Yes I have....Yes I was told to see a therpist....Yes it made me feel like shit....Yes I showed restraint on not hurting that person.
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Ever tell someone about your fetish and get laughed at?
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Yes I have....Yes I was told to see a therpist....Yes it made me feel like shit....Yes I showed restraint on not hurting that person.
Yes I have....Yes I was told to see a therpist....Yes it made me feel like shit....Yes I showed restraint on not hurting that person.
Infact let me change that...I was laughed at in a therpists office....NO JOKE!
Rustenexcel87
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I told my exgirlfriend that I liked being tickled. I find it easy to talk tickling to people who have a tickle fetish but the few people I have told without the fetish I found it hard. I could not even look at her when I told her because I was afraid of the response. Her reaction was to tell me that I was not weird. She said she would try to get into it but that did not work out.
She was into being spanked. I did all I could to make her happy but I had a hard time spanking her. (I witnessed some domestic violence as a boy and since then I always had a strong belief that real men don't hit women.) but since I loved her let me tell you I spanked away. It was hard at first but since I knew she was getting into it I started to enjoy making her happy. It's still not my thing but will have fun doing it to a girl who get's into it.
Sadly one of the things that killed the relationship was her not taking part in my tickle fetish. She would tell me she was going to buy feathers and tie me up and but she never did. She had no tickle skills and the one night I took out some tickle toys and restraints to tie me down with she freaked. I also made the mistake of telling her that I liked to be blindfolded. Her reaction to this was "so you don't find me attractive, you want me to blindfold you so you can think of another woman." In the end I was just not happy in the relationship. This was not the thing to kill it but it did help. the fact that I was willing to go out of my confort zone for her added to the resentment because she was not willing to do that for me. It also did not help that we were both the submissive type in our fetishes. It was a good relationship while it lasted and while I seem to made her sound nasty here she was not, this was just one issue but one that hurt a lot.
As for the other friend who I told, it was one of those days where I just needed to talk and it came out when talking about what I look for in a girl. I don't know how I started to talk about it but I went there. He gave me the look at first because he never though of it as a fetish then told me and I quote. "I can't judge you. If you look under my bed you will see why." I look under his bed and I pulled out a 9 tail horse whip. He never did tell me if his girlfriend used it on him or he on her but after that he did not need to.
She was into being spanked. I did all I could to make her happy but I had a hard time spanking her. (I witnessed some domestic violence as a boy and since then I always had a strong belief that real men don't hit women.) but since I loved her let me tell you I spanked away. It was hard at first but since I knew she was getting into it I started to enjoy making her happy. It's still not my thing but will have fun doing it to a girl who get's into it.
Sadly one of the things that killed the relationship was her not taking part in my tickle fetish. She would tell me she was going to buy feathers and tie me up and but she never did. She had no tickle skills and the one night I took out some tickle toys and restraints to tie me down with she freaked. I also made the mistake of telling her that I liked to be blindfolded. Her reaction to this was "so you don't find me attractive, you want me to blindfold you so you can think of another woman." In the end I was just not happy in the relationship. This was not the thing to kill it but it did help. the fact that I was willing to go out of my confort zone for her added to the resentment because she was not willing to do that for me. It also did not help that we were both the submissive type in our fetishes. It was a good relationship while it lasted and while I seem to made her sound nasty here she was not, this was just one issue but one that hurt a lot.
As for the other friend who I told, it was one of those days where I just needed to talk and it came out when talking about what I look for in a girl. I don't know how I started to talk about it but I went there. He gave me the look at first because he never though of it as a fetish then told me and I quote. "I can't judge you. If you look under my bed you will see why." I look under his bed and I pulled out a 9 tail horse whip. He never did tell me if his girlfriend used it on him or he on her but after that he did not need to.
Infact let me change that...I was laughed at in a therpists office....NO JOKE!
What kind of therapist was that? Or was someone in there with you???
LOL...sounds like she had serious issues! 🙂
People tend to be scared of things they don't understand.
I have many friends who I have known for years and I know would have the exact same reaction as above.
It doesn't stop me from being friends with them, but I am aware of their narrow mindedness and just don't bother.
To be honest with all the friends I have here on the TMF and the few in person who know, I don't really feel the need to tell anyone else anyway, and have always wondered why people make such a big deal of it???
The only person I would ever tell about this interest of ours would obviously be a significant other.... and it wouldn't just happen at the drop of a hat. You'll know if he/she is going to be open to it... it's not something you drop on someone unless you are completely and utterly sure it is absolutely necessary and for the best. And why would you tell anyone else? I simply don't see the need for it.
Given that, I've broken up with past g/f's who have shared this interest with me and that hasn't always turned out for the best... but whatever, just "laugh" it off
Given that, I've broken up with past g/f's who have shared this interest with me and that hasn't always turned out for the best... but whatever, just "laugh" it off
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Well, there's the ex wife. Tickling was a fun thing during the dating process, but once we had both names on the mailbox, she wanted it to stop. She was like a best friend except for this. Tickle fights during dating was fun, but when she found out how much I liked it, suddenly it wasn't fun for her anymore. Telling her, she reacted with anger, and for feet, she thought it was gross, which was sad. She had size 12 feet, very sexy. I could look but not touch. Part of why she's an ex now.
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So far I have been very lucky and very fortunate. I have not really gotten laughed at or poked fun of thank goodness. I mean I remember when a really good vanilla friend of ours found out that we loved tickling: loved to tickle and to be tickled-love tickling each other-she was not mean or cruel. Granted she at first could not understand it-kind of looked at both of us a bit strange but she was really nice and tried to be understanding. Yet still even then and even now-still very obvious-tickling is not her passion in life-not really her thing. But hey each their own. But I am sure that sometime in this lifetime-bear and I are going to run into true vanillas-that will find it perverted or bizarre or stupid or terrible.
But hey to me and bear we love tickling-it is a great passion for us, it is a way we enjoy and another way we love to be affectionate and show love and ways we flirt along with other ways we flirt-it fits for bear and me-we are happy to have this passion alive and well in our marriage. But yeah so far no bad responses but our good friend who is a vanilla-did look at us a bit strange-until we had to explain that all the tickling that is done btw him and me is consensual and agreed upon-that gatherings are a great place to get to know other people and make friends-share same love of tickling-not just about tickling-but talking and laughing and hanging out-getting to know each other-make friends. Once we explained this to her-once she realized there is rules and guidelines to follow at gatherings-she was a lot better about it-when she found out by us-not a free for all-rules that must be followed-all tickling or any physical contact always must be consensual and agreed upon.
Now she is more open to talking about tickling-sometimes we do chuckle or talk about it not a whole lot but some. Even a few times me and my really good friend who is a vanilla-we have had fun launching sneak tickle attacks on ticklebear 2 my hubby-when in the car and sometimes in public, a real brief tickle attack or when having a slumber party and hanging out-sneaking a tickle-she has snuck a tickle on my sides and ribs and tummy before-we have snuck a few little tickle attacks on her-very brief but fun.
So yeah generally speaking truly she is vanilla but she enjoys sneaking tickle attacks on bear and me at times for casual playful lighthearted fun, so that is fun but other than that-we don't press the isssue. She likes it ocassionally when sneaking tickles on us but other than that she is vanilla. But yeah when she first heard about it she was surprised and looked little strange at bear and me.
But hey to me and bear we love tickling-it is a great passion for us, it is a way we enjoy and another way we love to be affectionate and show love and ways we flirt along with other ways we flirt-it fits for bear and me-we are happy to have this passion alive and well in our marriage. But yeah so far no bad responses but our good friend who is a vanilla-did look at us a bit strange-until we had to explain that all the tickling that is done btw him and me is consensual and agreed upon-that gatherings are a great place to get to know other people and make friends-share same love of tickling-not just about tickling-but talking and laughing and hanging out-getting to know each other-make friends. Once we explained this to her-once she realized there is rules and guidelines to follow at gatherings-she was a lot better about it-when she found out by us-not a free for all-rules that must be followed-all tickling or any physical contact always must be consensual and agreed upon.
Now she is more open to talking about tickling-sometimes we do chuckle or talk about it not a whole lot but some. Even a few times me and my really good friend who is a vanilla-we have had fun launching sneak tickle attacks on ticklebear 2 my hubby-when in the car and sometimes in public, a real brief tickle attack or when having a slumber party and hanging out-sneaking a tickle-she has snuck a tickle on my sides and ribs and tummy before-we have snuck a few little tickle attacks on her-very brief but fun.
So yeah generally speaking truly she is vanilla but she enjoys sneaking tickle attacks on bear and me at times for casual playful lighthearted fun, so that is fun but other than that-we don't press the isssue. She likes it ocassionally when sneaking tickles on us but other than that she is vanilla. But yeah when she first heard about it she was surprised and looked little strange at bear and me.
