Does it make you sad that most people hate being tickled?

[Doriansenigma]

Asking for a friend…

 

[tausendneuelugen00]

Not really. IMO that is a more "natural" reaction.

 

[Soles_Scream]

No, however, I do get upset on their behalf (and my own) when the reason for the hate is because someone or some people’s actions caused them to hate being tickled.

 

[tickle_prince]

It’s just the way the cookies crumbles sometime and we just need to respect that, my close friends absolutely hates being tickled, and sadly she’s really ticklish, so sure it’s sad as I would love to get my tickler fingers on her, but I respect the friendship I have with her, so that means more to me than my kink desires

 

[Soles_Scream]

It’s just the way the cookies crumbles sometime and we just need to respect that, my close friends absolutely hates being tickled, and sadly she’s really ticklish, so sure it’s sad as I would love to get my tickler fingers on her, but I respect the friendship I have with her, so that means more to me than my kink desires

Isn't it the worst when they say, "I hate being tickled" followed by, "I'm so ticklish" and you know they are just giving you a fact. I completely agree with the spirit of your response.

 

[duderino84]

It does, actually. I think a lot about old dates that didn't go right or people I met who truly hated the idea of tickling.

 

[Vellication86]

Sometimes, but overall I actually love non-con stuff anyway so the fact that they hate it almost makes it better

 

[WickedTouch]

No, and I don't really think as many people outright hate it as is often assumed. The situation and the context makes a lot of difference in how they feel about it. But for those that do hate it, it really doesn't make me feel sad in the sense that I don't get to tickle them because of it. It does make me feel frustrated if someone ruined tickling for them and perhaps a little sad for them that they don't get to have a positive experience with it.

 

[luvgirlsfeet]

A little bit yes because i build up in my mind the persons laughter, anticipation of how ticklish they really are and their reaction. For them to say they don’t like being tickled is a super downer. However they’re willing to tickle me all they want

 

[natscott6282]

No, however, I do get upset on their behalf (and my own) when the reason for the hate is because someone or some people’s actions caused them to hate being tickled.

whose actions normally?

 

[Sunriseticklee]

Only if I'm really digging on them. Then I'm like.... DAMN! LOL

No really! It doesn't make me sad because it's so understandable. I pretty much keep my love of tickling to myself anyway. Like others have said, it is upsetting that there are people out there using what I love to abuse others.

AND!!! There are a good number of people who love tickling. I can still rock with them and enjoy myself. 😀

 

[A/S/H]

No, however, I do get upset on their behalf (and my own) when the reason for the hate is because someone or some people’s actions caused them to hate being tickled.

Ugh, same. I can't help but sometimes read about the people opposite of us, the ones who were abused and traumatized by it. It's so infuriating to read about. As a kid I legitimately felt the need to hide being sensitive to it just to make sure no one could ruin it for me. I have no idea why some find it fun to do this to people who truly hate it but it makes me super uncomfortable and I truly am never jealous of the victims at all.

 

[bluey1]

No, and I don't really think as many people outright hate it as is often assumed. The situation and the context makes a lot of difference in how they feel about it. But for those that do hate it, it really doesn't make me feel sad in the sense that I don't get to tickle them because of it. It does make me feel frustrated if someone ruined tickling for them and perhaps a little sad for them that they don't get to have a positive experience with it.

I agree with this, I think people say "I hate it" as a throw-away line, meaning they hate the feeling of the tickling and it teasing them, rather than they hate being tickled as such. I know it sounds the same, but there is a difference.

I think people who actually "hate" being tickled are people that it causes them proper pain and distress, and they would get full-on angry/panicked/stressed about it.

I think the vast majority of people fall into the hating the feeling of the actual tickling and being made to laugh and lose composure category.

If you've noticed tickle models and mistress' naturally say they hate being tickled as a natural response at times. What they mean is they hate the tickling, making them squirm and laugh. But then they obviously don't "hate" it as in properly "hate it" or they wouldn't be getting tickled again.

 

[Morning Scifi]

Not really. Now, if I ended up dating someone that absolutely refused to ever be tickled, that might be an issue.

Since I'm not interested in tickling most people, their lack of interest in being tickled doesn't really affect me.

If anything, tickling being seen as torturous by so many is kind of amusing. I remember hearing a certain youtuber talk about how she hates being tickled, and it was particularly funny since she laughs so often already.

 

[Morning Scifi]

No, however, I do get upset on their behalf (and my own) when the reason for the hate is because someone or some people’s actions caused them to hate being tickled.

I can relate to that.

What's more saddening for me is if I find out someone I'm interested in isn't ticklish.

 

[U.N.Owen]

No, and I don't really think as many people outright hate it as is often assumed. The situation and the context makes a lot of difference in how they feel about it. But for those that do hate it, it really doesn't make me feel sad in the sense that I don't get to tickle them because of it. It does make me feel frustrated if someone ruined tickling for them and perhaps a little sad for them that they don't get to have a positive experience with it.

Bingo.

 

[Soles_Scream]

whose actions normally?

People who don’t respect other’s bodily autonomy by tickling folks - not honoring their request for it to stop - etc.

I’ve heard too many stories throughout the year from models, kinksters, and vanilla folks alike.

One of my mentors on the producer side has a BDSM background and had a negative view of ticklers until he met me at one of the foot parties.

The overall reputation of the tickle community from those outside of it still needs work.

However, I imagine that many of these people that push tickling too far probably don’t actually have the fetish. They just think it’s funny or cute.

 

[robmic]

Ya know, it's funny, when I was young, I was always the tickler never the tickled. And most of the tickling back then was more non-consensual. But I avoided being tickled. Just didn't want to be for whatever reason. Looking back on those times, I kinda wish I had been the victim at least once in a while. Just to experience it.

 

[aberdeen]

In a situation where you are trying to introduce someone to the idea of allowing you to tickle them...It can be a bit problematic...
It's prob best if one can find out about a person's 'tolerance' for tickling at all via some normal playful environment....foot massages, back rubs...times when you can explore their sensitivities safely....like many couples do when dating or getting to know each other...see how some fun playful tickles go and progress from there!

Like others have said...I wonder if most of the "hate' comments are from the 'state' of helplessness or vulnerability it puts them in...the embarrassment more than the tickling itself.....That being said...psychology on tickling is varied and unpredictable...some may be 'wired' such that they truly find it physically or mentally painful to endure to a high degree...but I don't think most fall into that category.....

Most people fall somewhere in between ...If you are considerate and respectful...You can introduce them to the tickling fixation slowly. That was my method with my first experiences and I was able to go from gentle grazing to eventually full bondage and vigorous tickling by encouraging the Lees to allow me to 'go a little bit more intensely...a little bit longer...etc". But I also have done some very intense tickling with a girlfriend who allowed it but we also were not even aware of the concept of safe words....I just used my knowledge of her sensitivity and my own intuition to know when to stop! We engaged in that for quite a while without any complaints from her...and it was intense!

Every situation is different and requires its own unique solution...There is no way to have a set script for what will work for everyone!

 

[Miss_Gigglish]

No, however, I do get upset on their behalf (and my own) when the reason for the hate is because someone or some people’s actions caused them to hate being tickled.

Nice way to convince them that it'd be different with you 😀

 

[Miss_Gigglish]

I agree with this, I think people say "I hate it" as a throw-away line, meaning they hate the feeling of the tickling and it teasing them, rather than they hate being tickled as such. I know it sounds the same, but there is a difference.

I think people who actually "hate" being tickled are people that it causes them proper pain and distress, and they would get full-on angry/panicked/stressed about it.

I think the vast majority of people fall into the hating the feeling of the actual tickling and being made to laugh and lose composure category.

If you've noticed tickle models and mistress' naturally say they hate being tickled as a natural response at times. What they mean is they hate the tickling, making them squirm and laugh. But then they obviously don't "hate" it as in properly "hate it" or they wouldn't be getting tickled again.

You've decoded us so well 😛

 

[WickedTouch]

I agree with this, I think people say "I hate it" as a throw-away line, meaning they hate the feeling of the tickling and it teasing them, rather than they hate being tickled as such. I know it sounds the same, but there is a difference.

I think people who actually "hate" being tickled are people that it causes them proper pain and distress, and they would get full-on angry/panicked/stressed about it.

I think the vast majority of people fall into the hating the feeling of the actual tickling and being made to laugh and lose composure category.

If you've noticed tickle models and mistress' naturally say they hate being tickled as a natural response at times. What they mean is they hate the tickling, making them squirm and laugh. But then they obviously don't "hate" it as in properly "hate it" or they wouldn't be getting tickled again.

That's right–Even I say I hate it all the time! Humans are weird. The body can hate something at the same time that the mind is loving it, and vice versa.

 

[Soles_Scream]

In a situation where you are trying to introduce someone to the idea of allowing you to tickle them...It can be a bit problematic...
It's prob best if one can find out about a person's 'tolerance' for tickling at all via some normal playful environment....foot massages, back rubs...times when you can explore their sensitivities safely....like many couples do when dating or getting to know each other...see how some fun playful tickles go and progress from there!

Like others have said...I wonder if most of the "hate' comments are from the 'state' of helplessness or vulnerability it puts them in...the embarrassment more than the tickling itself.....That being said...psychology on tickling is varied and unpredictable...some may be 'wired' such that they truly find it physically or mentally painful to endure to a high degree...but I don't think most fall into that category.....

Most people fall somewhere in between ...If you are considerate and respectful...You can introduce them to the tickling fixation slowly. That was my method with my first experiences and I was able to go from gentle grazing to eventually full bondage and vigorous tickling by encouraging the Lees to allow me to 'go a little bit more intensely...a little bit longer...etc". But I also have done some very intense tickling with a girlfriend who allowed it but we also were not even aware of the concept of safe words....I just used my knowledge of her sensitivity and my own intuition to know when to stop! We engaged in that for quite a while without any complaints from her...and it was intense!

Every situation is different and requires its own unique solution...There is no way to have a set script for what will work for everyone!

I agree with this. Gradual introduction and consistent check-ins in the beginning allow folks to become more comfortable to things they are open to trying.

This also works regardless of how much the person has experienced the kink with others.

 

[South_Atmo]

No, well... maybe I was sad about it when I was in my teens and early 20s.
I guess I understand why. A ticklish response is a panic response, after all. While there are quite a few that like the feeling of being out of control even for a little while, or some like the laughter it brings out of them (and I'm not even talking about on a sexual level as some just find it fun), being out of control of your body and your body's responses is a scary feeling that many won't want to give into. Not to mention that handful of people where the ticklish is so extreme it's actually super painful for them, no matter how light the touch is. And this isn't even limited to people who don't have tickling fetishes. There's a lot of lers that genuinely hate being tickled.

 

[aberdeen]

That's right–Even I say I hate it all the time! Humans are weird. The body can hate something at the same time that the mind is loving it, and vice versa.

That old 'psychology' is sometimes inexplicable .... to be sure !
I have another post about the psychology of tickling, how our brain is wired differently for different things...some is pure physical nerve tracts in the brain..some is 'learned' or adaptive behavior from our experiences ...

That mind melting love/hate sensation with tickling ...being tickled can for some be a powerful desire, need, craving......And I've delivered that sensation as a tickler to play partners ... all without any sexual connotations at all...I am in that category of having a tickling 'fixation'..

Some HAVE to have tickling as part of their sexual satisfaction (the true fetishists or kinksters, I guess 😊)....
neither is wrong or right per se...its all what we want or become accustomed to...

The love/hate sensations with BEING tickled is very similar to sensual edging....prolonged overwhelming sensations that we seek to find a definitive ending ......and our minds / brains can't separate the two in some cases...
The Lee does want it to end eventually...for the endorphin bath after the exciting adrenaline rush during the tickling...Same situation with sensual pleasures....

That connection though is why you can, with care and respect, sometimes introduce someone to the tickling fixation, and 'guide' them into exploring that side of their personality...