ever wonder why?

[primetime]

i just finished reading the thread where an all women's forum bashed tickling because they were "tortured" when they were young. now, these women have the right to voice their opinions, so i wont dwell on that. i also read Mitchell's post on that thread and it made me think.

why do people think a foot fetish or a tickle fetish is one of the most perverted things on Earth? i mean, if you admit you like feet, you could be seen as "weird" or a "freak". yet, people who like rubber bondage and hot candle wax poured on them are not villified the same way in the general population. even in the world of pro wrestling, they made a foot fetish seem like the weirdest thing ever.

for the life of me, i cant figure out why. tickling can be one of the most innocent sensations of all time. true, some of us like the sexual nature of it, but it can still be considered innocent. now i have a written a jillion stories about nonconsensual tickling, but in reality, i love the sensual side of tickling. i like to give women massages and add some tickling in it. not the all out brutal tickling, just a few strokes to get their nerves going and stimulate them into well, other activities....*wink wink*. that is my "reality" nature. i dont ever think i can go through with what i write in my stories.

so, have you ever wondered why something simple like tickling or a foot fetish is treated like the black plague?

 

[TMF Jeff]

I think there are always people judging what other people are into. There's a world full of people who think homosexuality is weird or wrong. Or anal sex between a man and a woman for that matter. Or any sex that isn't procreative. Or blowjobs.

I guess my question is, why do you think tickling/foot fetishism should be the exception to that rule? Why should we be any different than anyone else who has a particular preference that isn't everyone's cup of tea? 🙂

 

[tickled7]

We don't like foot fetishes in Canada because we're metric!

 

[primetime]

i understand other "fetishes" are criticized, but a guy, or woman, who loves "boobs", do not get ridiculed like a person who likes feet. i read Mitchell's post on the other thread and a question was asked "what are your fetishes?" now he told them what he liked and he was banned from the site? they claim it was a Christian forum, but why ask what fetishes people have? fetish is usually equated with sex, so if this is a Christian forum, you are going to admit something of a sexual nature. they treated him like crap and it made me wonder.

i just find that people getting villified or stereotyped as a "freak" because they like tickling is odd. most fetishes are sexual in nature, but tickling can be a "fetish" or an innocent form of touch. tickling isnt only sexual. compared to other "fetishes", tickling can be the most harmless type of fetish. i just dont get why people would call us "freaks".

 

[tiedandtickled]

Every fetish is weird or strange to someone. It is just personal preference. I do agree though that tickling is looked upon as weird more than other fetishes though. I was sooooo afraid to recently tell my hubby of 3 years, who I have children with that I liked to be tied and tickled. But every other fetish I have had no problem to tell him. Thankfuly he thought it was great, but there are sooooo many people who wouldn't. It is such a normal preference though (I think anyways). Our bodies were made to be ticklish, so it can't be that weird.

 

[vegasfootboy]

i agree,,

it does suck when a foot fetish is deemed perverse when more eclectic obsessions are accepted,, allthough i do have to say i have had more positive reactions then negative when i tell them about my foot and tickling fetish,,

most women say that its cute!,, or when i tell them about my foot fetish they get a look of excitement at the possibilities of it,, and with the tickling thing i hear from most women that it sounds " fun" or " exciting",, ive been alot more open with my fetish these last few years and have found that its nothing to be ashamed of,, of course you will get the negative response now and then but it is insignificant when compared to so many enthusiastic responses,,,

it always made sense to me that feet would be erotic,, there are so many nerves in which to stimulate so many sensations,, in the early 90s when i was on the love connection tv show chuck woolery asked me what i thought was the quickest way to a womans heart,,, when i answered " through her feet" every woman in the audiance errupted with thunderous applause!! they knew what i meant,, kinda cool moment actually,,

 

[TickleMeMya]

I worked at summer camp where it was forbidden to tickle to the young campers. The logic is that is was considered torture, just as much as slapping or shaking a child. Having been a child who was mecilessly tickled, I fully understand and support this policy. Forced laughing does not necessarily constitute enjoyment.

It wasn't until I was in an environment where the tickling was controlled that I could stop being afraid of being tickled and actually enjoy it. Whether tickling is torture or enjoyable for me has everything to do with whether or not I have control over how much is too much.

Primetime, I think the websites at which you were looking were addressing forced tickling in an environment that was not nurturing nor comfortable. Nonconsensual anything is never ok by my book.

 

[primetime]

Mya, how are you? long time no tickle.....i miss you sweet lady. i hope to have a session with you soon....

the funny thing about having a tickling fetish is a lot of us are afraid to admit our fetish to others. it is because of the "freak" stigma that some of us dont want to admit it. there are a few (well, not counting the thousands on this board) that even know of my tickling fetish. i am afraid that i will be looked at as "weird" or "perverted". i do tickle my female friends, but i do it in such a playful way, they never think that i am sexually excited about it. but i fear if i tell them, i will be looked at as 'weird". because of that possibility, that is why i wonder why we are labeled as "weird".

 

[Sultrybrunette]

It could be the fear of the unknown. People judge others for so many reasons out of the sexual realm. It does seem crazy with everything else that is out there but its what we like and are comfortable with, so with us its not crazy. I am sure people that are into other fetishes hear the same thing and wonder why also. Nice to know you have a softer side Prime 🙂

 

[tickled7]

I think people are afraid of the instant loss of control!

 

[drew70]

Laying aside for the moment the question of why Mitchell is posting in an all-women's forum, I think Mya hit the nail on the head. It sounds like these women were bashing nonconsensual tickling. When tickling a child, it's easy for it to become abusive, even when there is no malicious intent. Many are scarred for life, and regard tickling as nothing but abuse.

For me, as a child, I was constantly tickled by females far beyond the point of abuse. Some of us learn to adapt, and even embrace the overwhelming torture of prolonged tickling. Looking back, I wouldn't change a thing. 😀

 

[ViperGTS]

Because people are hypocritical, double-standard having bastards, that's why. Point blank.

What website was this that someone got banned from for saying the word tickle? lol. i wanna go sign up.

 

[TickledToDeath]

Peoples' lack of the RIGHT experiences, knowledge, understanding coupled with misinformation, misunderstanding, misdirection along with possible ignorance could very well contribute to the negativity.

 

[Silk]

Hmm.

I think it's rather simple; people commonly have a revultion towards feet, and to a lesser extent, tickling. A huge amount of the population dislike feet to the point of thinking them to be the most disgusting part of the body, and in turn, there are those that despise being tickled and those that have been abused with it in the past.

Imagine that you're completely ignorant of the world of fetishes and fixations, and something you despise is revealed to you as a turn-on to some people. Don't you think you would at least be shocked? Well, the "hate what they don't understand" type of people would go further than that and despise the notion of it and perhaps the very people that are into it.

We don't like foot fetishes in Canada because we're metric!

LOL

i just dont get why people would call us "freaks".

Perhaps it's just because you're a member of these particular fetishisms, and thus feel some sort of bond, linking, or perhaps even "bias" toward them, and that's what makes it hard to understand why other people would hate those particular interests?

The passage above seems like it could come off as condescending or insulting, so I'll make sure I rule that out right now: I mean no offense.

[ KoocheeKoo's post. Sorry, it's far too big to quote in full, though I did read it all ]

That...is absolutely terrible. People can be so, so stupid...wow, I don't even know what to say.

Uhh, trying to end on a slightly more positive note (and probably failing)...in summary, foot fetishes are widly hated upon because feet are considered ugly by the overwhelmingly large majority. As for tickling, some people hate it and some were tortured by it. Both of these have varying effects on peoples' judgments - some aren't highly phazed by it, but some are majorly swung by it, which is where the mass hate comes from, I think.

 

[Italian_Touch]

I am shocked about what happened to Koochikoo... but it is not hard to believe.
For some obscure reason it seems to me that even in BDSM communities tickling is referred many times as a "hard limit" and in few cases (do not remember where) there were threads just cursing at tickling as it is the worst plague of the world! Maybe if you do turn your fetish into a "life-style" and you do not assert it against the rest of the world 24/7 you are just not accepted and treated as a worm and on the other side if you do not keep it secret you are pointed as a perv.
So we are stuck in the middle... we are not enough kinky for somebody and just pervs for other ones... soo sad

 

[Italian_Touch]

I can't speak for Mitch, but I was banned from a weather/ stormchasing forum after answering a poll question titled: What are your fetishes?

The hypocritical SOB's who run that site only want their version of "wholesome christian men and women" as members.

I am probably hard, but I miss a point... so, if the site is SOOO family-oriented and spreading holy wisdom and light throughout hte net... what the hell of poll is that one?!?

What were the other responses? "I like to pop plastic bubbles"... "I eat cherries with vanilla ice-cream and I lick my fingers..."

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

I don't think that it's weird at all to have a tickle fetish as long as the tickling between two people or a group is fun and consentual without hurting someone else. I think that some people just don't understand why people, like us on TMF enjoy tickling so much. I mean it's a joyful and fun activity to do.

 

[Illtcklu]

I don't think that it's weird at all to have a tickle fetish as long as the tickling between two people or a group is fun and consentual without hurting someone else. I think that some people just don't understand why people, like us on TMF enjoy tickling so much. I mean it's a joyful and fun activity to do.

I agree but some think it's making pleasure into pain! That's not what this is about for me. If I'm the only one wanting to have fun then why don't I just jerk off or something! I would think if you made it unpleasent for a 'lee' then you'd probably lose a partner for future tickling - DUH!

 

[duannewalton]

Ya gotta love it... NOT!

I can certainly sympathize with KoocheeKoo. Several years ago, I was a prominent member of an e-mail group (where "EVERYONE was welcomed") that was reduced to an outcast when I had the audacity to post some messages that the "tolerant and open minded" moderators did not approve of. I wasn't banned, but I was shunned and virtually every post I made was ignored. The few that did interact with me didn't speak up for whatever reason. On this group, anyone could post their problems and recieve what they called "pozzy thoughts" from the members. I requested "pozzy thoughts" for my niece and recieved only two. I was stressed out and (accidently) lashed out on the list. My inbox was flooded with private messages sending me "best wishes" from members that "would've responded sooner if only [insert excuse here]."
I'm still on the list, I just never post anymore. They never ran me off and the list has died with a whimper instead of a bang, so I consider it a moral victory.
But anyway...
T/A= normal. Feet and tickling= fetish.
Maybe if we were in the majority, the T/A people would be the sickos and freaks.

 

[Butterfly wings]

It's the nature of it. Some people are going to like your fetish and think that it's ok and cute and accept it and maybe even let you try it out on them. Or they will be negative towards it and shut you off and turn away from it and put you down often because of it.

Open minded people are far more clear minded and thinking and kind hearted towards people with fetishes (NOT just a tickling fetish/foot fetish). That is the kind of people in this world that i like to interact with and talk to are ones that are OPEN MINDED and NON Judging.

 

[Butterfly wings]

It's an example of power crazed religious hypocrites who happen to loathe the fetish I have.

It is not just Religious folks. Come on now. It's people ingeneral. Close narrow minded people ingeneral.

I'm a Christian. And you don't see me going around saying '' All you people are going to hell for having a fetish for tickling/feet''

 

[Italian_Touch]

It is not just Religious folks. Come on now. It's people ingeneral. Close narrow minded people ingeneral.

I'm a Christian. And you don't see me going around saying '' All you people are going to hell for having a fetish for tickling/feet''

I do agree. Religion is not involved in that. Narrow minded, depressed/repressed people might take it as an excuse because it is just easy and they are confident that there will be someone ready to applause them.

I am Christian too and I don't feel bad about fetishism.