Easy going or control freak?

[Lionhart]

Hey ticklefreaks. Long time no post. A thought rolled thru my mind as I was sitting on the beach soaking up some rays and enjoying the scenery. (and it was more than just the waves catching my attention) In my experience the women that truely aren't ticklish also tend to have some control issues or to put a better way, tend to be more uptight than the ticklish women that aren't afraid to loosen up, laugh and wrestle around a little. Maybe in a subconscious way tickling is a sign by which guys and girls too for that matter can somewhat measure ones personality and decipher the "high strung peeps" from the "mello fellows". Just a theory..This is the kind of stuff I think about when i'm buzzed up. Call me crazy..What do you all think? Always terrific talking to you all. Take it EZ.
Lionhart

 

[SimplyRio]

What a great question!

Most of my adult life and in my professional career, because I'm a very organized and methodical person, by default I usually end up being in charge or in control... but not necessarily because I WANT to be! LOL

To the casual observer of my leadership tactics and calm exterior, nobody would ever guess I have even a teeeeeny little chink in my armor -- but tickle me and I will immediately collapse into a heap of nothing more than schoolgirl giggles.

Not sure how that aligns with your theory, Lionhart... but it'll sure be fun to compare notes!

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

I really agree with you. I think if someone is ticklish they are not uptight and they don't have control issues as oppossed to someone who isn't ticklish who probably has control issues. How did you come up with this theory while on the beach? See people who were and weren't ticklish? Great thread!

 

[Lionhart]

Thanks for the insight Rio.. Guess there is more research to be done. lol As long as there are ticklish women to help me along, I think i'll be OK. And jennifer, I think up the weirdest stuff after a couple brewskies. Sometimes it even makes sense. You'll find out soon or later.. Great replies. Thanks

 

[none]

ha!
i argue this...
im pretty much the most easy going person i know, icould get into anything, but tickling for me is like, a personal little secret,,,,
even when people have found out in the past that i was ticklish here or there, id stiffle myself on purpose as to hide it, and i still do to this day...
its kind of like a little game i play to see how far THEY want to take it, in oreder that i find out that theyre into it too,

ive only once opened myself up to someone i really trusted, and with them i was very open...
its a very hard thing to define from one person to the next..

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

Gotta agree with non here, Lion. I've known plenty of folks who are huge control freaks and won't let anyone near them who are very ticklish. I've also known several very laid back folks who aren't ticklish at all. So, while there may sometimes be a correlation, I don't think you'll find it to be a general rule.

I'd keep up on the research, though! 🙂

Ann

 

[Ayla ny]

I’m not really sure how this ties in… but I think it does… so I’ll just lay it out there and let you decide.

years ago, I was a total control freak. my life was out of control… so I was all about controlling EVERYTHING else. super clean everything (people who know me today will find that particularly funny) and very strict, regimented schedules. everything had to be in a certain order (can you say OCD?) and if you tried to tickle me… I would become angry. very angry. order and control had to be maintained.

that way of thinking brought me to a life that, quite plainly, stunk.

just about simultaneously, I came to terms with my desire to be tickled and with the fact that I was not happy spending hours obsessing over being off schedule.

the funny part is that, in giving up control (or stopping trying so hard to have it) I am less controlled and more in control of my life than I have ever been. and SO much happier.

I was always ticklish… but now I treasure the very things about it that used to make me angry. the loss of control is freeing. the vulnerability a beautiful, wonderful thing.

…where was I?

 

[Lionhart]

This is great stuff. Terrific point Ayla.. It's kinda like trying to control sand in your hands. The tighter you hold it the more it leaks between your fingers, loosen the grip and you can hold it all day.. Friends tell me that i'm way to mello and should "make things happen more often", but hell, i'm happy and life is good.. Let the good times roll...

 

[StephanieLocke]

I loved Ayla Ny's response. Personally, I am a very relaxed control freak and I take pleasure in not letting anyone tickle me.

Mistress Stephanie Locke
www.mslvideos.com
www.stephanielocke.com

 

[50greg]

So, Stephanie, does that mean you are, in fact, ticklish? 🙂

 

[Ayla ny]

glad to know that combining wine and keyboard didn’t equal ramblings that only made sense to me. 🙂

love the sand analogy. sometimes it’s even fun to just let it run through your fingers… or squish your toes into it… 😉

 

[thetickleking]

hmmmm

My wife is very "uptight", but she's one of the most ticklish people I've ever met, except on her feet, which are only mildly ticklish. Everywhere else, she chokes from laughing so hard. I tickled her, nonstop, for about a minute, one time, (she was beating me to death the whole time), and when done, she laughed for longer afterwards, than I had tickled her, a lot longer.

 

[StephanieLocke]

"Moi, Ticklish?"

Dear 50Greg,

Ever since I was interviewed in an early issue of "Ticklish Magazine", it's been known that I AM ticklish. That said, it's not my thing. Having wanted to be a Mistress since the age of 9, having spotted my first foot fetishist at 4...

I AM THE ONE WHO DOES THE TICKLING IN MY RELATIONSHIPS.

Mistress Stephanie Locke
www.mslvideos.com
www.stephanielocke.com

 

[Lionhart]

Excellant posts ticklecats.. It all boils right down to the persona. Some might cal me a control freak at work but being in charge of people, hey it's my job. As soon as I walk out those double doors I don't have a care in the world. Plus to support my own theory, I laugh very easy, and l enjoy every moment that I do. So at least for me and my reality, it rings very true.

 

[50greg]

Stephanie,

Sorry, I didn't mean to get you riled up. 🙂 I just saw an opportunity for a little fun.

 

[StephanieLocke]

Dear 50Greg,

Perhaps I'm not as relaxed as I think I am. You know how it is, dominants taking themselves too seriously...

I have been known to be guilty of that.

Never mind the ribbing, glad you wrote back I was getting a touch too formal.

Stephanie

 

[Mimi]

I don't know if control freaks are less likely to be ticklish than laid back people, but I'd be willing to put money on the majority of them serverely DISLIKING being tickled because it means a loss of control for them. That said, I think more relaxed, carefree, fun-loving people are probably more open to the concept of tickling....both giving and receiving.

Mimi 😉

 

[StephanieLocke]

Dear Mimi,

I think that some control freaks are willing to relax and let others do...and some other control freaks (like me) remain most relaxed when in control.

Much Love,

Mistress Stephanie Locke
www.stephanielocke.com
www.mslvideos.com