fit into a "definition". That doesn't make us more disturbing.. hee hee. I actually enjoy guys who have fetishes or whatever you want to call it. Reason being that soooooo many girl have NO clue and obsess over what their guy likes/is interested in... etc. If he has a fetish... you've been given the key to totally satisfying him. I wouldn't have it any other way.

 

[KC Omega 7]

my opinion

Here's my two cents.
Weather it's weird or not isn't really important. the thing is that for some reason or another we are aroused (the extent of it is an individual matter) by it and to tell yourself it's wrong and stopping would only be lieing to yourself. The reasons for this arousal are for as far as i know inconclusive. Though there is the fact that this can be done in a consentual manner and it is for the sake of enjoyment for both the lee and ler. Now there are unhealthy obssetions but that doesn't specificly apply to tickling it just applies to obssetions and their own degrees. So relax if you start judging yourself now you'll just later realize it was stupid to and just carry on with this seemingly born "fetish." You can drive yourself crazy doing that.

 

[BeCalm]

This thread has covered a lot of good ground. My bottom line (and that's not a pun, as I tend to be an upper body tickler) is that tickling is generally mild compared with other potential obsessions, is often discovered in a friendly, or at least harmless, environment, and in many ways is perfectly healthy. Laugh together and live long and keep those endorphins flowing!

I think those 'wrong' feelings might come from the simple fear of rejection by a group identity, fear of being different. I bet more people actually enjoy tickling than even know, because they haven't spent time with its many variations or haven't been introduced to it at all. Most assume that tickling just means 'attack tickling' or 'humiliation tickling' when in fact there are many flavors to choose from, something for every taste really.

I'm personally pretty casual about it with new aquaintances and people I've known for a while. I find myself dropping things into conversation like "oh sure, that looks like a good way to indulge my fetish", as if it's the most normal and cool thing to have a fetish in the first place. (I like some variety and spice in life. How dull would it be if we were all normal aka the same?). The resulting question and immediate curiosity is always: "What's your fetish?" and I answer without any hesitation "Oh, I'm into tickling." Nine times out of ten the person just smiles and says, "oh, cool." I can't remember anyone ever saying, "eww, that's weird." More likely they'll tell you something like "I'm not ticklish at all" or "I'm so ticklish that it drives me crazy." Or they'll just tell you their tickling stories. (Okay, some times some dude will say, "then stay the hell away from my wife!")

I actually have come to believe that it's not abnormal at all. The only 'weirdness' about it is self-imposed because you haven't given it enough air or have placed too much stigma on it where people who don't 'subscribe' to the fetish don't place any stigma on it at all. It just is what it is. Either you're ticklish or you're not. If you are, you probably like it to some degree, and you probably like being tickled in certain places, ways, by certain people, better than otherwise.

I guess what I'm saying is that you can have a healthly, accepting relationship with your fetish, and of all the fetishes out there, ours is pretty easy to get along with.